Posts by notalone

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one thing about all these pedophiles cases i cant understand is..

by nowwhat? in

as a parent, if it was my kid i would go straight to the police and or beat the living shit out of the perpetrator.

were all these parents of the victims brain dead or that indoctrinated?.

notalone

As a parent of one molested in the congregation this is what we did. 1. get counseling 2. inform the elders, but not formally. 3. carefully inform friends and those with children to exercise caution. 4. When she was ready, go to the police ( this can be very traumatic and we wanted to ready to face it) 5. formally go to elders

6. elders tell you to forgive and sit in hall with molester.7 receive death threats 8. get restraining order 9. told if you pursue your implied invitation to attend hall will be revoked. 10 pursue 11 elders harass 12 send elders cease and desist letters for not following court order 13 can't disfellowship us but they go around telling others to view us that way 14. find out we do have a few real friends 15 find this site 16 personal research 17.TTATT 18 freedom

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BLONDIE'S COMMENTS YOU WILL NOT HEAR AT THE FEBRUARY 12, 2017 WT STUDY (MINDING THE SPIRIT) #1

by blondie in

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in 4 segments because won't post all.. .

segment 1. .

blondie’s comments on the february 12, 2017 wt study (november 2016) (minds on spirit).

notalone

Thank you for biting the bullet. This is really helpful for those of us who are still able to communicate with those in.It was also very helpful when analyzing some deep attitudes about having a full life. Thank you, so much.

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Childless elders need to piss off

by Steel in

anyone else think it's wrong to ask a women with small children to volunteer there time, ask if they like to come to a potential study etc etc?.

my wife just spent an entire day helping with a kingdom hall reno while i babysat.

i latter stepped out and saw half the elders having coffee because they had so many people show up, they were tripping over each other.. i also have no idea what tangible skill my wife offered or why it is important she needs to be there.. i just wish these men would man up and be men, instead of just wasting everyone's time on purpose.

notalone

Oh, I do so remember. I was pioneer.for several years When I had my kids I had to come off the list. I have two special needs children They assigned another pioneer to me so that I could 'learn' how to get my hours up.

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Introduction

by robrog8999 in

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hello all.... i am new here so i figured i'd make a quick post introducing myself and giving a brief intro as to who i am and what i'm here for... as well as to hopefully meet others.. so, i made a profile and in it i gave a pretty detailed explanation as to my intent here and exactly why i decided to participate in the boards.

in case you don't read it, i'll give a brief summary.

the name is robert.

notalone

Dear Robert, I was a 4th generation jw. My family had been in it from the time of Russell. I Pioneered (90 hrs a month in door to door activities) I moved to where the need was greater twice. I have read everything that has been printed since the 50's. I read their old encyclopedia and both volumes of their newer encyclopedia twice. Every morning and night before bed I read the daily text. I worked hard to read a chapter in the Bible each night. I loved Revelation and Daniel and thrived on prophecy. I sang kingdom songs as lullaby's to my children and home schooled them. I was so in. Christianity is not about knowing things, though this is valuable. Christianity is about who you are, your relationship with Almighty God and Jesus. Christianity is about seeing and interacting with others the way Jesus did. Christianity is about taking Christ's teaching into your heart and life. Christianity is indelibly entwined with the grace of God. Jehovah's witnesses do not have any idea what that is. I remember the day when a lady I was visiting with mentioned 'grace'. In my mind and heart there was nothing. When I looked it up, there was still nothing. The idea of grace was foreign. So I looked everywhere I could. To be one of Jehovah's Witnesses you must first and completely recognize you will always be ,undeserving,. The only way you will ever have any value is to work continuously to follow the ever changing whims of the governing body ( seven men who dispense all current knowledge from God) PLEASE, unless you are a pedophile, look up the Australian Royal Commission. This happens everywhere! As to religions that do not believe in the Trinity, Unitarians do not believe in the trinity or a burning hell and they allow you to take the spiritual path you need to follow and not shun you if your path differs from them. If it is spiritual freedom you are looking for, please keep looking.

