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Ex JW Discussion Boards

by Boredposter in

jw
friends

are there any left besides this one?

or is facebook the only other gathering place?

there use to be many other entertaining boards out there with x jw's..

Ex JW Discussion Boards

by Boredposter in

jw
friends

are there any left besides this one?

or is facebook the only other gathering place?

there use to be many other entertaining boards out there with x jw's..

Boredposter

Are there any left besides this one? Or is Facebook the only other gathering place? There use to be many other entertaining boards out there with x JW's.

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Why are there more sisters than brothers at the Kingdom Hauls?

by Sour Grapes in

i have always wondered why there are more females than males in all of the congregations that i have visited?

some of these females are in their 70's so maybe their husbands have died and women just live longer.

or could the reason be that years ago men were the breadwinners and women stayed home to raise the children thus they were home during the week when the jdubs came a knocking?

Why are there more sisters than brothers at the Kingdom Hauls?

by Sour Grapes in

i have always wondered why there are more females than males in all of the congregations that i have visited?

some of these females are in their 70's so maybe their husbands have died and women just live longer.

or could the reason be that years ago men were the breadwinners and women stayed home to raise the children thus they were home during the week when the jdubs came a knocking?

After leaving the JWs - Has anyone stayed with Christianity?

by rulehayl in

i recently made the decision to stop studying with my study conductor, due to a situation i found myself in that led to a high possibility of my unbaptized publisher "rights" being taken away from me.

i have since told my study conductor i have joined a new church (to which she dropped me like a hot rock, of course).... last time i posted on here, i was progressing nicely towards baptism, and was well into it.anyhoo, i like my new church, very hillsong-esqe.

so just wondering if anyone else has stayed the course of christianity after leaving the jws, and if so - where did you go?

Boredposter

From what I can tell it use to be more common that when people left the JW's many (maybe most?) would stay christian. However, things have changed (perhaps along with society) that now most who leave become agnostic/atheist/Humanist.

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JW's make the big time news

by eyeuse2badub in

lifestyle.

ex-jehovah's witnesses break silence on shunning: 'my mother treats me like i'm dead'.

detroit free press 3 hours ago .

Boredposter

https://youtu.be/T1Q0M7Wuuqc

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Shunning and Changes to the Brain

by Boredposter in

all who are shunned know the adverse effects of such.

we feel it.

we know how it has changed us.

Boredposter

Thanks Berry.

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Shunning and Changes to the Brain

by Boredposter in

all who are shunned know the adverse effects of such.

we feel it.

we know how it has changed us.

Boredposter

All who are shunned know the adverse effects of such. We feel it. We know how it has changed us. But does it the experience change our brain? I believe it does. I base this on my own talks with pschyologists, therapists, research and my own experience. I don't know how in depth this has been studied though by actual researchers. I would like to see it done. If you know of such research ease post it. I have linked below research done as to trauma and the brain changing. I believe shunning is trauma and in most cases what led up to shunning is someone who has been through trauma.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3181836/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/workings-well-being/201703/how-heal-the-traumatized-brain

http://bigthink.com/philip-perry/been-traumatized-here-is-how-ptsd-rewires-the-brain.amp

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JW's make the big time news

by eyeuse2badub in

lifestyle.

ex-jehovah's witnesses break silence on shunning: 'my mother treats me like i'm dead'.

detroit free press 3 hours ago .

Boredposter

I think we agree Jeff on the extreme shunning as being unreasonable. What is reasonable then? Something else for sure. What is discipline? A correction, a readjustment. Some people might say tough love but even in tough love support is not withdrawn from people (outside of JW's). I think this question goes to the very core of what religion/myth is supposed to do. Yes, the big questions are supposed to be answered but there is also some sort of transformation that takes place in a person. Something a person can rely in even in the toughest of situations. Clearly, this hasn't happened for someone disfellowshipped. Why? That is the question and how can it be achieved? Taking all support from someone is obviously not the answer. But what is?

In my opinion disfellowshipping is the ultimate failure. It is the 'easy way out for elders'. A huge failure in helping someone to transform their inner self.

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JW's make the big time news

by eyeuse2badub in

lifestyle.

ex-jehovah's witnesses break silence on shunning: 'my mother treats me like i'm dead'.

detroit free press 3 hours ago .

Boredposter

These articles always seem to show the two sides with a huge gap in ideology between them. Someone can read these two sides and agree with both. It would seem 'reasonable' to have to have some form of 'discipline' in a religion to hold people accountable.

However, JW.org needs to recognize the pscychological vulnerability of people who are shunned. Simply dropping all support to a person in such a fragile state is criminal. Most people are disfellowshipped after that person voluntarily seeks help for a problem they are having. They usually have some pscychological issues going on already. The action is simply a symptom of those issues. They usually already know what they have been doing is wrong (which is why they seek help with the elders). To take away support at that time is not the right course of action. There needs to be a reform put in place which gives a 'time out as they say) but also gives support.