millie210

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  Advice from you to non jw

  by Salley in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i am not a jw, but know a jw family.

  seem very loving and happy.

  i have come to know the religion and have researched via this site,youtube, reddit etc.

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  millie210

  In this religion you must act happy lest you be viewed as not faithful enough. This leads to a perfunctory pleasant facade that is quite pleasing to look upon at first glance.

  It is superficial though and there is a lot of sadness and anxiety lurking under the surface.

  Think of this religion as an iceburg floating on the oceans surface. There is what you see (sometimes quite majestic and beautiful) and then there is what is underneath, the larger, more jagged part.

  This is the part that the public does not know about. You can learn about that large mass of convoluted teachings here on this site though if you are interested.

  Glad you are here.
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  wifibandit - are you out there?

  by ttdtt in

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  2. friends

  has anyone heard for wifibandit?it has been months since he last posted..

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  millie210

  Such a polite and informative poster.

  Miss you wi!
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  suicide

  by zeb in

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  who among us has known a jw who has committed suicide.

  i believe this as a separate subject has not been covered..

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  millie210

  If I had a terminal diagnosis, I would take control of the "when" in my own way. But I dont consider that suicide.

  I have only known one JW personally that committed suicide. It was a woman and it was due to the pain caused by gossip.
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  My dad RIP

  by ScottyRex in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  my dad died 2 weeks ago on sunday.

  i will miss him so much.

  he was the funniest most greatest man i have ever known.. granted for the first 30 years i wasnt that much keen on him and i don't think he was on me much either.....let me explain.. mum and dad met in 1964, mum was the prettiest girl in the town, mini skirts, raised hair, the daintiest figure, she looked the spit of audrey hepburn at breakfast at tiffanys.

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  millie210

  Thank you for sharing from your heart to ours Scott.

  I love that you got those last precious days with your father, caring for him. Im sure that meant a lot to you both.

  Much love to you and your family.
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  Is he interested?

  by Sunnybear in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  i met a wonderful man on match.com several months ago.

  on our first date, there was amazing chemistry and we ended up having sex.

  it was not planned, it just happened.

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  millie210

  dubstepped
  You're going to fall for his crap, aren't you? You're going to marry a wannabe stalker that is also a wannabe cultist, aren't you? You're still asking questions, aren't you? You get what you deserve. You were warned.

  Yes she is. That was pretty clear in her original post.
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  Above the Fog, Below the Snow

  by compound complex in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i live in the sierra nevada foothills of california; a selling point for prospective homeowners in the slightly lower elevation is what is touted in the subject title.

  well, right now we are being blasted by a storm barreling down from canada, with hazardous driving and blizzard conditions in the offing, higher up.. as to fog, this photo offers a rare display of misty conditions over our lake, that after the last major rain storm.

  it reminds me of summer days of my youth on the pacific coast..

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  millie210

  That fog on the lake picture is stunning. Thank you so much for sharing it CoCo
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  Is he interested?

  by Sunnybear in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  i met a wonderful man on match.com several months ago.

  on our first date, there was amazing chemistry and we ended up having sex.

  it was not planned, it just happened.

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  millie210

  The way you described your connection that you felt with this guy in the opening post sounds as though you think what you have with him is magical.

  I think you will follow it based on that and you will be severely hurt.

  I wish you could run away but that would take more control than most people have.

  I am so sorry for you because I can see the ending and it is going to be bad.

  I know this post sucks. Reality can be so very harsh
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  Im Writing An Ex-JW Self Help Book

  by pale.emperor in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  we all know waking up from the cult and trying to leave is a very scary and life changing experience.

  for many it's traumatic and few find the transition easy.

  we have to deal with families cutting us off entirely or keeping us at arms length at best, lies being told about us by the organization, ex members gossiping about us and finding ourselves in a world very different from what we're prepared for.. for this reason, i've decided to start writing a self-help book informing jws of what to expect when they leave the org.

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  millie210

  You have a clear and relatable style.

  You are the perfect one to write a book!
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  Did You Ever Find The Theolgy of JWs Reasonable?

  by minimus in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  when i was a young man growing up in the religion, i would try to defend whatever the understanding of a doctrine was.

  i won a lot of arguments based on the idea that i knew better than anyone i was talking to and defended myself admirably.

  (lol)....eventually, i realized i was in a cult but for many years i was a believer and i had faith that the gb knew more that i could understand..

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  millie210

  I always felt intuitively that the doctrine was incredibly strict.

  I would look at nature (human and animal) and see such a relaxed and accepting way about things. It was always hard to rationalize that the Creator of that was the same one originating all the harsh and exacting rules of the Org.

  That was the biggest problem for me. Such a contrast. It seemed there were two different personalities, from the way life appeared and the way JWs described God and what he wanted from mankind, with all the attention to little tiny rules.
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  Marriage Proposal in the Kingdom Hall

  by Listener in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  just when you think you've seen it all comes another interesting use of a kingdom hall.a young man serenades his girlfriend with a song (possibly a watchtower song) from the stage through a microphone and backed by recorded music.

  then he steps off the stage and gets down on one knee and proposes as he pulls out a ring from his coat pocket.

  the large projector screen flashes up behind them with a picture of a sapphire and diamond ring.cameras capture the joyous moment as she accepts and they lock together in a loving hug.

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  millie210

  I think that is the point Steve,

  No one wishes the young couple anything but the best but the double standard of what the Kingdom Hall can be used for and not used for strikes a chord in any of us who grew up under the super strict rules of music and behaviors allowed in the Hall.