Posts by umadevi

i am sure most of you miss the sense of security regarding the future that the organisation offers- the certainty of everlasting life in the paradise earth, being healed and the confidence that you will definitely see your loved ones again if you remained faithful.

but why did you pursue a course of life that had suddenly turned everything into a fable?.

i have pity for you all.. .

umadevi

Honestly speaking, I never felt any sense of security while I was a JW. Instead I only felt fear of everything - my daily activities, my JW friends and even when I worshipped Jehovah. How can I feel secured for the future when I was taught only to fear and doubt everything in present system?

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What was the weirdest thing ever said to you as a JW?

by falseprophet in

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i was about 8-10 years old and twice i had people tell me that i should not pioneer but to go to bethel because i "was governing body material".. one was a co and another a do.. i didn't even believe in god, never have so that makes it weird!.

what wierd things were told?.

umadevi

One sister insisted that I should keep WTS books near my bedside to keep demons away!

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BIRTHDAYS ARE IMPORTANT!!!

by minimus in

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and today's mine..

umadevi

Happy Birthday Minimus!

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Friends, where have I gone wrong as a mother?

by umadevi in

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first of all i 'm sorry my english is not very good.. i am feeling very low at this point.

i am a single mother working full time.

i have a 9 year son.

umadevi

Skeeter1 - you mentioned that my son could be sick of having this little girl over my place. It may be one of the reasons too. thank you for pointing it out. I will talk with my son and find out. For now all he is saying is that he didn't mean to hurt her.

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Friends, where have I gone wrong as a mother?

by umadevi in

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first of all i 'm sorry my english is not very good.. i am feeling very low at this point.

i am a single mother working full time.

i have a 9 year son.

umadevi

Okay the recent developments - My friend (with her daughter) came over to talk about what has happened. I did not hide any facts from her. I also admitted that there was no excuse for my son's behaviour. My son apologised to the little girl. My friend decided not make it a big issue for which I can only be grateful.

Friends, some of your comments have made me see the seriousness of the situation. Yes I agree this not something to be overlooked. There may be alot of anger in him than that he is showing. I will take my son to a counsellor. I also agree that he needs a male role-model. I have called and talked to his dad regarding this matter. His dad will be here in few days time. He has agreed to talk to our son.

Getting him involved in martial arts sound like a good idea. I never thought of this and I believe that this might help him to build a stong self confidence. I also agree that that he needs to socialize more. Thank you all for helping me deal with this situation. All this is new to me as I was an only child to my parents.

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Friends, where have I gone wrong as a mother?

by umadevi in

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first of all i 'm sorry my english is not very good.. i am feeling very low at this point.

i am a single mother working full time.

i have a 9 year son.

umadevi

JWdaughter - seeing a counsellor sounds good but I feel it's uneccessary since this is the first time he acted like this.

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Friends, where have I gone wrong as a mother?

by umadevi in

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first of all i 'm sorry my english is not very good.. i am feeling very low at this point.

i am a single mother working full time.

i have a 9 year son.

umadevi

I just had a talk with my son. He is saying that she started the problem while they were playing cards. She was cheating on the game repeatedly and he got angry. He said that he used the knife just to scare her and that he truly has no intention of hurting her. I think he watched it some movies.

ziddina - I think you are right about the games and the movies. I will have to check out his friends too. I am sure the problem is not his dad as he left the scene when my son was 2 years old. He was never violent.

My son has never displayed this kind of behaviour before. He is very kind to animals. He even feeds stray dogs in my neighbourhood at times. What worries me is that I have read in JW mags ( I can't remember which year) that kids from broken homes are more inclined to get involved in violence and crimes. I thought the article was an exageration but after what happened today, I am not so sure.

There is something else too. His dad contacts him a few times a year and visits once or twice yearly. I have always taught my son to respect his dad. Recently he (my son) said that he feels his Dad doesn't truly love him otherwise Dad would make more efforts to visit him, to come and see him play sports. I have tried to explain that he his dad is a busy man but my son is not convinced. He goes like 'My friends daddies are also busy with their work but they are always make time for the kids, why not my Dad? He is not being fair!'

Could this be one of the cause for his behaviour?

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Friends, where have I gone wrong as a mother?

by umadevi in

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first of all i 'm sorry my english is not very good.. i am feeling very low at this point.

i am a single mother working full time.

i have a 9 year son.

umadevi

First of all I 'm sorry my English is not very good.

I am feeling very low at this point. I am a single mother working full time. I have a 9 year son. I take him to my office when I work. My boss is a kind lady and allows me to keep him at office (he has a room of his own in office). He is a well behaved boy and liked by everyone. He is intelligent and does well in his school. We are close. I have always been proud of him and have prided myself on being a good mother. Until today.

My friend sent her daughter (she's 9 too and happens to be a friend of my son) to my place (home) as she was going out for the day. This has happened many times before. I don't mind taking care of the little girl as she is a well behaved kid too. So I cooked lunch for the 3 of us and later we played cards. I was feeling drowsy so I let them continue playing. I went to my room and took a short nap. Within minutes the my friend's daughter came running to my room screaming. I tried to calm her while calling out for my son. He came to my room and stood quietly. The girl told me that while they were playing they had some minor misunderstanding and as a result my 9 year old son lost his temper. He went to the kitchen and came back with a knife and put it to her throat! I was so shocked at hearing this and demanded my son for an explanation but he remains quiet. He is in his room now. I am at loss, don't know how to handle this situation.

What should I do? Have I failed as a mother?