I am not now, nor have I ever been a Witness. But I watched my mom, Rachael de Vienne as you will recall, take two elders to task when they tried to stop her from using a book they didn't like in her class. I've never known 'elders' to put their face in a non-Witness' business, but these two did.
As my gramma would have said, she "showed them were the bear went in the buckwheat."
I should add that I have to uncles by marriage who are elders and aren't at all like that. I like them. They're good to me and my sisters, and they were good to my mom.
Annie