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  Breastfeeding in Bathrooms...

  by cognac in

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  the natick, ma assemble hall used to have it's own room for breastfeeding mothers.

  they changed this room to the accounting room or something like that and now have seats available for breastfeeding inside the bathroom.. there is one other small room available for breastfeeding but they close that off when the baptism is going on.

  needless to say, i used to get so pissed off that they actually wanted me to breastfeed in the bathroom that i would threaten to a brother that i would take my boob out in front of everybody and that is there problem because breastfeeding in a bathroom is unsanitary.. one year they put me in some backroom.

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  Ha ha ha ! I'm enjoying this thread. Not bc you awsome mothers suffered but bc it emphasises the cult think of the WTBT$. The comment about reminding nursing mothers this is no time to be having children is what my mother dealt with 61 years ago. I, in turn, heard it all through the 70's.

  When i finally had my babies in the early 80's mI y experience was different. First, I never had to attend a dc with a nursing baby due to the time they were born and weaned. (late preg. one year, weaned the next) Both born the same month.

  Second, the circuit assemblys had a nursing room. If they hadn't i would have nursed from my seat or the car depending on the weather.

  The biggest difference it seems is at the meetings. My cong. at the time was very liberal. Many were popping out babies after the 75 debacle. I found myself nursing with at least 4 or more moms at at time. It was a real gabfest. More like a nursury school than a cult meeting. Those that played it right hardly heard a word of the meeting and therefore became even less indoctrinated. I'm sure tales of this enjoyable association eventually got back to Brooklyn. They put a screeching halt to it.
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  Who here lives in California?

  by TimothyT in

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  if you do tell me a bit about where you live in just a few words.

  :).

  timmy :).

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  Hi, I live with Balaamsass in Nor Cal North of Mrs Jones. I want to move to So Cal because of the better climate and to be closer to my daughter. You guys should plan a visit and come see us.
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  5 Reasons Why the DEAF Masturbation Video is different than anything before...

  by BluePill2 in

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  as some of you have noticed the asl video warning against masturbation (another guilt trip) is creating waves.

  this is not small fry.

  1. it is humorous - most topics (like other policies) are serious/depressing (blood, shunning, pedos).

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  As a born in who remembers the horrified look on my mothers face when, at the meeting at age 3 I asked, " What does fornication mean? What does adultry mean? Hearing or deaf signing is irrelevant. JWs have for at least 60 yrs (probably much longer) used language and subjects inappropriate for children at the KH. The fact that much of what they stated as "Jehovah's viewpoint" was nowhere found in the scriptures is reason enough to leave the subjects alone.

  I remember some idiot who many years ago gave a talk to the hearing about the Song of Soloman. His talk would have been rated R if made into a movie. He REALLY got sexually explicit with his descriptions. When it was over the whole audience needed a cigarette! There were many children under 8yrs old whose parents were very uncomfortable. They mistakenly thought THEY would be able to decide when and how they would explain the "facts of life" to their kids. If this talk would have been put on video I guarentee it would have also gone viral.

  Inapropriate is inappropriate whether spoken or signed. If a speaker uses his voice, facial expressions and words in an over-dramatic way, IT'S FUNNY! !! Otherwise, how in the heck did Jim Carey get so popular????? Can you imagine Jim Carey giving a talk about the "Sin of Self-Abuse" with the WT$s OWN manuscript?????? ALL of us would be on the floor LOL. It's the delivery stupid. The hispanic translator is funny period. I'll bet his marriage talk is fuunny and even his announcements are funny. He's the deaf communities answer to Outlaw and Billy the ex Bethalite. Get it?
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  What's the next big THING...re: The WTS..that will come and go...

  by tresdecu in

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  rumor.

  2) 2 day convention rumor.

  3) sparlock.

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  DOC and Konceptual, I agree. The mind control is so strong a person has to become fed up, usually over multiple issues, over time, to BEGIN to look deep enough to find TTATT.

  I have spoken with two other posters on this board who, like me, said, "If the Elders and the rest, had shown just a TINY bit of kindness in my situation, I would still be in." Goofy or changing doctrines, or scandles are usually not enough to bump a true believer out. It takes a PERSONAL attack of some kind to make the person willing to explore the other issues that are troubling.
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  Too many partakers in the org? Help is on the way!

  by Billy the Ex-Bethelite in

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  is someone in your congregation confused?

  coming soon to the local congregations:.

  anointification neutralizer100 suppositories.

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  Billy I missed this until today. You kill me! What if there becomes a shortage of these anoinment neutralizers?

  I missed this the first time around. Billy you are the bomb! Wanna come to our house for beer, pizza, and charades? You can act out the part of the video on masterbation.
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  Any born-ins have this attitude about converts?

  by Nambo in

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  so there was this great gang of us, from south london, manchester and wolverhampton, went to socialise with a group in fishguard in wales.. amongst the conversations one of the single sisters stated, "i could never marry anybody who used to be in the world".. i guess a lifetime of knocking on doors had given her the impression there couldnt possibly be a convert in her midst, never mind later alone with her in her mgb.. so whats with this, did you think we had rat scabies or were possesed by demons or something?.

