Yes guys, I agree indeed that the anger has come to a point where I need help and can't do this alone. I admit that but it's very difficult with my schedule. Talking to my wife about me needing help dealing with her religion is a tough conversation to have. I'm gonna do it though because I don't think I have any more strength to do this on my own anymore. My mental health is suffering, I can feel it...
marriedtoajw
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How can I stop hating the JW religion?
by marriedtoajw inhaving this spiritual division between my wife and i over the years has been very draining in many ways.
so much so that i find myself more and more hating everything having to do with the wtbts especially when i just see watchtower literature.
i've kind of always felt that way but it's getting worst.
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How can I stop hating the JW religion?
by marriedtoajw inhaving this spiritual division between my wife and i over the years has been very draining in many ways.
so much so that i find myself more and more hating everything having to do with the wtbts especially when i just see watchtower literature.
i've kind of always felt that way but it's getting worst.
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marriedtoajw
Having this spiritual division between my wife and I over the years has been very draining in many ways. So much so that I find myself more and more hating everything having to do with the WTBTS especially when I just see Watchtower literature. I've kind of always felt that way but it's getting worst. It's irrational to see a Watchtower mag or book and feel anger, hate or I don't know what it is. I try to see the good things about the religion but I don't trust those feelings. For example, some of the best times I've ever had in my life have been shared with my wife and her JW family when they were love bombing me. But those feelings aren't real because nothing was really genuine. They were trying to get me in. Once they realized it wasn't going to happen, everything stopped. Living day to day with anger about how my life has turned out being married to a jw isn't healthy and does no one any good. Does anyone get what I'm saying???
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Spiritually divided and the pain of it all...
by marriedtoajw infor those of you who still have faith in god and feel a need to worship him, i sincerely hope you have more peace than i feel.
peace with my spiritual division with my wife continues to escape me.
i really need someone to talk to to help me figure this out but my work schedule allows for so little time so i come here.
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For those of you who still have faith in God and feel a need to worship him, I sincerely hope you have more peace than I feel. Peace with my spiritual division with my wife continues to escape me. I really need someone to talk to to help me figure this out but my work schedule allows for so little time so I come here. It's getting to feel hopeless. I'm never going to have the life that I've wanted. Sure, many people live with regrets and things can be worst from reading some of the members posts on this forum but I'm beginning to feel sorry for myself which is so against my nature in other areas of my life. Recently I realized that I stopped having these dreams about my wife. I constantly had dreams of her cheating on me and it was always a situation where I thought I had to share her with someone else. I would wake up bothered because it happend all the time. Ever since she became more gungho about her JWism, I stopped having these dreams but felt depressed and lonely. Never thought of analyzing my dreams before but I think that these dreams were some how connected to a betrayal I felt with her need to be a jw. Now that things are so much more in the open and that I can pretty much count on her never missing a meeting, feels like she chose the other guy. Intellectually I see our situation as a division that many people deal with but psychologically and spiritually, it feels like a divorce. Biblestudent, still havn't talked to Hassan or one of his counselors simply because I have so little time when my wife is not around or I'm strapped for money and just can't afford the $100 consultation. I will call them very soon though. Always looking for encouragement. Thanks guys...
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Contributing factor to Roman Catholics converting to JW
by NeverKnew inmy jw friend once asked that if churches were so great why did so many roman catholics convert to his religion.
now i have some semblance of an answer!.
i spoke with a professor who definitely had some familiarity with the wts.
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marriedtoajw
I think I can hit the nail on the head on this and feel qualified as I was raised in a nominal Catholic home, married to a jw, I have a bunch of Catholic relatives of which a small few converted to the JW's. Most Catholics, even nominal ones, are use to structure, organization, authority and have a high regard of scripture, even if they don't know it very well. Catholics, in my experience, respect scripture so much that they dare not try to interpret it for themselves and can't understand why others, protestants, think they can and get it right. So because JW's are trained in prostelitizing, a Catholic will more than likely be ill equipped to defend their faith when attacked. When JW's present arguments that the Catholic can not refute scritpurally, they get angry at Clergy for not aggressively equipping them with so much on the line, enternal salvation. Catholics, just like most people I think, have a hard time blaming themselves for their spiritual formation. After all, The Church offers much in the way of education to equip, but Catholics are not forced to educate themselves or monitored in any way to do so. It takes a lot of time and study to be able to defend ones faith when attacked and the lack of Church control over the individual Catholic is condusive to JW's taking advantage.
