Joyfulfader-So glad to see you are getting tons of support here. It is amazing how going to a KH gives a person panic attacks. Panic has happened to me for many years, and was induced by going to the KH, and the controling strictures of the WTBTS.
It really is quite astonishing what the elders can and do get away with, I've seen it with my own two eyes too, though never really experienced the total lack of love you have. Whatever happen to "Love hopes all things, believes all things"? For them to call in the accounts servant to review whether or not you forged the letter from your ex takes the cake for wicked thinking, much less shows just how much the elders don't apply love believing all things, especially from someone trying to play by their rules.
Wishing you all the best.