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  What a Week! The Bees Got Married!

  by BizzyBee in

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  what a wonderful holiday season!

  time with family, time for fun, and in the midst of it all - we got married!

  after christmas we were in palm springs for the weather and golf, but took off for nevada on thursday and tied the knot in a sweet, simple ceremony.

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  Congratulations! I'm wishing you both years of happiness!
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  Being Agnostic is depressing me....

  by SkyGreen in

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  for those that dont know my story, basically i "woke up the ttatt" about a year ago, started fading, then went back, now fading again because i just cant stomach it anymore.

  my husband is very supportive, although he's still "in" for now, and trying to be regular with meetings and witnessing, he can see my point of view now, and often notices things in the wt or other publications that are "off".

  the fading thing is hard, sometimes i want to da, but because of the upheaval it would cause my family, im waiting a little while - i guess hoping that my husband will be on the same page at some point, so that we can support eachother.

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  Hi Sky, You are right, it is depressing to know you where duped and lose your identity. I'm sorry you are going through this difficult time.
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  Blondie's Comments You Will Not Hear at the 12-30-2012 (DO YOUR WILL)

  by blondie in

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  http://www.jw.org/en/publications/magazines/?contentlanguagefilter=en&pubfilter=w&yearfilter=2012.

  united nations http://www.randytv.com/secret/unitednations.htm.

  http://exjehovahswitnessforum.yuku.com.

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  I always hated it when the borg used David as a shining example faithfulness. It always seems ridiculous, isn't there anyone else they can use?
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  I Think My Marriage Is Over...

  by cognac in

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  i know exactly what happened... he thinks i'm going to die at the big a and wants to be with someone he can live forever with.... we have two girls, ages 3 and 1... i really thought we'd make it despite the religion, now i really don't think so... not sure what to do... .

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  cognac-I'm so very sorry you and your kids are going through this difficulty. I agree that getting your financial house in top shape RIGHT NOW is important, especially since your husband is proving to be untrustworthy and treacherous to your family. You need a clear head to plan for you and your kids futures. Try to put emotion aside, and protect yourself!!
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  Would You Think Twice About Talking Negatively Toward Islam, The Koran or The Prophet?

  by minimus in

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  would you fear that there might be "consequences"??

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  I do fear consequences, so I keep things to myself. The fear of lethal retribution is real, as we have all seen on the news.
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  Good Reasons To Hate Every Weak And Ex-Jehovah Witness.

  by AuntConnie in

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  1. my husband's time is finite, it's wasted on spouses arguing over money, sex or family mattters with stupid home visits.. .

  i hate people's constant open hand for money, it's the weak individuals asking others to pull their weight.

  my family worked extra hours instead of begging the strong members for district assembly money, cat food for seven cats or tiny little rag-a-muffins weiner dogs.. .

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  AuntConnie-I can understand where you are coming from. When I was a teenager, I decided I would NEVER in a million years marry a man who was an elder because they are so good at ignoring their own families for everyone else's. My father was an elder. We were dirt poor because we had moved to an economically depressed area to save his family before the 'end of this system' in 1975. My father was involved helping everyone else except our family, because we were not the squeaky wheels.

  'The squeaky wheels get the oil', and your brother is the squeaky wheel in your maternal/paternal family, and you resent it. You wanted your mother's love too, and she didn't realise she needed to show it to you, as you appeared fine. You are now hurt that no one acknowledged all that you sacrificed for the Organization, and it is a huge sacrifice. You made a pact with your family for shunning weak JW family member. Your parent weren't able to live up to the pact, they realised their kids are important to them, rightly so, they are showing family affection and love. They were right, of course, they probably realised that you would shun them too, your brother and sister were more capable of showing real family love than you have been able to because of the sanctions imposed by the Borg, your husband, and your own mind.

  If you had diabetes, would you consider it a weakness to take insulin? Would you consider yourself a drug addict if you were dependent upon it? Probably not. The brain is such a complex structure, with billions upon billions of electrical connections firing at the same time. Sometimes, these connections misfire due to the intricate structure becoming imbalanced by hormones that under or over produce. Hormones that are affected by outside influences-chemical pesticides, alcohol, food compostion, the bodies inability to properly synthesize nutrients. (Like the pancreas not producing enough of the insulin hormone). Hormones can also be affected by inner enviroments-too much cortisol produced in response to pain, flight or fight response, or whatever, and the cortisol making areas burn themselves out, like the pancreas and insulin production, making a brain unable to cope with pain appropriately and hence depression. Depression and pain are often linked together.

