Posts by Theonlyoneleft

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how do you perceive God ?

by stan livedeath in

what i'm trying to do is ask what theists think god is like.. also--why is he invisible.. how big is he ?.

in fact--why is god a he--not a she.

or is he / she hermaphrodite ?.

Theonlyoneleft

Stan,

until a while ago, I still believed that there was a God and a son, Jesus as well as an overall of religious beliefs.

but... since I have joined this site I have had the privilege of reading some of many experiences and stories and explanations of some of the things that I believed.

I’m no longer 100% sure that there’s a God, or even the story of evolution. This is so weird to me.

i used to say often to myself.... better do the right thing... God’s watching. I still feel like that some of the time but then I wonder why I’m still thinking like it.

I’m on the path of researching. I no longer know what I believe.

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Unique JW Phrases 101

by Solzhenitsyn in

what unique to jws phrases do you remember?

something fun for those of us taught to speak an entirely unique and pure language.

there have been posts in the past in this forum but perhaps some have new ones after having kept up with jehovah's chariot as the light gets brighter.

Theonlyoneleft

“Last days.”

”no illness in paradise”.

Here’s a good one “Conscientious decisions.”

“Blood fractions”.

Governing body.

so many... hard to keep track of it all. So much bullshit that my eyes water. 💦

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The Watchtower stole from me and you too

by rickroll in

think of how much time and money the tower stole from any who were in the cult.

think of the vacations as a child you could have taken with your families the memories you could have made instead of sitting in a hot bs week of echo talks and propaganda.

they stole so much from us.

Theonlyoneleft

@stan,

Oh stan that’s so sad. I hope they one day get released and can meet you.

Darn! The ones that don’t have a grandpa...want one.... and the ones that do.... don’t know how lucky they really are. 😔

••••••••••••••••••

I was lucky to not stay in there for long even if my family is still there. All siblings and nieces and nephews.

Every time my children do something amazing I’m reminded that they are free to do whatever they want and to see life in a different way that I did when I was their age, I’m happy and satisfied that they escaped all the bullying that I went through.

in other hand I know that my nephews are pretty happy going to meetings and social events and conventions etc. I have a nephew that has the most kind heart and naive soul ever.

I’m glad I know the truth isn’t the truth and that I have options in life.

To those that spent many years inside.... I can only wish that you are making the most of it now.

Life is really sooo short, the only way to win is to live and stick two fingers up to the GB, the WT and the rest of it.

Long live us!

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The reactive mind vs the thoughtful mind...

by RayoFlight2014 in

jw
friends

a thought came to me as i was posting on another topic.

my reactionary mind, responding to watchtower's cruel and hostile treatment of genuine truthseekers who can no longer reconcile with watchtower's narrative was, " may the collapse begin".. but then my thoughts turned to how that would affect my parents and siblings who are blissfully oblivious with their collective heads in the sand.

all their hopes and future joy has been postponed for decades awaiting paradise while fighting off the black dog that is depression.

Theonlyoneleft

Rayoflight,

i really feel for you and understand your worries.

Whatever or whenever happens in the future, they are blessed for having you to help them deal with the ugly feelings and also maybe the reality of the freedom that they will have too.

I wish you all the best, your family is very lucky to have someone that deeply cares and will continually support them in their struggles.

I’m sure when the times comes you’ll be there awaiting in the wings to take action.

Good luck for the future ☺️.

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The reactive mind vs the thoughtful mind...

by RayoFlight2014 in

jw
friends

a thought came to me as i was posting on another topic.

my reactionary mind, responding to watchtower's cruel and hostile treatment of genuine truthseekers who can no longer reconcile with watchtower's narrative was, " may the collapse begin".. but then my thoughts turned to how that would affect my parents and siblings who are blissfully oblivious with their collective heads in the sand.

all their hopes and future joy has been postponed for decades awaiting paradise while fighting off the black dog that is depression.

Theonlyoneleft

@RayoFlight,

The other day I was thinking about the same thing. That maybe it’s selfish of me to want my family away from this cult, there’s no guarantee that they would ever recover from it if they leave. They seem to have their ducks in a row and live a simplistic but fulfilling spiritual lives.

