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update on vicki boer

by needs_lots in

hello to all my friends,.

i havent been around much lately, and i'am almost scared to post.

i came on to give everyone a big hello and to tell everyone whats been going on in my life this past year.. mostly ive been trying to put together a normal life after the lawsuit.

needs_lots

ok no more justifying! LOL Guess i posted too quick

vic

Its a hard world always trying to explain things to people who clearly running on emotions alone. One day people will just get it!!!!!!!!

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update on vicki boer

by needs_lots in

hello to all my friends,.

i havent been around much lately, and i'am almost scared to post.

i came on to give everyone a big hello and to tell everyone whats been going on in my life this past year.. mostly ive been trying to put together a normal life after the lawsuit.

needs_lots

one other thing...

This is a criminal trial, so Iam not going after him for money. It is out of my hands.

This has not been a walk in the park. Why do people think it must be easy for me? Like I have no feelings at all. Pressing charges was very hard! Something that I dreaded doing, Be it 10 years or not......its like yesterday to me. I did give him chances, I wanted to think that he had changed......but he was very hurtful during the trial, even to the degree of blaming me for my mothers death (she had cancer). How do you think that makes me feel? When I realized that he was trying to take me down and hurt my family with lies.........i got stronger....... and hopefully now justice. No one wants to see their dad in jail. The thought of it makes me sad. If it were up to me i would make him go for councelling, not jail. But that is not up to me. When my brothers and sisters wanted me to keep quiet, and hated me for exsposing our family secret........I got stronger again.......I didnt turn to drugs or booze............I turned to the law! I am proud of all i have accomplished, and one day they will hopefully see that. They have turned their backs on the one sister who cared the most and loved and felt the most. I never ever put any conditions on my love for them. I never once told them to stop seeing my dad. I understood that he never hurt them, so it was different for them, and i respected that. THeir decision to have no contact with me or their own neices, who love them to death, is so so so so sad. Not just for me, but for my 3 beautiful, loving girls. The pain and the hurt they are feeling now will not be easily taken away. They should not have to be punished for the actions of my father.

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update on vicki boer

by needs_lots in

hello to all my friends,.

i havent been around much lately, and i'am almost scared to post.

i came on to give everyone a big hello and to tell everyone whats been going on in my life this past year.. mostly ive been trying to put together a normal life after the lawsuit.

needs_lots

Sorry It has taken me so long to respond I was at a conference.

In a newyorkbethelminute-

I love you too!

I know that the family thinks it has been around for a while. Unfortunatly I have no control over how long the legal system takes. How is that my fault? If I could have it all wrapped up in a day I would. They should be lucky that they didnt have to live through abuse. I never had the confidence or the strength to press charges 10 or 15 years ago. I was still so wrapped up in feeling like I somehow caused it. It wasnt until I went to councelling that I realized I was not to blame. Sorry it took so long. This happens to most victims. When will they get mad at dad for what he did? My lawsuit against the jw's was to stop bad policy and to protect other people like myself. I did not want to see even more children get hurt. My second step was to stop my dad, and to make him realize the damage he has done. The first was for society, this case is for me! Sorry to hear that you would treat me the same way my brothers and sisters have. Thats just sad. And all because the legal system takes so long. They treat me like I was the abuser, and they treat my children the same.

No victim should be treated with deadlines and silence. Thats whats wrong with society, people need to speak up about abuse and stop this crazyness.

I just hope and pray that they never have to make the choices that I have had to make.

vicki

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update on vicki boer

by needs_lots in

hello to all my friends,.

i havent been around much lately, and i'am almost scared to post.

i came on to give everyone a big hello and to tell everyone whats been going on in my life this past year.. mostly ive been trying to put together a normal life after the lawsuit.

needs_lots

Hello to all my friends,

I havent been around much lately, and I'am almost scared to post. I came on to give everyone a big hello and to tell everyone whats been going on in my life this past year.

Mostly Ive been trying to put together a normal life after the lawsuit. Scott and I have been busy spending time with our girls. I've also enrolled for my degree in interior design and decorating. I'am almost finished my course and my new business is up and running. It has really helped me to refocus.