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  I agree that "hotness" trumps any stigma of being either too inexperienced or visa versa. Pretty people have no trouble getting the opposite sex to date them.

  As far as attitude goes I've noticed that assh***s are assh***s . Zeal is zeal. I know of zealous converts who looked down on the born ins as if they were Esau (sp?) not appriciating our spiritual gifts. But they were zealous "worldly people too. Workaholics and worse .OTOH, people who were laid back before converting tend to be laid back afterward. Its a personality thing apart from the cult.
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  Do you ever just start CRYING for apparently no reason?

  by Terry in

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  i spoke to a friend of mine about this not too long ago.. we are "of a certain age".. the subject came up somehow.. .

  i'll be watching a tv commercial or i'll see some people in a park or a simple passing thought will suddenly induce a profound.

  sense of---well, how to describe it?

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  Terry, Many good thoughts so far. I'd like to add that for several months after my surgery last winter I had bouts of crying for no appearent reason as well.

  My hubby would try to help me "reframe" by pointing out all the positives in our life compared to a few years ago-to no avail. I think 2 things were in play for me at this time. 1: A reaction to coming off the anesthiesa and pain meds. 2. After the adrenaline of the phyisical pain and emotional anxiety of illness had subsided I released the emotions that had pent up during the crisis. Maybe this is the case for you.

  I'll give you an example of my theory: I have a relative who had two babys (only 16mos apart) who were born with a rare disease similar to muscular dystrophy but advanced faster and more severe. She cared for them at home (along with 2 other healthy young children) as long as she could but at about age two they had to be hospatilized. For 7 and 3 years respectivly she watched them both suffer terribly and die. All during the ordeal she remained an active JW and devoted wife and mother. However, AFTER the crisis she had a complete nervous breakdown with non-stop crying. While we HAVE to be strong we usually are. When it is safe to unravel then we do.

  I have a hunch your crying will lessen over the next few months as you gain your physical strength and purge the residue from the meds and stress

  my 2 cents
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  JW Mom killed in house

  by Wordly Andre in

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  http://www.pe.com/localnews/murrieta/stories/pe_news_local_s_sdead29.4016de2.html

  murrieta - a 40-year-old mother of two was killed in her murrieta home monday morning, authorities said.

  coroner's officials identified the woman as isabelle jarka.

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  Lois L, You have a pm
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  I Could Really Use A Friend

  by Hargitay in

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  have been in the austin area for a little over a week in the midst of trying to start over.

  i was df'd recently after being in the truth my entire life.

  everyone has abandoned me, and i am lost out here.

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  Ok, I just read your last post. I'm so sorry you are in such dire straights. Now that you have left you will have to save up to get home. Find a soup kitchen NOW. Find a homeless shelter. There are also minesters and churches who actually help the needy on the spot. Salvation Army will point you to a meal. You can't think if you are hungry. Please call.
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  I Could Really Use A Friend

  by Hargitay in

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  have been in the austin area for a little over a week in the midst of trying to start over.

  i was df'd recently after being in the truth my entire life.

  everyone has abandoned me, and i am lost out here.

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  Hargitay, so sorry you were ambushed and betrayed by your own wife and family. Its bad enough to go through being wrongfully DFed let alone your situation. Deperssion and helplessness is understandable but please don't let the sadness cloud your thinking. 1st: You DO have value and rights. DFing even for apostacy is not necessarily "spiritual endangerment" which is grounds for separation in dubland. Why? Because IF you do not try to influence her to your thinking or interfere with any of her "Theotractic activites" you are not a danger to her "spirituality".

  2ond: You are indeed the head of the house in dubland. Go home. She has no authority to order you to leave. Don't enable this bad behavior. Your children have a right to easy access to their father. Call the police if you need an escourt back into your house.

  3rd: After you return, if she chooses to leave, don't enable her. Insist on your financial and parental rights and go to the local courthouse. They have facilitators who help people who can't afford an attorney to file for separation. Do NOT file first if it eventually comes to divorce. If SHE chooses to file, she will NOT be allowed to remarry in Dubbie land unless you admit to porneia. DON"T EVER ADMIT TO IT!!! She will never be free to remarry (even if she does the deed) because you will say you forgive her. She will be single and alone or remarried and disfellowshipped.

  4: VERY IMPORTANT: Most US attorneys will consult with a prospective client for approx. 20 min free of charge to determine if they want to take the case. Find a recommended divorce attorney and find out your rights. Some might accept a contingency if they know there are assets.

  Did you have a job where you were living before? Don't quit it if you did. Like others have said, you did nothing wrong don't live like you did. Set the example for your kids that you are kind, loving, and STAYING in their lives and YOU did nothing wrong. Do not allow yourself to be bullied this way. We are pulling for you. We care. We, or those we know have been through what you are going through. PM me if you like. Take care, You can get through this.