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Son is giving first talk, conflicted
by marriedtoajw inmy son is still studying with the jw's and is giving his first talk this tuesday.
he's 22 and still living in my home.
my other two boys 12 and 15 are here as well but don't study cuz wifee knows how i feel.
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By the way, me, working at least 50 hrs a week and gone from the house from 9am - 9pm mon-fri and Sats 11am - 4pm, almost every week for yeeeeeaaarrssss.....
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Son is giving first talk, conflicted
by marriedtoajw inmy son is still studying with the jw's and is giving his first talk this tuesday.
he's 22 and still living in my home.
my other two boys 12 and 15 are here as well but don't study cuz wifee knows how i feel.
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Billy, everyone, fil, mil, bil, sil, wife and oldest son are all umemployed and gov. assistance. Inlaws are surviving off of odd jobs and low rent by a JW landlord...
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Son is giving first talk, conflicted
by marriedtoajw inmy son is still studying with the jw's and is giving his first talk this tuesday.
he's 22 and still living in my home.
my other two boys 12 and 15 are here as well but don't study cuz wifee knows how i feel.
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marriedtoajw
The hall lets out about 9:15, wife is usually home by 9:30. It's 9:52 and no one home yet.... How many congradulations and plans for get togethers are going on now I wonder???
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Son is giving first talk, conflicted
by marriedtoajw inmy son is still studying with the jw's and is giving his first talk this tuesday.
he's 22 and still living in my home.
my other two boys 12 and 15 are here as well but don't study cuz wifee knows how i feel.
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K guys, it's Tuesday night and I didn't go to the talk. I had to work and couldn't get off without problems. I've been counciled at work for tardiness. I and unscheduled absences last month. I commute 50 miles and with traffic I've been late too often last month also. It's 9:30 and I got home at about 9:15 and the house is empty. All my inlaws that came in from out of state for the talk, my wife and all my kids are at the hall. My two boys ages 15 and 12 almost never go to the hall but with everyone here and my older son's first talk I'm sure they were pressured to go while I was at work. Here at am at my desk at home with utter silence. It's time's like this I look around and say, "this can't be happening". I know it's a bad feeling in the moment but sometimes, I wonder if I'm doing the right thing. If there is a God or not, this doesn't look good for me either way. This can't be right. This isn't the way my life was suppose to be. I've worked way way too hard for things to be thif f*&^$% up. I know it's a cult. I know how they're being decieved, but my wife seems to love this stuff now, especially when she has the support of her parents, sister and bro in law here. And you know, just this last Wednesday whe went to her cousin's mothers birthday party dinner!!! I feel like I'm about to blow holding in my frustration!!!!!!!!!! I can just picture everyojne at the hall going goo goo gah gah over my son and how much progress my wife has made in helping my son become a JW. I'm just seeing here in complete lonliness......
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Son is giving first talk, conflicted
by marriedtoajw inmy son is still studying with the jw's and is giving his first talk this tuesday.
he's 22 and still living in my home.
my other two boys 12 and 15 are here as well but don't study cuz wifee knows how i feel.
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marriedtoajw
lamallcool, it's almost impossible for me to look for her. I'm out of the house from 9am-9pm every day. I work 50 miles away and it takes about an hour and a half to get to work and an hour back. I work many Saturdays too. By end of that I'm exhausted. I had a job lined up for her about a year ago through a very close childhood family friend in a position of authority who could have given my wife this job on her say so doing very similar work she did 12 years ago. This family friend is so close that she knows about our problems and so I think she got skiddish going out on a limb considering what happend on that job long ago so the job some how went to someone else, which I understand.
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Son is giving first talk, conflicted
by marriedtoajw inmy son is still studying with the jw's and is giving his first talk this tuesday.
he's 22 and still living in my home.
my other two boys 12 and 15 are here as well but don't study cuz wifee knows how i feel.
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Thank you so much for the encouragement Bob. Sometimes I get so bumbed out by what's happening. My father died when I was 10 and I made it almost my identity to be the best dad I can, which is why I've worked so hard. I make a decent income by today's standards but with 4 kids and a wife, mortgage etc. with no one else working makes my stress level go through the roof. Especially when I feel as if I'm being ganged up on. My wife, son, 8 year old daughter, fil, mil, sil and bil are all at the meeting right now...