One big thing. I've finally decided to go through with charges against my dad. It was one of the hardest decisions I've had to make. It has been 10 months since the police have started their investigation, and it should be at trial in spring. Because the police do everything as well as the crown, Iam not involved at all. I never know what goes on until dates are set. My father has waived his right to a pretrial. Not sure why, so it will go straight to S.Court. I have lost all of my family because of this. My brothers and sister refuse to talk to me or have anything to do with my 3 girls. Guess its hard to support someone when it never happened to you. Time hopefully will heal this. I just want my father to understand the damage he has done. He doesnt get it. I want him to get councelling. Not so much jail time, thats so harash and hard for me to deal with.

Anyway.....I know alot of people who questioned me not sueing my dad or pressing charges, well I decided to be strong and do it. Iam hoping this will be the last step in finally closing that chapter in my life. Then It will be done.

Well.......thats all folks

vicki

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signs that you may be apostate, part 1

by in a new york bethel minute in

if you went to an assembly as one of the bad people who carry apostate signs, what would your sign say?.

pretend you had a bag on your head, and nobody would ever recognize you.... i think mine would say, .

"young people ask... very carefully, so as not to arouse suspicion that they might be apostate"

needs_lots

Hey BB(bethel bum)(ha you know what I mean)

Nice to see ya here! A sign!!!!!!! hum........good one. Lets see

"The truth is a dirty lie, and "IAM FREE TO DO WHAT I WANT""NO BUDDY KNOWS ME LIKE ME"" TIME FOR A COOL CHANGE" "I LIKE BIG BUTTS AND I CAN NOT LIE", I don't know just singing to myself. Hey to all! Ive missed you !

I have interesting news. Which I will write about soon. CIAO BB

vicster

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Would you leave your kids with your abusive parents?

by Nosferatu in

i've been contemplating this for a number of years now.

when i have kids, would i let my mother babysit them knowing how she treated me as a child?

has she changed?.

needs_lots

I have not posted for a while, but this is important! I too have battled that same question. I had done the wrong thing when my children were little, hoping that things had changed, and most importantly ignoring the past. Let the past be a warning to you. Don't be stupid, your children are your most valuable possession, and if you let someone else hurt them, or put them in a position where something may happen, then they will blame you!!!!!! I always worry that if something ever did happen, and I left them alone, then they would be angry at me for not protecting them. They would have that right. Just because they are your parents, does not automatically give them rights. They had a chance to raise their children, and blew it. Don't give them another. We must protect our childrens rights, they can't.(too little) We don't want our children suffering the same mental abuses as we live with everyday.

Thats my 10 cents.(Make it 1 million). Promise me you won't forget. Your parents might get mad, but oh well, life sucks sometimes...........if they had been good parents, they would have more rights.

vicki

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5th estate doing update story on the vicki boer case

by needs_lots in

merry x-mas!

i just got a call from the 5th estate, and they are running an update story very soon.

they will be coming back to my house and interviewing me with the updates on my trial.

needs_lots

Thanks guys,

Hello hawk, wasn't sure if you knew.

I haven't heard anything as of yet, but I will definitly let all of you know first. I was also wondering if anyone got any replies back from our letter writting campaign? Any news or interview programs interested in picking up the story?

Happy new year! This has got to be a better one!

vicki

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5th estate doing update story on the vicki boer case

by needs_lots in

merry x-mas!

i just got a call from the 5th estate, and they are running an update story very soon.

they will be coming back to my house and interviewing me with the updates on my trial.

needs_lots

Hi all!

Merry x-mas!

I just got a call from the 5th estate, and they are running an update story very soon. They will be coming back to my house and interviewing me with the updates on my trial. It will last about 15 mins. I will let everyone know when I hear more.

vic

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VOTE FOR A CAMPGROUND PLEASE

by pettygrudger in

jw
friends

since thunder bay & nova scotia are 36 hours drive time apart, i realize that we aren't all gonna get something within a stone's throw....so i've picked listed 3 different campgrounds (area's) - please vote & whichever gets the most votes will be the one i go with - as they are all within 16 hours of me (and yes it's all about me!.

#1: http://www.lafontaine-ent.on.ca/ - this is in the georgian bay, ontario area (i saw your batchawana bay idea calamity - but the area is the same - we can pick the campground next if this is selected).

#2: http://ontarioparks.com/english/slee.html (thunder bay, ontario area) .