But I understand your point, "If you brought 2 in then at least it wasn't 3 ... and so on", we did what we did and it's done. [to construct as redundant a sentence as I possibly can.]
I've shunned a parent and been shunned by a parent. I know both sides of the deal.Damn, that is a rollercoaster and no messin'. It is a wonder, the positions this cult leaves people in.