Posts by CivilServant79

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Should I do this?

by CivilServant79 in

hi there this is my first post as i’m not sure what to do.

my family (both sides) are well known in our circuit and very dedicated to the truth.

but we’re relatively normal people and i love them all so much.

CivilServant79

Thanks yes you’re right. It’s a lot to take on board.

By the way I am an Male haha! I guess I didn’t actually mention that.

Yes i I know about the elders book and read the newest version.

A committee can only be formed if I do something wrong and there’s witnesses to it no?

I know fading something that doesn’t go quickly. It seems like the less you say and do, the better.

I have moved away not far tho, maybe about half an hours drive away.

I’m going to have to get my head around not being with my extended family. I am/was very very close to them. I lived with my grandparents for 3 years and it’s hard.

But I think they’ll shun me whether I’m disfellowed or not...

thanks again everyone

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Should I do this?

by CivilServant79 in

hi there this is my first post as i’m not sure what to do.

my family (both sides) are well known in our circuit and very dedicated to the truth.

but we’re relatively normal people and i love them all so much.

CivilServant79

Hi there guys. I’m blown away with all your responses. Thanks all of you so much.

The reasons why I’m not sure to do is that I was very dedicated to the religion and was nearly a servant at 18 and pioneered etc. My mum avoided her meetings with the elders like your recommending me to do but was DFd anyway.

To DesirousofChange - I was thinking of saying that the depression is making me cynical re a god etc I wear my heart on my sleeve

you cant get DFd for a lack of faith?

I’m very very close to my witness family and for example when someone’s depressed over the course of a year they maybe go to one or two meetings if they have days they’re feeling better. But I won’t be going back again so it will get to a point surely where they’ll know it’s not just the depression and I’m kind of getting to that point.

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Should I do this?

by CivilServant79 in

hi there this is my first post as i’m not sure what to do.

my family (both sides) are well known in our circuit and very dedicated to the truth.

but we’re relatively normal people and i love them all so much.

CivilServant79

Hey guys thanks so much for your advice. I see what you mean. Glad to have joined the forum.

It’s hard not being able to express how I really feel.

I wont criticise the org but should I say I just genuinely don’t believe in a god?

thanks again guys

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Should I do this?

by CivilServant79 in

hi there this is my first post as i’m not sure what to do.

my family (both sides) are well known in our circuit and very dedicated to the truth.

but we’re relatively normal people and i love them all so much.

CivilServant79

Hi there this is my first post as I’m not sure what to do.

my family (both sides) are well known in our circuit and very dedicated to the truth. But we’re relatively normal people and I love them all so much.

My parents were alcoholics so both were DFd and then my dad died. My mum came back but has since faded. As a result my younger sister and brother didn’t have the same experiences as me so didn’t stick with it and didn’t and won’t get baptised.

When I was being raised my parents were doing well so I always took to the religion.

I got baptized when I was 17 - 5 years ago. I left school and worked with my family business but over time I’ve decided I don’t believe in God and have made changes to start fading. I got a new job, moved to a new town etc. And have stopped associating and going to meetings.

Only some people know I want to leave. Some people think I’m just depressed and that’s why I’m not going

The elders are wanting to meet up. I said I couldn’t. My uncles is the coordinator. And he’s offered to meet up just me and him for a coffee.

Shoukd i do this?

do I tell him I don’t believe ?

or or do I say I’m depressed (which I am but not the reason I’m not going)

I’m not leading an immoral life at this point.