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  Halloween / Birthday celebration

  by River Song in

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  new to the board, first time posting a topic.

  i just wanted to say how refreshing and sometimes funny it has been lurking here.

  so much so that i decided to sign up to this message board.

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  Peony

  Hi River

  We're having fun too.......it's my hubbys birthday today as well. This is our first year doing Halloween. Bit weird how excited I get when the doorbell goes, used to hide away!!!! Enjoy your evening x
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  New member checking in

  by Old Major in

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  been reading for about 2 and a half years, thought i would take the plunge and sign up.. my circumstances... i live in uk, serving as ms. i am fully awake.

  i can not leave due to family, so just treating the meetings as a bit of a social club.

  i would like to give out more details, but i think you all know the drill.. complete disillusionment and i suppose natural curiosity woke me up.. don't know what else to say right now, just hello, and i hope to get to know some of you guys better.

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  Peony

  Hello Old Major

  Welcome. I must say your tactic sounds like a good one, best of luck.

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  My Mother Died Two Weeks Ago

  by Perry in

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  none of my jehovah's witness relatives called to tell me or my family.

  just found out this morning.

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  How very sad, where is their fellow feeling? I'm glad your last memory of your mum was a positive one. I'm sure she would have wanted them to tell you straight away. Sending love to your family x
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  Religious Non-Profits Alaska No Longer Tax Exempt?

  by blondie in

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  http://www.alaskahighwaynews.ca/dawson-creek/churches-non-profits-worry-about-changes-to-property-tax-exemptions-1.2071538.

  the city currently exempts 2.19 per cent of its annual tax revenues, a total of around $318,000 in foregone income.

  a policy brought forward by city staff would cap exemptions at one per cent of revenues, or around $159,299.

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  Peony

  "Representitives from eight religious groups packed Council Chambers". Funny that they're happy to join forces with other religions when it comes to money!
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  A question for the shunned re: hide or seek

  by dubstepped in

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  so here's my question as a newly daed person that is summarily shunned.

  do you hide from family and act like you don't exist or do you let them know you're still here and seek them out?

  they want you to be dead, like you no longer exist, because strict avoidance makes it easier on them.

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  Peony

  Hi Dubstepped

  We DA'd in March and decided that it is not us that has changed so we sent an anniversary card to my husbands parents, of course on our anniversary we received nothing! We did feel though that we had the higher ground. I understand you not wanting to cause upset (it was something we worried about too) ultimately they are being told that shunning is right and as long as they have no contact they will think doing the 'right thing' is not so bad. We want to remind them that we are still here, it might not be easy for them but it also might help them wake up. We decided to always write 'we are always here for you' on everything we send. A friend of ours who left JW's and was an elder at the time left because he shunned someone face to face and felt so bad about it. Those still in may be mind controlled but they are still human and if faced with having to shun or not reply to cards etc we can hope the human side will win. Xx
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  They're coming to get me! =)

  by Mrs. Eden in

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  hello friends.

  my fleshy sister is seriously getting to my nerves.

  she's my only (and younger) sister, and as you know, is married to an uber-circuit overseer.

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  Peony

  I was depressed when i stopped going to meetings, when family asked I used to say that the meetings were hard for me because I'd go and be 'encouraged' to do more meetings/field service and as at that point I was struggling to get out of bed the meetings made me feel so guilty....... Kept that going for 2 years then DA'd x
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  Education is 'HARD', first test after 27 years

  by The Marvster in

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  well, in an effort to completely rebel against all things 'watchtower', i decided that since i gave all my years since leaving school to the borg, and listened to their admonition to avoid 'higher education' i have just started... right from bottom.... today i took a 2 hour maths test to see if i would be eligible to go on a course to re-take my gcse maths exam (this is the qualification you study for here in england in the last 2 years of compulsory schooling from ages 14-16).

  back in may 1988 i did no revision, and didn't study hence a complete flop of all exams.... and seeing that 'education' wasn't on the agenda back then, and has always been warned against, (unless it was perhaps trade oriented) it was wiped from my mind... yep a jw mind-wipe occurred here, i've decided to go back to school, just for the challenge of it, f**k the org, i might have wasted decades swallowing their philosophy, but i don't have to let that past control me now... the test was 'really' hard going... and i don't think i passed, but can still get on a more basic course to start me off if i don't get on the main course.... the tutors were so warm and enthusiastic about me taking up the study at aged 43, it was so nice to hear someone get excited that i'm going to study (never in 29 years with the borg) .

  i've also learned something else; jw's talk about the 'highest education' that the watchtower supposedly teaches... bullshit, that 'call and response' crap that you do in watchtower study and other meetings, that parroting, has got to be the lowest form of education there is, you don't use your brain, you don't have to analyse or think or deduce or calculate, or use savvy... it's just call and response, and nothing more, pure repetition, answer what's in the paragraph.

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  First thing I did when I stopped going to meetings was enrol with The Open University on a bookkeeping course. Like you 'The Marvster' I had shocking school results but didn't care (after all I was going to get a job cleaning and pioneer)! I found I loved studying the course when I got in the swing of things but then I suppose my attitude to education had changed. Good luck and keep going you will feel a great sense of achievement. I'm also in the UK near Oxford. X
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  Done.....done done done....

  by dubstepped in

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  my wife and i just found out that our disassociation was announced last night.

  we....are...free!.

  i'd like to take a moment to thank some people:.

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  Peony

  I bet you slept like babies, the sense of relief for hubby and me was immense and now no one can talk to you you'll never have to deal with their games! We've found it much easier losing family when there is a complete break and you have no idea what they are up to. Much love to you both x
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  How many of you left the Org since 2015?

  by Paul Bonanno in

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  i have noticed that many lately have left the org or are in the process of leaving.

  how many of you have left since 2015?.

  this month will be my 21 years out of the org into the road of freedom.

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  Peony

  I DA'd March 2015 x
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  The Paranormal

  by Peony in

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  i'm interested to know if anyone has been to see a medium/clairvoyant since leaving jw's.

  i must admit now i can make my own choices i seem to have a fascination with it although haven't acted on it as a) am i just jumping into believing another load of rubbish?

  and b) what if it really is the demons pretending to be loved ones!!

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  Peony

  Love all the comments thanks, think I'm going to concentrate on the here and now and have fun xxx