Okay, so this sounds like a similar question I posted yesterday. So far, the JWs have stopped by our home twice trying to recruit my husband (a longtime ex-JW) back into returning to Kingdom Hall. I feel they have been casing out my house, as one asked my husband where the white car went in our yard (I had recently purchased a new car) so now there was a new color car in our driveway. The nerve of these people, they are relentless. On their second visit, they told my husband he must be depressed, mentioned his mother several times (she is behind these visits), and that he could always come back to Kingdom Hall. They mentioned many of my husband's old acquaintainces (remember "Jon" who was your age?)... I went to the door, asked them if my husband's mother was behind this particular visit, and they immediately went back to their car and drove off! At what point, can you have them arrested for trespassing and harrassment? I'm sick of them trying to lure my husband away from his wife and children just because his parents are "unhappy". Ugh!
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How long do JWs visit before giving up?
by skeeter1 init's like, how many people does it take to screw in a lightbulb...... so, i dropped by someone's house last weekend this person was raised in the watchtower cult, and has been around it for several decades.
nice person, but not active in the meetings, never in service, and never baptised, etc.
rarely goes to the meetings - perhaps once every 2 months.
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NY23brown
Excellent post, nugget. I may just have to print this off and show him.
Thank you!
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NY23brown
I couldn't get your PM to show up.
I'm not angry with my husband, I'm disappointed. He doesn't take a stand for his daughters or myself. He would rather try to keep the peace with his parents than do the right thing for the rest of us. He makes fun of JWs all the time and says they are a cult and wants no part of it. But somewhere deep inside, they have the reigns on his behavior...like he's still some goofy kid they can tell what to do. He has often spoke of his unhappy childhood. I'm trying to learn more, that's how I came across this website.
Kind of late...will check back tomorrow to see if I can open that PM. Goodnight:)
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NY23brown
My FIL is the worst. He is the major instigator in the situation, as my MIL has basically just kept her distance. She calls us her "so-called family".
Compromise, as I have learned, is definitely not in their vocabulary. This confirms to me that they are trying to guilt trip him back to their religion.
They don't call and ask about the kids, we no longer go visit them, they voluntarily moved out of the state we live in...just the occasional surprise visit from my FIL and all hell breaks loose. He literally makes me ill having him come to our house. He makes my daughter (now 6) nervous. He's a nuisance. But my husband refuses to take a stand against him. I'm convinced they have told him to not go to marriage counseling.
I've considered divorce, but I know my kids would then be forced to visit their grandparents and that is the LAST thing I want to do is send two small children to stay with mean and miserable grandparents who are mean to them out of spite that we aren't their religion.
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NY23brown
We don't even live in the same state as his parents anymore, but they are unhappy that I stood up to them regarding their behavior toward our children. My husband should have stood up to them. Unfortunately, he feels torn. I feel I am not putting him in this position. They are.
He doesn't agree with his parents, but he is afraid to stand up to them, especially his father, who, unfortunately for me, has put a major strain on our marriage simply because he didn't like not getting his own way.
These visits do worry me, and I feel they are threatening to my children and myself. How do I put a stop to the visits. My husband claims he is just "entertaining them" when they show up. Actually, he is just afraid to stand up to any of them...guilt, guilt, guilt.
He refuses to go to marriage counseling and is in denial of how his parents are toxic to our marriage. Claims I am "insane" to accuse his parents of such things...
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NY23brown
I will skip my vent portion...
Will just say that my husband is an ex-JW (since about age 18). He's now in his 30s. His parents are not happy with how we live and are now trying to lure him back to their religion...minus his wife and kids. Have had two visits from the JW's showing up at our home and they only want to speak to my husband. They then guilt trip him and mention his mom. I'm fed up! Just wondering if any JW's out there will attest to the lengths controlling parents will go to to guilt trip family members who have left their religion. They have never really liked me much (not a JW, nor will I ever be). They have been a thorn in my side ever since I stood up to them for some hitting/verbal abuse they unleashed on our 2yr old. They can hate me all they want, but I will not let someone hit/yell at my child regardless of who they are. And it was my understanding that JWs going door to door try to convince everyone in the house to become a JW. These fools are definitely just trying to lure my husband. Advice...
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NY23brown
Unfortunately, I can't seem to get the original thing I posted to show up. It was kind of long...
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NY23brown
Thanks, talesin...was wondering why I couldn't read my own posts!
This is a check to see if Google Chrome will allow me to post...
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