Posts by millie210

Drearyweather?
Taking blood is not a direct disfellowshipping offense.
Following are the two policies:
1. If someone takes blood willingly and is not repentant, he is termed as disassociated.
2. If someone takes blood under extreme pressure, he is given counsel.

If anyone has the most recent elders manual, this is exactly how they play it now. Heavy emphasis "lovingly counsel and forgive" (their words not mine) those who did it under duress and weakness and are now SORRY (repentant).

They are in the process of backing away from their blood policy. They are not going to apologize or release new directives. Rather, they are just going to be very quiet and "forgive" people until the generation that knew it die off. It is being phased out and the children and grandchildren of the 30 something year old JWs will look at it as "the old ways', the same as older JWs now view organ transplants and vaccines.

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On and off again JW girlfriend

by Crzysin in

hello everyone, i have an on and off again ex who is a jw.

each time her family gets involved and she's gone again.

i'm debating biting the bullet and doing the work to become baptized, so we can follow through with our engagement.

millie210

You sound like an easy going likeable guy.

I worry for you that the rules and regs once you are baptized would eat you alive.

I had one other thought. Your child you are raising with ex, give some thought to how this would impact her. She would have two extremely different lifestyles to have to move between.

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Affected by assembly

by Saltheart Foamfollower in

hi - first some context - i have been pimo for about 20 years now and so have been to a lot of assemblies in that time.

last weekend i went to a circuit assembly and for the first time afterwards i was able to talk directly to someone who knows i'm out.

i realised then that although i didn't agree with any teachings (i sat picking holes in the arguements as usual) the experience of being there had affected me - the way of life started feeling normal as did the overall way of viewing the world.

millie210

I havent been to an assembly in 4 years but the last one I was at I did feel the wave of nostalgia sweep over me.

I though about it a lot after and came to the conclusion that it is very similar to the feeling I get if I hear "White Christmas" while at my local coffee shop in December. The frosty air, the enticing smells, all take me to a certain place in my brain.

Likewise, the standing at an assembly during a song, seeing everyone singing, thinking of how much history I share with them, all takes me to a long remembered place.

But!

Remember that illustration in (Live Forever book?) about the candy dropped in the gutter and how you wouldnt want to eat it?

That illustration applies 100% to the words and thoughts that come pouring out through that microphone at assemblies.

Then what comes to my mind is all the good people wrongly DFd by harsh elders applying their "opinions" willy nilly over others lives. I think about all the dead, who cannot sing anything, because they tried to adhere to the teachings on blood that are imposed on them.

Their teachings are from the gutter and the feelings and the music and the companionship are the brightly wrapped candy.

Thank you writing committee for that wonderful illustration!

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How to "turn the tables" on still-in witness who pry about our status.

by stuckinarut2 in

jw
friends

so many of us have had (perhaps well-meaning) jws ask us questions about our inactivity, or lack of attendance at meetings.

they may pry about why..... how is this for a simple, yet straight to the point response?

to a sincere person, it may play on their mind and make them ask more questions.

millie210

I guess you begin with the end in mind.

It will NEVER matter what you say...reason and logic will not penetrate.

You see, they are on the side of the "Almighty" as defined for them by a religion. Implicitly built in to that is their "rightness".

So you just say what will make you feel the best going forward.

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April 2018 Broadcast - normal weird stuff

by Listener in

we hear a story regarding the life of thomas and emma.

she states that "when thomas and i first learnt that i was pregnant, we were both really shocked" she doesn't explain why they were both really shocked but it seems an odd reaction unless they were using the safest contraception invented or hadn't been told about the bird and the bees.two experiences that touched the heart of gb sanderson were as follows -.

in russia a jw was jailed for 6 months, the jailers did everything to try to undermine his faith, which included violence.

millie210

Arent/Werent some of the top brass at Coke JWs?

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How do you deal with the loneliness after leaving?

by Whynot in

jw
friends

i'm having one of those days where i feel lonely and wish i had someone to just hang out with.

my husband got disfellowshipped 3 years ago and even though i didn't do anything wrong i was pushed away.

my so called "friends" decided to avoid me.

millie210

Hi Whynot,

You mentioned that your sons are autistic. I noticed recently that the local library is offering a story hour for children with sensory issues.

Weighted pillows and quilts and books for example. A slower quieter pace while reading etc.

You might want to check it out in your area. That can be another way to get out and meet people just through engaging in a group activity.

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God wipes out humans/wickedness in Noah's Flood but somehow wickedness returns

by RULES & REGULATIONS in

genesis 6: 9-139 this is the account of noah and his family.noah was a righteous man, blameless among the people of his time, and he walked faithfully with god.

10 noah had three sons: shem, ham and japheth.11 now the earth was corrupt in god’s sight and was full of violence.12 god saw how corrupt the earth had become, for all the people on earth had corrupted their ways.

13 so god said to noah, “i am going to put an end to all people, for the earth is filled with violence because of them.

millie210

And dont forget the incest!

(Lot and his daughters.)

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Roll Call for the benefit of Newbies and Lurkers. In One Sentence tell why you left the Org.

by Wasanelder Once in

roll call for the benefit of newbies and lurkers.

in one sentence tell why you left the org.

not 2 sentences.

millie210

I saw a massive miscarriage of justice, just knew it would be corrected by the "higher ups" and found I was completely wrong - about everything.

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Memorial

by whatisthis12 in

so i’ve been dating my boyfriend for over a year.

he left the jehovah witness community and we have been living together for one year.

he hasn’t kept in contact with his family because he was disfellowshipped and hasn’t gone to any meetings.

millie210

Hi whatisthis,

welcome to the forum. Given the variety of folks here there will always be someone with helpful info.

You said in your opening post that you had been dating him for over a year. What did he do last year about this event?