  For me, anti-depressents have allowed me to cope with my brains imbalance, which happens to be seretonin. Like a diabetic would feel better on insulin, I feel better with my seretonin reuptake inhibitor.

  Whatever happens, I hope that you can feel valued and appreciated. I hope you can love you mother for who she is, as well as your father.

  PTN
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  Do they still follow the same backwards policy on AIDS?

  by Chaserious in

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  i was browsing through some of the boe letters (made available here: http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/watchtower/bible/243938/1/all-letters-to-elders-from-the-branch-1981-2012-boe) and came across the 3/15/96 letter about persons with communicable diseases.

  it specifically mentions aids several times in the letter and seems to be primarily targeted at that population.

  among other gems:.

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  In Akron Ohio, the city pool was drained because a dead man with AIDS was found in it. The city scrubbed the pool and refilled it. I don't know if the person bled out into the pool or what the situation was, but it was rather odd, with the Health Authorities saying you couldn't get AIDS this way or that way, or whatever, then the City drains the pool...this occurred in the 1990's. People were still phobic about AIDS then and an infected person's life span was much shorter than it is now, with antiviral drugs and all. Maybe the WTBTS didn't want a mutiny of brothers refusing to baptise anyone for fear of contracting AIDS.

  Has there been an official update since then? People in general seem to be less afraid of contracting AIDS than they were in the 1980 and 1990s.
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  Going to a quiet worldly party. What to talk about?

  by LoisLane looking for Superman in

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  any and all ideas welcome.. thank you in advance.. just lois.

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  I went to a 'Year End Party' for my spouse's job two weeks ago (they changed the name of from x-mas to end of year for the benefit of my hubby) and had a great time! Everyone was extremely nice, interesting, talked about traveling, talked about the company, what the spouses did for work, decorating. The sales woman's husband had on a beautiful watch with Masons symbols on it, I asked him about it and had a nice conversation with him about the Masons.

  I got invited to the owners vacation home, any time I was in that part of the US, they even gave me a card with their email and cell phone info to make sure I contact them in that event.

  I now have several new Facebook friends from this event.

  Just be yourself, take an interest in others and you will be fine!!
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  Is unhappiness a reason for divorce ?

  by caliber in

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  here are some sample expressions i found on-line.

  my spouse is not abusive, mean, a bad person, an adulterer or any of those other labels.

  my spouse refuses to grow up.

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  SixofNine-I have always been a fan of Abraham Lincoln. Once, during a meeting part where the question "Who would you like to meet after the resurrection"? I raised my hand and was called on, I said "I really want to meet Abraham Lincoln", you could've heard a pin drop in the KH lol!

  caliber-I have tried for 21 years to have deeper conversations with him. He didn't hear a word said. I begged for some of his time, he owned a company and worked 70-80 hours a week, then would take off for KH builds on the weekends, leaving me alone with a toddler. I have no family within a 400 mile radius, and no one at the KH had time for a sister who's hubby wasn't with her. When I said anything to the elders or their wives, it was 'don't be jealous of Jehovah'. I would retort 'If I would've wanted to be a single parent, I would have, then I would have to do his stupid laundry'. I also would say, 'The only reason he would know if I left, would be because he ran out of clean underwear'. I have been on more vacations by myself, Europe, The Rockies, The Islands, I figured if I wanted to see or do anything, I'd have to do it with my kids, without hubby. Now that I've faded, and his business failed after over 2 decades, he's seeing that I no longer care, and he is frantic. You reap what you sow.
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  New Here! So many questions! :)

  by TeenageInsider in

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  hey everyone!

  i'm so happy that i finnally joined i just turned 17 and i have so many questions about the org.. i've been lurking around the site for months, and love reading experiences about bethel, and all the hypocricy that the wtbts spews out.. so i finally joined in and hope to make some great friends.. a little about me:.

  im male, 17, and i am a born-in, so this is all i know... i was baptised at age 13 i beleive.... my gramma, and grampa and mom , and sisters and brothers, are all jw's.

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  Welcome Teenage! Glad to have you here, I wish you could meet my son, so he could have a buddy, he sounds like you! Get yourself to the library and get some books on critical thinking, it will help teach you how to think, how to examine things and question things. My son has really benefited from his critical thinking course, and often brings up discrepancies that appear in the WTBTS publications, much to his father's annoyance.