I have a relative who followed 'theocratic direction' and asked the elders at the hall about 'Joe". The elders lied, told her that 'Joe' was a fine brother, would definitely make a good husband. She married 'Joe. With days, she found out 'Joe' was violent, had put his late wife into the hospital during one of his tirades and had been arrested for attempted manslaughter of someone else. The elders told her father after he asked them how on earth they recommended him 'We thought he would change if he married 'Sara'.
So the elders of 'Joe's' congregation outright lied to 'Sara' and she made her decision based on their 'trustworthiness'. She is now trapped.