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  Updated Report by Yizuman - Part Two

  by Yizuman in

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  ok i went to the welfare office this morning.. the case worker was a very nice lady, her name is maria.

  all smiles and very friendly too.. she knows about the wal-mart situation and has gotten alot of employees who have gotten fired for whacked out reasons.. she needs some info from wal-mart, but problem is that wal-mart tends to screw with the social workers trying to get info from them and she's had been given alot of run arounds from them before.

  so she told me it would be 2-3 weeks before she gets any info from wal-mart before i can get any help from them.

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  Yizuman,

  Do you have a shelter in your town? I don't live in a big town either but the town next to us is a little bigger and they have several shelters there. You may want to check into that.
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  Updated Report by Yizuman - Part Two

  by Yizuman in

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  ok i went to the welfare office this morning.. the case worker was a very nice lady, her name is maria.

  all smiles and very friendly too.. she knows about the wal-mart situation and has gotten alot of employees who have gotten fired for whacked out reasons.. she needs some info from wal-mart, but problem is that wal-mart tends to screw with the social workers trying to get info from them and she's had been given alot of run arounds from them before.

  so she told me it would be 2-3 weeks before she gets any info from wal-mart before i can get any help from them.

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  Just a little note....

  It will have to be verified that you are no longer working at Walmart and when you received your last paycheck to verify how much money (if any) you have received this month. That is a federal regulation that ALL caseworkers must follow or they will lose their job. Walmart uses a 3rd party source to ver their income ver (The Work Number) The info is usually returned in a week. If the ex employee can get someone from the local Walmart to ver they are no longer working there things can go quicker. I am a caseworker and can verify that most Walmart managers will verify NOTHING to us. You need to understand that we caseworkers due have federal regulations to follow or we lose our jobs. As sad as anyone's situation may seem, I am not going to lose my job or sidestep regulations for anyone. I have a family to support myself.

  Another thing, for every honest person that comes in our office needing help, there are 10 who are trying to screw the system. I just had a client tell me they had no income. They verified it with a written statement from their landlord. When I went to Walmart, guess who was stocking shelves. My client!! She had started work at Walmart in March...was laid off for 3 weeks and came in for food stamps. She never reported going back to work and has been drawing stamps since April.Several thousand dollar claim. Thats why we have to verify. There are people out there who lie.

  Yizuman,

  Is there a food pantry or community needline in your town? That is where we send our clients while they are waiting for there case to be approved. Usually a food stamp application makes you eligible.

  Edited by - nita6368 on 6 February 2003 12:59:26
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  Name Something Positive About Being A Witness

  by minimus in

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  can you do it?

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  I also learned how to tie a tie ( I have 3 boys)
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  Birthday List

  by nicolaou in

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  c'mon guys, we can celebrate our birthdays!!!.

  post your birthdate here and let us know how you want to get your 'birthday card' (email, post on the board, text message, soaped-up kyliegram!).

  my birthday is october 16th and i'd be happy to receive any of the above.. .

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  Yeru... I am June 3, 1968!!
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  DRUMLINE.....any band geeks here?

  by LDH in

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  ok, i'll admit it.

  i've seen it twice, and i'm going to see it again saturday.. i even take my daughter and her friends as cover (lol).. some of you know my daughter is on the drumline at her school, and next year she'll be stepping up to the big time as she joins a nationally ranked marching band in the area.

  she happens to play snare drum, which is the instrument featured in the movie and damn she is good.

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  My son plays the trumpet in the junior high marching and jazz band. I remeber when he started playing and I was so excited when I actually recognized "kumbuya" when he was playing it. Now after 2 years he blows me away. When he started playing it I thought it was strange for a kid to want to play the trumpet, but he said he liked the sound of it. It has been a great experience for us!
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  I am confused......Any opinions???

  by nita6368 in

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  2. family

  i have read alot of the advice offered on this board and was hoping to broaden my thoughts on my problem any opinons will be appreciated.

  i have been married for 3 years.

  i don't have any children by this man but have 3 from a previous marriage.

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  (((Brummie))) Thanks for your kind words!

  Oh my goodness I have actually had the District Overbeer post on one of my threads Thanks Valis!
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  I am confused......Any opinions???

  by nita6368 in

  1. social
  2. family

  i have read alot of the advice offered on this board and was hoping to broaden my thoughts on my problem any opinons will be appreciated.

  i have been married for 3 years.

  i don't have any children by this man but have 3 from a previous marriage.

