i have read alot of the advice offered on this board and was hoping to broaden my thoughts on my problem any opinons will be appreciated.
i have been married for 3 years.
i don't have any children by this man but have 3 from a previous marriage.
thanks Scully
I opened another account before Christmas and have changed my direct deposit payroll to it. I know ultimately this is my fault for letting him do it. Slowly it seems he has taken over everything. I will get it back in control.
Edited by - nita6368 on 1 January 2003 22:25:9
i have read alot of the advice offered on this board and was hoping to broaden my thoughts on my problem any opinons will be appreciated.
i have been married for 3 years.
i don't have any children by this man but have 3 from a previous marriage.
bigfloppydog...
Yes it is a pattern I am afraid...He has been married twice before....each marriage broke up right before the three year mark. That must be how long it takes to realize its not going to get any better...I am just slow.
Nathan,
Thanks for the "brotherly" advice. Being on my own sounds really good.At least then I will be responsible for my own happiness not unhappy because of someone else's actions. Or something like that. Thanks.
Edited by - nita6368 on 1 January 2003 22:4:31
i have read alot of the advice offered on this board and was hoping to broaden my thoughts on my problem any opinons will be appreciated.
i have been married for 3 years.
i don't have any children by this man but have 3 from a previous marriage.
Thanks Everyone.....
I have told him not to discipline my kids...works for awhile then back to usual. I do stick up for my kids all the time when he is in the wrong about things.
As far as trading down my last husband was brain dead cult member ..couldn't have gotten any lower. I was doing good on my own for 4 years. Thought it would be nice to share my life I guess I just didnt pick an equal partner. As far as being emotionally drained...I am nearly there. Thanks so much you guys.....you are confirming alot of my thought!
i have read alot of the advice offered on this board and was hoping to broaden my thoughts on my problem any opinons will be appreciated.
i have been married for 3 years.
i don't have any children by this man but have 3 from a previous marriage.
Thank-you ladies...I agree with you 100%. We have talked about seperate accounts and money and bills and he resists me. This has been so hard for me because to the outside world he seems like a great guy. No one knows the turmoil at home. His family backs him 100% and I am made out to be the bad guy because I have put a stop to his spending. The truth is I bring in 3 times his income in a month.Thanks for your perspectives and I believe I am on my way out.
i have read alot of the advice offered on this board and was hoping to broaden my thoughts on my problem any opinons will be appreciated.
i have been married for 3 years.
i don't have any children by this man but have 3 from a previous marriage.
I have read alot of the advice offered on this board and was hoping to broaden my thoughts on my problem any opinons will be appreciated. I have been married for 3 years. I don't have any children by this man but have 3 from a previous marriage. He has one child from a previous marriage. My husband was not in a good financial state when we married. I was not aware of his financial problems until after we were married. I have a good paying job, more than he makes. For the past three years we have dug him out of his hole. He doesn't appreciate it but acts like it was my job to do and his money to spend since we are married. He collects Nascar memorabilia using joint finances because he doesn't believe in keeping them seperate. he says married people should have a joint account. Now the straw that breaks the camels back...he yells at my kids. not as in discipline but just riding their butt about stupid stuff, almost like he's jealous.this has been going on for three years and when I get fed up and decide to leave he promises to change and does for a bit but as soon as I let my guard down we are right back at square one.After 3 years someone's probably not going to change, right? I have pretty much made up my mind to leave but would like to hear someone else's voice of reason Just a little background, he has no idea about anything witness related...he's not religious at all, not spiritual either.he does not understand the effects of leaving the cult. Thanks for your two cents.
the gifts have been bought and wrapped and the food's in the fridge ready to cook.
tomorrow isn't my first christmas but it is the first one i'll be hosting and cooking christmas dinner.
i called my younger brother earlier and he is indeed going to come over!
Mike,
Save me some Antipasto...I haven't even heard of that wonderful stuff since I moved to KY..
this afternoon i was sitting in my kitchen watching my three year old son playing.
he was humming to himself while playing w/trucks.
i watched his little hands as they moved the toys around, i listened to his sweet little voice.
I had one of those moments the other day when my 16 year old son said he was writing a poem for his homework and when I asked him what it was about he said "The person whom I admire the most". I said OK. He said I am writing it about you.
Edited because my fingers type faster than my mind spells!
Edited by - nita6368 on 19 December 2002 16:59:53
during your lifetime or after you pass away, what do you want your legacy to be?
what do you want people to remember about you?
That I was a good mother to my boys.....my 16 year old son just wrote a poem for his English class,"Whom I admire the most"....It was about me
why is it that when the overseer visits the congregation, that just about everybody shows up to the meetings and they all go in the field service?
a whole week of endless zeal just to prove that they are all so spiritual.
is gone, they all come back to normal.
Unbelievable...but hey I guess a new suit is a new suit no matter who you get it from....LOL
After all it supported his work in the ministry
why is it that when the overseer visits the congregation, that just about everybody shows up to the meetings and they all go in the field service?
a whole week of endless zeal just to prove that they are all so spiritual.
is gone, they all come back to normal.
Nelly..
What I always enjoyed was the ones who had not been in the hall for months walking around and shaking hands with everyone...helping the old ones around...picking up the little kids....come to think of it , I guess the co never knew any different about them. They put on a good show. I hated when they took up money for the co's expenses...he had everything provided for him.
