nelly136
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UK Newspaper articles. Young JW death re 'no blood'
by ThomasCovenant in.
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http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1279252/jehovahs-witness-15-dies-refusing-blood-following-crash.html.
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FED UP WITH IT ALL !
by billie jean inhi, i haven't used this for a long time, due to the feeling of not needing to.
i've been getting on with life, fine, for some time now.
so been out 10 years, parents and other family still in.. well i guess i'm just asking how you cope, really, my family are becoming worse with me, and my son, (who has autism), little by little, and just the general putting the jw life before everything else, including me, my child, life in general, simple things and keeping us at arms length, it's really hard, as i have a relative trying to dig dirt on me, spreading it round the family in order to try and cause more upset for me.. so just a simple question, on how you've all coped in this situation.. thanks .
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nelly136
exwhyzees seeing what has changed is a good point.
theres been quite a few posts about the stages of recovery you go through and it being like mourning.
when i left the jw guilt trip and emotional blackmail ran very strong, i excused their behaviour of me because i figured i should have known how it was going to be and i made allowances for them following their rules.
as time went on i came to realise that the behaviour i viewed as normal and acceptable was actually very inappropriate and quite frankly delusional , even worse, i was subjecting my child to a toxicity she didnt deserve. unfortunately i'd left it to go on so long while making excuses for their sensibilities it did a lot of damage.
at some point there comes a realisation that no matter how hard you try to meet the ever changing requirements or how many allowances you make, its never going to end.
nothing is ever going to change and you're supposed to eat dirt and be grateful and lap up whatever scraps are thrown your way.
they may be getting worse, or just maybe they've always been that way, perhaps you're coming to the point where you're realising this is the only way they know how to behave and your tolerance of their treatment of you and yours has got to the thin end of the wedge.
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Disfellowshipping - But You KNEW About It Before You Were Baptized!
by Georgiegirl instarted a new topic b/c i didn't want to threadjack another ongoing pointless debate.
:) (isn't it interesting how the apologists all come out around dc time?).
i have seen that statement made over and over again by jws about disfellowshipping.
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nelly136
my understanding and comprehension of dfing as a child and teen up to baptism was pretty sanitised, it didnt actually come anywheres near the reality.
my only experience of dfing in my own family was when i was very young and my aunt left her wife beating husband or visa versa (depending on who was referring to it) and took up with the man i remember fondly as my second uncle.
from a childs eye view it didnt seem to be too big a deal, we'd go stay at hers and spend the holidays and sit up the back of the hall with her in the special seats, my nan and grandad would go visit her regularly blah blah
so my understanding was the so called dub friends would drop you like a hot coal but when it came to family there was to be absolutely no doctrine or jw stuff discussed but your family matters were seperate.
when push came to shove the reality was a bit of a learning curve.
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FED UP WITH IT ALL !
by billie jean inhi, i haven't used this for a long time, due to the feeling of not needing to.
i've been getting on with life, fine, for some time now.
so been out 10 years, parents and other family still in.. well i guess i'm just asking how you cope, really, my family are becoming worse with me, and my son, (who has autism), little by little, and just the general putting the jw life before everything else, including me, my child, life in general, simple things and keeping us at arms length, it's really hard, as i have a relative trying to dig dirt on me, spreading it round the family in order to try and cause more upset for me.. so just a simple question, on how you've all coped in this situation.. thanks .
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nelly136
on one side of my dysfunctional jw family i found the less i saw of them the more i liked it. so i dfd them and moved. its been over 10 years and my only regret was i didnt do it years sooner.
but everyones different, what works for one doesnt work for all.
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Insane JW Hubby
by judi8751 inand i quote...... "i will manage with jehovah by my side so you need not be showing any more unkind feelings as my faith is strong because i have not left jehovah".
what did i say to deserve this tirade......."i hope you will be responsible for your own debts i was not a sharer in your failed business plans and had no benefit from any loans".
i really have reaped what i sowed with this one, need a divorce, man is insane, a walter mitty, emotional/financial abuser, has the gift of the gab, the brothers love him, he saw me coming!!!.
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nelly136
well hope they'll be very happy together, now do what carla says and get a solicitor....a really good one!
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How is a Jehovah'sWitness suppossed to know they are annointed?
by brainwashed-from-birth inare there any tests/interviews they have to go thru to prove it?.
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nelly136
from memory,
they just know they are......
and the rest of the cong either humours them or just roll their eyes everytime they partake, depending on how well theyre respected liked or reviled.
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thankyou all who have shown support to me and goodbye for now x
by looloo ini first came on this site around the time we were waiting the my daughters abuser to face justice in crown court , we got no justice (due to lack of evidence) but his other victims had a very small section of the abuse they suffered legally recognised , due to a deal being done with the defence , so we waited 20 months to give evidence just to be dropped at the last minute for a "deal" my by now ex best friend decided to stand by the child rapist !as did some of his family despite him being a disfellowshipped person (he was not disfellowshipped for child abuse ) and they are all jws !
isold my house and left the town i once loved as i couldnt bare to be in the same town as him when he left prison (he did 18 months of a 3 year sentence ) and see his supportive family knocking on doors taliking of truth made me feel like screaming at them "what about my poor girl , wheres your support for her , you hypocrites "my daughter is still very much affected by what happened to her age 13 , sexual, physical and mental abuse over months and months .
but i also have a 6 year old girl who was only 20 months old when i found out and reported the abuse to the police , and the long process started , for the next 20 moths i could think of nothing but giving evidence in court and trying to support my girl who was also terrified of that , my little one was 3 and a half when he was sentenced and i looked back and realised i had hardley taken any notice of her since i found out about my other girls abuse , i had missed out on so much of her best times , learning new words etc , i was too preoccupied .
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nelly136
wish you and your daughters lots of sun and laughter, and don't forget to squeeze in a little bit of you time too
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nelly136
happy birthday Mrs Jones
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Now this is sad
by dgp inon another thread, http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/friends/190929/1/jws-say-worldly-people-are-better-off-dead, undisfellowshipped posted this:.
our kingdom ministry, september 1992:.
what will you do if an attorney or a judge asks you why you are refusing a lifesaving transfusion for your child?
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nelly136
In other words----lie your ass off so that the judge doesn't find out that you are a religious fanatic and that he must step in to protect your child if that child is to live.
think that sums it up mary.
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Convention
by CrimsonAshes injust got back fromt he convention.
it was unbelievable.
deep....and very interesting..
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nelly136
**It was unbelievable** yup can understand that!