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  OK...here is a little background. My boys are all honor roll students.My oldest son is a governors scholar and both he and my thirteen year old are in the gifted and talented program at school.My 8 year old is doing well in school with 6 a's and 1 b on his last report card. My boys go to bed at 9:00 on school nights even my 16 year old.My 2 younger kids play baseball and my oldest plays football.My kids are not nasty, not rebelling they were raised as witness children and the oldest 2 gave talks at the hall.

  As far as my last marriage of ten years. I was married to a dub. He committed adultery 5 times in the 10 years we were married. He was publicly reproved and disfellowshipped twice. I put up with the crap for ten years.Then I left him and divorced, he is now married to his last girlfriend.He paid $50/week support and we struggled. I work full time and have a good job but boys can be expensive. But I did it, I was not on welfare. I took up his slack. I was on my own with my boys for 3 years. I got my self financially stable had a nice home , provided a nice life for my boys.

  Now here we are in this marriage, you say I am worried about money. My children are my fianancial responsibility. My husbands childsupport is garnished from his paycheck so his child is taken care of whether he works one day or all week. Why is his support garnished? Because he did not pay, he shirked the responsibility of his childsupport, this all took place before I came into the picture. Since we have been together he has repaid $6,000.00 back.His house was in foreclosure when we married and they came to our house to repo the truck.He assured me he had just had some financial troubles and it would get better.Guess what we got a foreclosure letter in the mail day before yesterday. Seems the house payment he was making got used for other things. In the last year he has increased our monthly debt by $1000.00 on loans that do not have my name on them but have been cosigned by his father but guess what as his wife I am still responsible.He doesn't even bring home $1,000/month.

  Some of my other posts had more history to my past and some posters here know more about my situation. There has been more than just words to my children from him. Do you have children? It seems easy for you to talk negatively about them...I am assuming you are speaking from experience?

  Edited by - nita6368 on 8 January 2003 10:49:14

  Edited by - nita6368 on 8 January 2003 10:50:8
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  I am confused......Any opinions???

  by nita6368 in

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  i have read alot of the advice offered on this board and was hoping to broaden my thoughts on my problem any opinons will be appreciated.

  i have been married for 3 years.

  i don't have any children by this man but have 3 from a previous marriage.

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  Excuse me Hekate?

  Life is a pretty good teacher and while these individuals may or may not be psychologists (you need to watch who you are putting down there are many phd holders on this board!) they have many years of life's experience behind them. What would a psychologist tell me? They would tell me to leave, to take care of my children first,myself ,then worry about others. I know that, I knew that before I posted this. I am a social worker and deal with these kinds of situations everyday. But you know what, its a little harder when its yourself. It's easy to cast judgement when you are removed from the situation. So I wasn't looking for a solution or an easy way out on this board but what I was looking for I found...a little fellow feeling, some encouragement, some support. There are many on this board who had long happy relationships and I would take there advice alot quicker than someone who has never been in a relationship but has been through 8 years of school and read alot of books. As far as me not taking responsibility on myself, you don't know me or anything about me. I guess maybe I didn't understand the meaning for your post, seem strange for a lurkers first post to be one tearing down the other posters but hey to each their own.
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  Fornication or loving intimacy???

  by Raisputin in

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  so, my question is (and i am posting this on the other board as well for any that know me there).. what is the difference between "fornication" and "loving intimacy"?

  by loving intimacy, yes i am still talking about sex, but i am speaking of sex between two people that care about each other and are in a relationship of some sort as opposed to a one-night stand..... for me the difference would be:.

  "fornication": 1 night stand.

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  I agree with SS and Syn..(I think)

  I don't think Sex and Love go together in the same context. Sex is sex and Love is love. You can love someone you don't have sex with. You can have sex with someone you don't love. Just because you are having sex with someone you love doesn't make it intitmate. Sex has always been taboo and religions try and make it not so by saying it is ok and beautiful if you are married , in a loving committed relationship. But what it all boils down to is sex is sex. Human function, reproductive function. Can be beautiful, might not be.
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  "Alone I break" if how I feel inside

  by Truth2Me in

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  " i wanted to cry but i was too numb inside.

  several days went by, i had my judicial hearing (i think that was sunday), they told me that i was going to be disfellowshipped.

  i accepted that i deserved that.

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  ((((Truth2Me)))

  Wow what an experience...You are such a strong person! You may not feel that way right now, but you have gotten through so much.I believe we come into contact with the people in our lives for a specific reason, to learn something, to complete something possibly. You are just getting the not so desirable ones out of your way early on :) This is a great place to interact with some really great people. Sometimes when you stop looking for that "right" person thats when you find them. I agree with what Comf said. You have to learn to love yourself before you can love someone else.You seem like a great person don't let anyone treat you different. My email is open if you ever need to talk, vent, complain..whatever