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If you had the power ....

by Landy in

...would you choose to ban the jw religion?.

if you wouldn't ban them what, if any, changes would you force upon them?.

notalone

All religions must pay all 'volunteers' or member's of 'religious orders' a working wage.All religious corporations would pay the same taxes as any other corporation They must contribute fully in their countries toward the social security system. They would be subject to worker's comp. There can be no parallel judicial system.There would be no religious exemption for reporting crimes.Any violation of personal rights would face specific fines

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Birthday Wishes Welcome!

by LifesNotOver in

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many of you don't know me or won't remember me.

i left the jw's and my husband and my home last september - forging a new life in a new town.

i haven't posted here for many months, but have been reading most days.

notalone

may you have a happy 1st, 2nd, 3rd,4th,5th,6th, 7th.8th,9th,10,11th,12th,14th,15th,16th,17th,18th,19th,20th,21st,22nd,23rd,24th,25th,26th,27th,28th,29th,30th,31st,32nd,33rd,34th,35h,36,37th,38th,39th,40th,41st,42nd,43rd,44th,45th,46th,47th,48th,49th,50th,51st,52nd,53rd,54th,55th,56th,57th,58th,59th,60th,61st,62nd,63rd,64th,65th,66th,67th,68th,69th,70th,and 71th birthday and many, many more.

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The handling of child abuse allegations

by Landy in

there's a lot of criticism surrounding the jw's handling of chiild abuse within their ranks with a lot of it being well deserved.

but i'm interested to know how people on here think child abuse allegations should be handled.

there's a few scenarios below, the first couple are easy then it gets a bit more complex.

notalone

Interesting choice for scenarios, very odd choices. These seem a bit leading. All allegations that sexual abuse or unwanted sexual activities should go directly to the police, do not involve the elders. This is a crime and as we have been told they are not police.Then go to a professional that has been trained to help with the healing process for the attack. If after all these have been done and you feel that you personally are in need of solely spiritual help, and you believe that the elders are qualified to offer that help go to them with the understanding that they are only to deal with your spiritual well being. There are to be no discussions related to the perpetrator nor the crime you or anyone else were a victim of.

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My families shunning has gone to a whole new level

by pale.emperor in

8 months df'd.

loving a life of freedom.

however, my family are all shunning me.

notalone

Dearest Pale Emperor, I am sorry to hear that your family has made it clear that their choice is, in their eyes, permanent.This can be very unsettling, but you can see this as the opportunity it is. Sometimes we see people for what we want them to be not what they are. Now that you are separate from them and with a little distance you can see the 'fruits' of those who were once part of your life. Read psychology and self-help books.Get counseling. They are out of your life, now get them out of your head.Recognize the unhealthy patterns that exist with these people, then honor yourself and your daughter. Promise yourself that from now on you will only build relationships with those that en spouse traits you value and encourage the best of humanity. Don't allow those who treat you as less than to be an integral part of your life. Teach this to your daughter by who you are. In this way you can break the chain of abuse and build a better life for you and your daughter.

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What finally helped you to peek behind the curtain

by UnshackleTheChains in

i'm interested in finding out what it was that finally enabled you to open your eyes to the real truth of watchtower.

what started me thinking, was the societys very own book...' 'revelation..it's grand climax at hand'.

i found that book farcicle.

notalone

Being told our "implied invitation" to attend the kingdom hall would be revoked if we moved froward with legal action with a molestor in the cong.

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to all a thank you

by notalone in

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to all on this site who from their hearts participate, thank you.

you encourage thought, offer support and share laughs, thank you.

you may never know what point has touched a heart or opened a mind.

notalone

To all on this site who from their hearts participate, thank you. You encourage thought, offer support and share laughs, thank you. You may never know what point has touched a heart or opened a mind. You may never know who in deepest despair or facing an overwhelming challenge was inspired by what was shared here. So to all of you, thank you.