okay, i got this thing going on. i already posted something about it a few weeks ago.
I know i am on a thin line and i know i could probably get df'ed if i continue my path, but i dont think i want to leave this org yet.
Anyway, so me a baptized brother and a baptized sister kinda have a relationship going on. We started to go out alone and have long phone coversations almost everyday. Which of course, for itself is not a sin.
Well, for the last couple of days things went overboard. She started visiting me and we would cuddle, the next day we would kiss and the very next we would kiss (always with tongue) and touch eachother on "varius" places. Even though i havent seen her breasts yet, i touched them under the skirt. As for her other place, i only touched it over the jeans, but i made her come.
I dont know where to draw the line and i bet i already crossed it. Do i have to report myself (ourselfes) or am i still okay? We havent had sex yet ...
Thanks in advance for your advices
nevaagain
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Just a quick jw question
by nevaagain inokay, i got this thing going on.
i already posted something about it a few weeks ago.
i know i am on a thin line and i know i could probably get df'ed if i continue my path, but i dont think i want to leave this org yet.
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Do current JW members frequent this room?
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i thought they taught that the internet is bad... a product from the devil.. association with worldlies.. maybe even so called apostates.
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yea i am lurking for several years now, but i dont feel like leaving. you might be right about all your assumptions about the wtc.i dont question anything but i still believe the truth lays somewhere there. plus i dont even think my life would be better as an ex-jw. i know i might get flamed here but thats just what i believe and life as a jw isnt as bad as some people here make it to be. i dont even want to pull anybody back into the wtc. i just enjoy reading the messages here. everyone here has his opinion and so do i ...
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Just something i have to get off myself
by nevaagain inhello guys, first of all i am a jw.
i think my last and only post on this board was a couple of years ago when i wasnt active at all.
in the mean time i got better, i might not be as active as i should be, but i still try to do my best.
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well i have this feeling that it could lead to something which is wrong in the eyes of God, hence all the time we spend together alone plus all the flirting which is going on from both
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Just something i have to get off myself
by nevaagain inhello guys, first of all i am a jw.
i think my last and only post on this board was a couple of years ago when i wasnt active at all.
in the mean time i got better, i might not be as active as i should be, but i still try to do my best.
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yeah i know i might get hurt in the long term ... thats why i was seeking for advice here. i thought i might not see things clear and yes i will let the smoking go. its not my business ... the last time i tried to get away from her she said she doesnt wants to lose me as a friend ... girls can be weird sometimes :-) especially the ones in the truth ...
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Just something i have to get off myself
by nevaagain inhello guys, first of all i am a jw.
i think my last and only post on this board was a couple of years ago when i wasnt active at all.
in the mean time i got better, i might not be as active as i should be, but i still try to do my best.
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nevaagain
i guess i wasnt unspecific, the whole kissing and hugging stuff happaned just yesterday. the confession that she likes another dude was 2 weeks ago. this doesnt have anything to do with the confession that she smoked. that was just a site note. i would never go to the elders and "rat out" because this girl does not love me. that was just a question on whats the official word on that point is.
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Just something i have to get off myself
by nevaagain inhello guys, first of all i am a jw.
i think my last and only post on this board was a couple of years ago when i wasnt active at all.
in the mean time i got better, i might not be as active as i should be, but i still try to do my best.
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Hello guys, first of all i am a JW. I think my last and only post on this board was a couple of years ago when i wasnt active at all. In the mean time i got better, i might not be as active as i should be, but i still try to do my best. I have been born in the truth and i have been baptized since my age of 16. I am 25 right now, still single and still looking for my perfect match :-)
As you probably already guessed, i am not a native english speaker. I am from germany. I recently moved 300 miles because i got a new job there. I took the oppurtinity because i could finally stand on my own feed, which means i moved out of my parents apartment. This involved changing the KH as well.
Being a JW it made everything simplier. I immediately found new friends my age with which i hang out. One older sister even helped me to find an apartment. I have been for 3 months here and i havent missed one meeting yet. Even though i cant say i am not bored at the meetings. The main reason i attend them is to meet my friends there. From what i have seen here, the people my age or even younger are in a catastrophic situation spirit wise. Many of them dont attend the meetings. I even heard stories, about baptized younger witnesses which occasionally smoke or even have sex before being married. Hearing this was kinda a shock to me and i dont know how to handle this.
