Scully quoted: "Love is long-suffering and kind..... *It does not keep account of the injury.* ...."
In my opinion, also Scully, love does not pick up a person and dump them according to a whim, or worse, according to what someone else says you should do! It is not their beleifs that get to me, although I disagree with a lot of them too, it is their utter dishonesty in relationships and the way they treat family members like dirt on their shoe then go out and pretend they are so loving!
Flower said:
"your family sounds a lot like mine. maybe you should try reverse disfellowshiping like i have."
I did that - but they keep coming back! I am not complaining about that, it was good to see them. What disappoints me is their motives in coming back - there is not a flicker of family loyalty or affection to be seen.
"i will not allow my son to visit with members of evil false religion because they may try to turn him away from the truth."
I kept my son away when they called. For the above reason but more so because I do not want him also to picked up and set down again according to the mood of the Watchtower Organisation. He is worth more than that.
HCM:
"Forgiving them for the WT arrogance they show is not always an easy task. Many families are destroyed because of it. As far as there being a change in policy towards df'd ones, not recently between r&f members."
I forgive them because I know that is what God would want me to do and because I think that to bear bitterness hurts me more than it hurts them. I have a life to get on with and I wouldn't give them the satisfaction of letting my life be destroyed by their attempts at "control".
Matty said:
"I think it is the "righteous indignation", that turns them nasty."
Or the attitude of superiority? I remember hearing them say over and over "at least we are not like that".
"A lot of JWs are like Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde, lovely normally, then they realise that a point of principle has to be exercised and there is a visible change in their character. There is a lot of fear involved too.
Don't expect me to explain it because I don't understand it."
I have seen it - their whole face changes when they start speaking about WT things.
"You say "Are they ever wrong and are we ex's ever right????" Well, "they" i.e. your brothers, have the spirit directing them - and you don't. It gives them carte blanche to insult you."
According to them only!
"Wouldn't it be wonderful if we could be so cock sure of ourselves? Or would it?"
No, I don't think so.
"I can tell you are not that kind of person, and for goodness sake stay that way!"
Thank you Matty - I really don't want to be like that. I feel we all need to accept that we all have things we have still to learn. Otherwise, would we ever be open to the truth if it hit us smack in the nose????
Thank you all for your very kind responses. I was not sure what to expect here. It is good that others understand.