Are elders or CO acting as Paul did?
It's not the answer I suspect you're hoping for but from my observation, yes, very definitely, they are.
This is one of the things I notice here. Many posters write from what I'm sure is their own direct experience of abuses and appallingly hypocritical behaviour by elders.
Yet my admittedly limited and recent experience of them is exactly the opposite. I can't fault them. In spite of individual human imperfections, I can't fault the conduct of the local congregation in general.
Nor can I find the hypocrisy and abuses of privilege written about here in any of the congregations of which I have direct knowledge in my area. Believe me, I've looked. I observe.
So all I can say is, I can only speak as I find, but I must say that for the sake of honesty and balance. A closed mind set in negative mode would be just as bad as relgious indoctrination, don't you think?