Well right now, i am (very) good friends with a sister about 4 years younger than me. She is also baptized like me. We have contact everyday. Even long phone conversation till 3am. We even occasionally go out (just the 2 of us) which raised the distrust of her parents. She even came over to my apartment a couple of times ... Well we didnt really do anything wrong in the eyes of god as far as i know... the first time she wanted me to put my arm over her shoulder, she then laid her head on my lap. Then i put my arms around her and she started to kiss my arm. Later when she had to go we hugged, and she kissed me on my neck.
Even though it seems like we are the perfect match, she confessed to me that she loves a different brother. Shouldnt i call everything off before it gets dangerous for both of us?
Sorry if i bored you, or you thought this would lead to a different topic. But i needed to get this off my chest and i didnt know where to go with this. Since other boards dealing about love and dating dont deal with the speciality of JWs.
Well on a site note, she also confessed to me that she smoked a few times couple of months ago. Being that she is baptized for a few years. Does it mean that i have to inform the elders? Whats the official word on this? Because i would rather let it go ... -
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I am still a JW, what shall i do?
by nevaagain inhello, i know this board for about a week but didn t dare to register and post something, to let the cat out of the bag ... i am a jw :) i was shocked after i read through some of the topic here.
honestly, i haven t seen any apostates in action until i started visiting this board.
a little bit information to my person:.
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hmm let me see, i am listening to rap music right now and i watch every movie i like :) well about acceptable sex acts, i never heard/read any restrictions so far. and last time i checked i wasn´t a borg :P
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I am still a JW, what shall i do?
by nevaagain inhello, i know this board for about a week but didn t dare to register and post something, to let the cat out of the bag ... i am a jw :) i was shocked after i read through some of the topic here.
honestly, i haven t seen any apostates in action until i started visiting this board.
a little bit information to my person:.
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nevaagain
i forgot to answer to DIMs interesting post. DIM could you shed some light on the stuff you mentioned? your mail adress is restricted so i couldn´t mail it to you...
by the way, are you leaving for something better?
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I am still a JW, what shall i do?
by nevaagain inhello, i know this board for about a week but didn t dare to register and post something, to let the cat out of the bag ... i am a jw :) i was shocked after i read through some of the topic here.
honestly, i haven t seen any apostates in action until i started visiting this board.
a little bit information to my person:.
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nevaagain
thanks for the warm greetings. wow so many responded...
i just asked my father about the GB guy that left and it was true hehe he even asked me how do i know that. hmm was that a secret?
i started reading many of sites listed on the bottom but i dont like the harsh style they are dealing with us ... i mean thats nothing new :) as jesus said, why should you threat us better then him? hehe
anyway, thanks guys. i send you that offered it to me a mail for further discussion. i just want to know both sides.
by the way, you left the jws because you had your reasons. what about jehovah and the bible? do you still believe in them? now you don´t have anything between you and jehovah after leaving the organization... what about the paradise?
the last thing to do after leaving the organization were to start smoke, take drugs and start sexing around. because i read several posts here that contained just that. is that the right way? i would still choose jw way over the above mentioned :)
i am still a little bit confused in what to believe. your way sounds easier and i think easier = false. the way of a christian shouldn´t be easy
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I am still a JW, what shall i do?
by nevaagain inhello, i know this board for about a week but didn t dare to register and post something, to let the cat out of the bag ... i am a jw :) i was shocked after i read through some of the topic here.
honestly, i haven t seen any apostates in action until i started visiting this board.
a little bit information to my person:.
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nevaagain
Hello, i know this board for about a week but didn´t dare to register and post something, to let the cat out of the bag ... i am a JW :) I was shocked after I read through some of the topic here. Honestly, I haven´t seen any apostates in action until I started visiting this board.
A little bit information to my person:
I am 21 years old and I live in germany. You can say I am a JW since birth but I got baptised on the age of 16. I got to service once per month to have my two hours every month and the only meetings I attend are the ones at Sunday because I "work" the other days. My father is an elder too. Other then that, I still believe that the JWs have the right religion but prefer doing other things instead. I have many good friend within the JWs and i don´t want to lose them. I read carefully the posts about the UN scandal and i am going to ask my field officer. He spended his whole life working for the JWs and his life isn´t bad either.I know here aren´t much JWs, but I would like to know why elders or other heavy weights left the JWs. These people were closer to the organisation. (Like Adam was when Eve sinned)
And from the former JWs here (or even apostates) even though you aren´t a member of the JWs anymore, do you still believe to some points and what do you have to offer to me, because if you have then don´t keep it as secret :).