Posts by 3rdgen

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Goodbye, everyone.

by Chemical Emotions in

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some of you were really nice.

some of you were really mean to me, and at this point in my life i can't handle such meanness.

i thought this would be my one place to truly express my feelings without too much mocking or insults from people who i thought were nicer, but i was wrong.

Dear CE, It's a shame you felt hurt by some of the comments about your situation with your BF. I hope I wasn't one who offended you. Many, if not all of us were honestly trying to spare you from learning some of lifes lessons we have learned the HARD way.

I am a born in JW who fell in love and married when I was 17 and he was 21. I overlooked some warning signs such as lying and some others. I regret not listening to my inner voice that had some doubts about him. At one point I even tried to break up with him but he cried so hard and made me feel so guilty I let him manipulate me out of it. It turns out he was living a double life and i didn't find out until many years later. By that time there were children and the break-up was very much more devistating than if I would have trusted my own better judgement in the first place.

You are bright enough to come here and seek the opinions of others. You wisely decided to seek professional counciling. Keep thinking about what we said and be alert to warning signs. Realize real love is not somthing you are in it's something you do. That goes for your partner too. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to be loved for who you are. Best of luck to you.

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Goodbye, everyone.

by Chemical Emotions in

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friends

some of you were really nice.

some of you were really mean to me, and at this point in my life i can't handle such meanness.

i thought this would be my one place to truly express my feelings without too much mocking or insults from people who i thought were nicer, but i was wrong.

3rdgen

Dear CE, It's a shame you felt hurt by some of the comments about your situation with your BF. I hope I wasn't one who offended you. Many, if not all of us were honestly trying to spare you from learning some of lifes lessons we have learned the HARD way.

I am a born in JW who fell in love and married when I was 17 and he was 21. I overlooked some warning signs such as lying and some others. I regret not listening to my inner voice that had some doubts about him. At one point I even tried to break up with him but he cried so hard and made me feel so guilty I let him manipulate me out of it. It turns out he was living a double life and i didn't find out until many years later. By that time there were children and the break-up was very much more devistating than if I would have trusted my own better judgement in the first place.

You are bright enough to come here and seek the opinions of others. You wisely decided to seek professional counciling. Keep thinking about what we said and be alert to warning signs. Realize real love is not somthing you are in it's something you do. That goes for your partner too. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to be loved for who you are. Best of luck to you.

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You may be a jw if.....

by just Ron in

you may be a jw ........if you spent last saturday traped in a car with at least 4 other people you may be a jw.. if you have sat through a sheparding call where you were told you are unworthy you may be a jw.. if you have alienated your worldly relatives with your preaching you may be a jw.. if you have ticked some one of buy knocking on their door on one of their religous holidays you may be a jw.. if you think the governing body is goods direct channel you may be a jw.. if you have no clue when this system is going to end you may be a jw.. .

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ron.

3rdgen

If you racked up a boatload of debt in the early 70's and laughed because you knew you'd NEVER have to pay it back.

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You are never too old to learn.

by Glander in

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men teaching .

meets 4 weeks, tuesday and thursday for 2 hours beginning.

meets 4 weeks, tuesday and thursday for 2 hours beginning at 7:00 pm..

3rdgen

#7 Yes, but why would you? And why not add a glass of good red wine and candles?

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If You Could See ANY Musical Group or Singer Of ANY Generation Who Would It Be?

by minimus in

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i never saw the king, live, in concert.

if i could've i would have wanted to see elvis.

i rarely listen to him but it would been great to see him in his prime.. and i would've loved it if i could have seen the 60's versions of the temptations!.

3rdgen

Without a doubt it would be the Beatles mid 60's Doors late 60's Stones almost anytime. I saw Elvis at lake Tahoe in the mid 70's. He was overweight and a characature of his former self. Still we had a blast as it was a girls night out. Saw Dillon the sound was bad at the venue . Saw Tom Petty in 82. He was AWSOME! Saw Blondie at the same concert. She was great.

Hubby just said he'd love to go to a Jimmy Buffet concert and wear a chicken hat. Haha I think I'd like that too

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Pre-emptive shunning - a growing reality

by cedars in

i'm scanning through some of the results from the 2012 jw survey as they're coming in.. the most populous of the six voting categories with 76 voters so far is my own category, for those who are inactive, or "faded/fading" (not disfellowshipped or da'd, but no longer reporting time on the ministry).. one statistic already leaping out at me surrounds the question "do you experience 'pre-emptive shunning' from active witnesses, who view you as 'bad association'?

