Je.suis.oisif

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  Question about an elder and if I am crazy

  by life is to short in

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  2. child-abuse

  ok so i have a question.

  i was a very, very true believer until i saw the child molesters in my hall and how that whole thing was handled.. my husband is older than i am and had been an elder for 12 when we married.

  so fast forward to 06, we are in a hall where i thought all the elders were ok at the worst and great at the best.

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  Je.suis.oisif

  Wow, unbelievable! Almost choked over my breakfast cereal reading your OP!

  I've experienced similar & also observed same! Just bat s**t crazy. You need to take control & set clear & defined boundaries. Your husband needs to step up here. You'll need to devise a plan & support each other. You might be depressed. I thought I was. I've realised since turning my back on this goon show that I was suffering from the trauma of life events. Their duplicitous lives, managing their privelges in the congn was, well a TOTAL MIND F**K. It upended me mentally. I was always in a state of emotional flux for 32yrs. My esteem was dependent on how I was treated in the congn by the elders. I don't miss this. My poor nonJW hubby must have had many WTAF moments throughout all these years. Part of your problem is your husbands non-support in all of this. You don't mention this in your OP which is why I arrive at this conclusion.

  Please be kind to yourself. I've just been suggested a book that will help me. It's by some one called Beck, first name totally gone. It's called " Find Your Own North Star ". Some wise bods on here tell us " they're only men, they only possess the power we allow them to have ", or something along these lines.
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  RIP dad, who introduced me to this fairytail of everlastin life and paradise :(

  by Frezia in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  less than 5 hours ago my great dad fell asleep the last time :( still in a bit of a shock and sad that i will not see him again...i promised myself that once he is here no more, i will somehow make my move out of this organisation who kept us all captive believing in a fantasy of an everlasting life :( i am in a tricky situation, since raised as jw, still in, married to an active jw, and pretty sure that all in my social and family circle will turn their backs on me if i finally say goodbye to a fairytail ;(.

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  Je.suis.oisif

  Frezia, condolences. Take your time. Don't make any rash decisions whilst your grief is so raw. One day at a time until things become clearer. You will emerge from the FOG ( fear, obligation & guilt).
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  Farewell

  by WITNESS-FOR-WATCHTOWER-REFORM in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  due to unforeseen circumstances, i need to say goodbye.

  proverbs 14:16 nlt.

  i have every faith that the governing body of jehovah's witnesses will bring about needed change very soon given the continuous pressure they face.

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  Je.suis.oisif

  Should've made it clearer that I wast3d 32yrs of my life. I had a major wobble 14yrs ago.

  I hope the future sorts itself out for you though. Please take care & live well.
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  Farewell

  by WITNESS-FOR-WATCHTOWER-REFORM in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  due to unforeseen circumstances, i need to say goodbye.

  proverbs 14:16 nlt.

  i have every faith that the governing body of jehovah's witnesses will bring about needed change very soon given the continuous pressure they face.

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  Je.suis.oisif

  I was in your position 14yrs ago. Had embarked on a second career because I was young enough. Catalyst presented itself that caused me to return. I realised that nothing had changed. I was held at arms' length for these 14yrs. Be very careful. These men do not represent " A God ". You're delusional.

  RESULT:- 14yrs wasted. Gave up job that would've carried me into old age. Now I'm 60 and there's no market for me approaching pension age. I fell cheated, & I was a nobody in the org. I was always made to feel a nobody.
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  When you were fully in, did you believe that you would not die?

  by TTWSYF in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i know that it must seem silly to ask, but my brother and his family think that the big a will arrive before they die.

  i tried to explain to my brother that everyone else who has ever lived in the past has died and only jesus has [physically] rose from the dead.. it is amazing that anyone could buy that line.

  what crazy cult culture that could make people believe such nonsense?!.

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  Je.suis.oisif

  Nope, and I got some funny responses from the "glazed eye brigade".

  In the 32yrs that I struggled on, it just didn't sit right with my whole being. I convinced myself that I'd die before the big A? Then I'd be ressurected into the new system. That was the only way my brain could rationalise the hype.

  I'm at this moment in time undergoing some major emotional maturing. At 60, I feel strange dealing with emotions & thought processes that should've been put to bed by now.

  Watch this, I'll finally calm down & it will be goodnight Vienna.
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  VERTIGO: 'My head is moving through space where, in reality, it is not.'

  by compound complex in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  greetings, fellow posters:.

  wishing you well and offering my sympathy if you've ever experienced vertigo.

  my neighbor is a physical therapist and told me about the epley maneuver, which i am now researching.. have you ever been through this hell of total incapacitation?.

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  Je.suis.oisif

  CoCo,

  I've never experienced this. My youngest daughter suffers from me and has had several bouts which has resulted in her being hospitalized.

  Nothing to add, except good wishes for your recovery.
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  Is this an "all-time" Low?

  by Je.suis.oisif in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i just wanted to vent, nothing more.

  my aunt died in edinburgh last week.

  her obituary facilitates adding candles & personal messages.

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  Je.suis.oisif

  Thank you from the bottom of my heart. You've all made my heart lighter with your responses.
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  Pioneer afraid to meet with elders commits suicide

  by poopie in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  they were afraid he would be df for something they did do instead of faceing possibility of being shunned commited suicide.

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  Je.suis.oisif

  Ironically, since fading, I no longer entertain thoughts about topping myself. I personally believe this life is all you get. Better make the best of it then.
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  Is this an "all-time" Low?

  by Je.suis.oisif in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i just wanted to vent, nothing more.

  my aunt died in edinburgh last week.

  her obituary facilitates adding candles & personal messages.

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  Je.suis.oisif

  DOC, my aunt is not a JW. All my aunt's family & extended family are RC. Sorry I didn't make this clear. It seems as if the message has been added anonymously. And if it is another form of witnessing, then it's up there with letter sending & counting time IMHO.
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  Is this an "all-time" Low?

  by Je.suis.oisif in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i just wanted to vent, nothing more.

  my aunt died in edinburgh last week.

  her obituary facilitates adding candles & personal messages.

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  Je.suis.oisif

  Hi,

  I just wanted to vent, nothing more. My aunt died in Edinburgh last week. Her Obituary facilitates adding candles & personal messages. On her page is a message of deepest symathy with 2 scriptures that could've come right out of the Reasoning Book under the subject of death. Now I know I'm only speculating here, but it's a gut feeling, and being a faded JW it kind of leaps off the page at me.

  Has anyone else knowledge of this type of informal witnessing. If it is what I think it is. It just grates my carrot :÷(