The younger ones probably would but the older ones that dedicated their whole life to it, with a hope of seeing our gone parents would be very difficult to accept their ignorance of it all.

The loss of stability, family and friends is too great to keep them going through their doubts.

I feel sorry that my family are in this but to be honest the more I read about it the more I think that it’s a blessing in disguise that if they never wake up and find out the real truth, that they will live a life filled with contentment surrounded by those they see as real friends.

Saddens me too.... but it’s safer this way... I regret to say.

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Heidi Hall: Life after WTS Good read

by blondie in

jw
friends

https://religionnews.com/2019/09/26/finding-a-faith-that-is-stronger-than-death-or-my-familys-rejection/.

in my search, i left behind conditional, behavior-based love and traded it for the unconditional grace shown by a true family, whose bonds have nothing to do with dna.. and i’m dying grateful for that.. (heidi hall, who died sept. 25, 2019, at age 49, was a veteran journalist whose award-winning career took her from the standard democrat in sikeston, missouri, and the southeast missourian to the tampa tribune and the nashville tennessean before landing her at vanderbilt university’s public affairs office.

the views expressed in this commentary do not necessarily reflect those of religion news service.

Theonlyoneleft

Thank you for sharing Blondie.

😢😞

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My "shameless" relationship with my ex wife

by Jayk in

i've thought about keeping this to myself but i'm still confused on what i should do.. my ex wife(never been a jw) and myself(raised in the org till 16)have been reconnecting these past few weeks.

we been divorced for almost 10 years, we got married when we where pretty young, and it didnt last long.. fast forward 10 years, her and i have been reconnecting and things are getting semi serious.. she got remarried, divorced again, and recently broke up with her gf.

so in the past 10 years she has only been with 3 people (including myself) and here comes me "a sucker with no self esteem".

Theonlyoneleft

Jayk,

commumication.

If you want to have a relationship with her, tell her how you feel and include the children in this... as if things go serious they will become part of your life too.

Let her know that you would prefer to take things slow as of to prevent the mistakes of the past.

Also there’s two children to consider now. The last thing you or her would like to do is that you would built a relationship with the children just to end up in heartache later on, for all of you in the end.

Problems can be worked on if there’s respect for one another, mutual space and love for each other.

Leave your feelings by the door and also ask yourself... what advice would I give to a friend if they found themselves in this situation?

Good luck with whatever you decide.

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Activism works! Success!

by ZindagiNaMilegiDobaara in

jw
friends

want to keep as short as possible, if any questions just ask.. just this weekend gone, i had two visitors (pimi single bros).they came round for a visit and a long chat.they had so many questions now that they have woken.

they are planning their fading(??

), one is an ministerial servant .

Theonlyoneleft

Sometimes a little seed grows into the most wonderful tree!

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Reinstatement/dating

by Pinky in

a month ago i was reinstated as a jehovah’s witness.

he was not disfellowshipped.

in my meeting i was told that i could not become involved with the man that i committed a sin with, which is adultery once i’m reinstated.

Theonlyoneleft

Some Years ago my sister did the same. But they were both a single brother and sister.

Once they were kicked out they carried on seeing each other and lived together.

As they both wanted to return, they got married in a rush and started working towards forgiveness.

they got both reinstated a few years ago...didn’t take long.

but what she got was not what she expected.... an abusive husband and now stuck without the freedom to do anything as He is the head of the family blah blah blah.

You must have your reasons to be reinstated, but remember that you’ll live a conditioned life, never free. You can still serve God without the organisation of organised religion.

Maybe stick around and read others experiences and this will give you a insight of what’s really going on in the organisation.

also check Marc and Cora on YouTube. They had a similar story. They where told they couldn’t get married by the elders as they were both divorced people but fell in love and ignored the advice.

they were then disfellowshipped because they wanted to live their lives together. They are a good example of what the organisation ideas can be very wrong.

good luck.

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Do You Think People Should Be Scorned For Wearing A Red MAGA Hat?

by minimus in

jw
friends

do you support free choice to wear a political hat or article of clothing?

if someone wants to put a bumper sticker on their car in support of a political candidate or party, should they be able to do it without fear of being maligned or abused?

?.

Theonlyoneleft

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=nV3cafvqFOk