" of the 74 who voted on this so far, 76% have answered "yes" to this question.. it's early days, and obviously i will have a clearer picture of the extent of the problem once the survey closes at the end of the year.

however, the results already in suggest that pre-emptive shunning is widespread among inactive ones, despite this not being an "official" policy of the society.. i was interested in your opinions as to why this may be?

3rdgen

00Dad, So true!

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Pre-emptive shunning - a growing reality

by cedars in

i'm scanning through some of the results from the 2012 jw survey as they're coming in.. the most populous of the six voting categories with 76 voters so far is my own category, for those who are inactive, or "faded/fading" (not disfellowshipped or da'd, but no longer reporting time on the ministry).. one statistic already leaping out at me surrounds the question "do you experience 'pre-emptive shunning' from active witnesses, who view you as 'bad association'?

" of the 74 who voted on this so far, 76% have answered "yes" to this question.. it's early days, and obviously i will have a clearer picture of the extent of the problem once the survey closes at the end of the year.

however, the results already in suggest that pre-emptive shunning is widespread among inactive ones, despite this not being an "official" policy of the society.. i was interested in your opinions as to why this may be?

3rdgen

00Dad, I agree 100% I know all too well the grief and sadness shunning causes and have the utmost sympathy for any and all who have/are experiencing it ESPECIALLY from the ones they love MOST- family. I didn't mean to sound callous. I only meant that when under the mind control of a cult it unfortunately often takes something SHOCKING and PERSONAL to wake up out of the fog.

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Pre-emptive shunning - a growing reality

by cedars in

i'm scanning through some of the results from the 2012 jw survey as they're coming in.. the most populous of the six voting categories with 76 voters so far is my own category, for those who are inactive, or "faded/fading" (not disfellowshipped or da'd, but no longer reporting time on the ministry).. one statistic already leaping out at me surrounds the question "do you experience 'pre-emptive shunning' from active witnesses, who view you as 'bad association'?

" of the 74 who voted on this so far, 76% have answered "yes" to this question.. it's early days, and obviously i will have a clearer picture of the extent of the problem once the survey closes at the end of the year.

however, the results already in suggest that pre-emptive shunning is widespread among inactive ones, despite this not being an "official" policy of the society.. i was interested in your opinions as to why this may be?

3rdgen

My hubby and I experienced "premptive shunning" by some JWs in our former cong and by most of our realatives. Our family shuns for different reasons than the the former "friends". Our family live out of our circuit and even our district yet managed to find out we are inactive. They shunned us because we asked them to pay back money they owe to my very elderly, widowed, faithful JW mother. They didn't want to and they were EMBARASSED that we knew about the large gifts and loans that mom gave nearly all of her realatives (siblings, nieces, nephews) throught all their lives. Now that SHE is in need they refuse even a nickel. These are pious-sneers, and elders and their wives. They shun us because we remind them of their hypocracy.

The local dubs who shun us do so for the usual reasons already stated by others. The shunning for NO valid reason whatsoever got us to start waking up. Frankly, as I see it , those hypocrits are HELPING the dubs they shun. By showing "no natural affection" they cause doubts, distress, and anger. All the emotions to make a dub BRAVE enough to look more closely at his beliefs and the organization as a whole. Only after "pre-emtive shunning" was I willing to come to this site. Once here......

The rest is history.

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Miraculous news about my daugher, Ali

by coffee_black in

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it's a little over a year since my daughter was diagnosed with end stage congestive heart failure due to a virus.

her dr. was talking heart transplant then.. i almost lost her 3 times over the past year due to complications.

2011 was a tough year to put it mildly.

3rdgen

Wonderful news!

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Awake openly mocked on website...

by Tuesday in

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http://blogs.sfweekly.com/exhibitionist/2012/02/5_hilarious_social_media_image.php.

this is actually not a former witness or anything, this is a cracked style article.

i think it's pretty funny, i think it's evidence that the wt is not going to be around forever.

3rdgen

Thank you, thank you, thank you, Tuesday, for posting this blog. Hubby and I are ROTFL. He did a spit take with his coffee. I need to change underpants. TMI? Sorry!