Posts by Mimilly

i even made it okay through the first section of the wt comment that, "we abhor molestation..." but when chung got to the part of their comment that said something to the effect of "we provide counseling and emotional support to victims," i nearly spilled my tea on my cat.

i replayed this segment alot, and noticed that the reaction of bill and the two ladies to that section was that they were just as shocked as i was.

Mimilly

GAWD! I can't believe they have resorted to this depth of deception! How many have died because they were 'counselled' NOT to seek wordly therepy? I know I was definitely looked down on when I saw a shrink.

Bloody bastards. It will be interesting when someone backs them into a corner on this one in front of a camera!

They must be living in the twilight zone.

Mimilly

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robdar,,,has surgery today!!!

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robdar has knee surgery today,,,just wanted to wish her the best!!

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hope all is going well,,,,and you recover fast...hugs to you

Mimilly

Robyn - hope you recover quickly. Lotsa hugs to you hon.

Mimilly

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Hugs to Beck.... on today give her your support

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dearest beck,, so sorry to hear that today was the day 15 yrs ago of your loss.

i remember you told me about this in an email and i cant imagine the pain you must be feeling on this day.

my mother committed suicide on september 15, 1985 and that day always brings up the pain as if it were yesterday.

Mimilly

((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((beck)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

take care of yourself hon

Mimilly

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Abuse survivers - how did you recover?

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i have read some heart rending stories here about abuse.

some have commented on their recovery, but many have not.

i am very interested as to what helped you get over a terrible experience.

Mimilly

Larc - this is totally different for each abused individual. I had a man (at the time) who was incredibly supportive, did research etc. He proved that not all men are scum.

When I was having flashbacks, I could not tell him from my father. I had to learn that he was NOT my father.

My mother is a man-basher from the word go due to being severely beaten for 25 years. I didn't want to turn out with her hatred. Not only did I want to change regarding what my father did to me, I also wanted to change some of the attitudes my mother taught me. I, therefor, have taken to seeing people as individuals, and this helps tremendously. No comparisons.

The result is that I love men - I don't hate them. Hating takes up way too much of my energy and I need every bit of wattage I can muster.

I was also abused by a woman - not my mother. I realized early on that individuals abuse - not a generalization of peoples or gender.

I hope this answers your question. I can only speak for myself.

hugs, Mimilly

For Syndromology

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hi again syndromology - hmmmm, can't shorten that to syn cos that's the nick of another person here... oh well.

you asked how you can email without showing your email.

my email is open, and by emailing me, i will then have your email addy, and will never give it out to anyone.

Mimilly

Hi again Syndromology - hmmmm, can't shorten that to Syn cos that's the nick of another person here... oh well.

You asked how you can email without showing your email. My email is open, and by emailing me, I will then have your email addy, and will never give it out to anyone.

For those who's profiles show such addys - this is how you contact them.

Hope this helps. Hope to hear from you.

Mimilly

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Abuse survivers - how did you recover?

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i have read some heart rending stories here about abuse.

some have commented on their recovery, but many have not.

i am very interested as to what helped you get over a terrible experience.

Mimilly

Larc - hon, I believe 'recovered' is too strong a word. Anyone who has gone through abuse lives with it for the rest of their lives. (hence my thread on triggers - "Please..")

What DID help me was alot of reading, and putting myself in the hospital where I had a safe place to let it all out. I was a cutter. My second husband was absolutely wonderful about it and supported me through too many long nights to count.

Support, validation, respect and patience. A listening ear who cares. Learning how to feel, to get angry and then to get angry without distruction. Learning to cry. Learning that you ARE a good person and WHY. Learning to take care of yourself vs neglecting needs: physical, emotional and spiritual. Learning to reach out.

These days I am treated for depression and anxiety. (my fight or flight response got stuck 'on' due to the past) I also have alot of pain. I still cannot sleep most nights.

It's an ongoing process that you deal with layer by layer by layer and day in and day out. One never 'gets over' it. And I drew a line in the proverbial sand - I will not give up. (there are many days I would like to) But I will not put my girls through that. I want to make a difference, not just repeat the same ol crap. That's the driving force behind my growth - making a difference, a postive one.

hugs, Mimilly

ps: I wish abuse survivors got paid by the hour for the inner work they must do!

Edited by - Mimilly on 15 August 2002 9:56:33

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