Millie, thanks so much for the hug. You are such an asset to this board!
Posts by 3rdgen
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23JUNE 2017 Watchtower - Lost a loved one? Go out in service!
by pale.emperor inapparently going to the kingdom hall and getting out in the door to door ministry is the best way to get over the loss of a loved one.
who'dve thunk it?.
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JUNE 2017 Watchtower - Lost a loved one? Go out in service!
by pale.emperor inapparently going to the kingdom hall and getting out in the door to door ministry is the best way to get over the loss of a loved one.
who'dve thunk it?.
stash: /intesoft-inc.appspot.com/post/80e3cef960fd4eee9fd5cd757c438581.html
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3rdgen
This pinches an extremely sensitive nerve for me because I actually experienced this kind of "Comfort" when my 21yo son died in an accident. Rather than offering any real sympathy or help 2 of my relatives sent cards giving me (of all things) COUNSEL to strap on a bookbag and get preaching so that I would be able to see him again.
Mind you, hubby and I were exemplary JW's at the time! Those insulting and hurtful words at least helped me to begin to wake up!
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We are becoming champions of grief. We lost twin B.
by Darkknight757 inlast week we had a reassurance ultrasound with our ob.
she was just supposed to check heartbeats on the two little ones and they were going strong!
but because she had extra time and she can be quite anal about her work (which is a good thing) she decided to take some measurements.
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3rdgen
Sorry, my post was cut short.
I told you a shortened version of a long long story not to bring you down but to say I "get it" but that the human spirit is tougher than we can imagine. I want you to know that you have every reason to believe you will get through this. We feel for you and we CARE that you are hurting. You will never forget the precious child you lost but the pain will lessen- I promise. I send all my positive thoughts and well wishes to you and your doctors.
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We are becoming champions of grief. We lost twin B.
by Darkknight757 inlast week we had a reassurance ultrasound with our ob.
she was just supposed to check heartbeats on the two little ones and they were going strong!
but because she had extra time and she can be quite anal about her work (which is a good thing) she decided to take some measurements.
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3rdgen
Dear Darkknight and wife, I am truly sorry to hear of your situation. I can empathize with your overwhelming desire to be parents. I suffered almost 13 years of infertility. The testing, charting, major surgery, fertility drugs, failed adoption, took a terrible toll physically, emotionally, and financially. Month after endless month of disappointment, frustration, depression until........ I gave up ...... and got a job I really enjoyed and my husband decided he no longer wanted children.
Of course, THEN I became pregnant. I was beyond overjoyed and my husband ruined the news by being furious. Husband eventually softened his stance and I gave birth to a healthy beautiful boy.
A few months later we tried for a second child. This time BINGO success first month! The joy was short lived though, as I miscarried twins at 10 1/2 weeks. Of course, I was heartbroken, but at least I had my baby to ease the sting.
18 months later we had a beautiful healthy daughter. No more children were desired and no more came along. Fast forward 15 years ... a divorce straight from hell, two devastated teenagers, my dearest relative died, I remarried Baalamsass, the kids HATED him and moved 5 hours away with their criminal father and his roomate (who was charged with having sex with his handicapped stepdaughter) while we were on our honeymoon. Son and daughter got in serious trouble while I watched helplessly- the trainwreck. (authorities said the kids were old enough to consent!!!???)
Then at age 21 my son moved back with me and was doing great. Until that day(a couple of months later) that changed my life as much as the joyous news of my pregnancy. "++++++ died in an accident this afternoon".
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Inactive Witness Preaches To Me Today
by pale.emperor ina rather bizzare situation, this morning.
i was taking my daughter to the park, as i walk past a row of shops a car horn beeps and shouts me.
i turn round and see a car in a disabled parking space with a guy who used to go to my hall smiling and waving to me.
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3rdgen
Under, No doubt. I might have given her a real ration but she looked so pitiful. This once vibrant sexy woman is now dowdy and must walk with a cane. Her TBI has left her a shell of the person she once was. I didn't have the heart to reveal TTATT as now, in this state, she needs a group who accepts her "as is". She will drain the life out of her congregation. Oh well.....
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Inactive Witness Preaches To Me Today
by pale.emperor ina rather bizzare situation, this morning.
i was taking my daughter to the park, as i walk past a row of shops a car horn beeps and shouts me.
i turn round and see a car in a disabled parking space with a guy who used to go to my hall smiling and waving to me.
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3rdgen
PE, I have had a few experiences similar to yours. The most recent was a few months ago where I was at work in a retail store. In walks a former friend who was raised and baptized a JW but cheated on her first husband and escaped DFing by crying to the elders about her husband who thus became an alcoholic. (He was dfed, not her!)
Fast forward a few years and low and behold We both had moved several hundred miles away (she a few years prior) to the SAME congregation! We renewed our friendship 'cause she was a very happy, fun person to be around. So fun, in fact, that she and my (1st) husband flirted openly with each other. I later found out that he had given her $500.00 as a gift when he was penny-pinching me. She later meets my single and DFed cousin and hit it off great until he realized he could never take her home to meet his JW family. ( they had been fornicating like rabbits.) My cousin broke it off, then suddenly got cancer and died, I got a traumatic divorce, she became INACTIVE, I then avoided her because I was afraid she would "weaken" my faith. LOL
She next marries a much younger "worldly" man she barely knew. Soon after, she gets in a horrible car accident that killed her mother and left her with a traumatic brain injury and a divorce from the new hubby.
Meanwhile, my 2nd hubby and I learn TTATT and become merely inactive. I didn't see or hear from her until that day when she came into the store loudly asking if I was still a JW and if not, why not.
I simply said, "I don't believe it anymore." She loudly exclaimed, "Are you an Apostate???" I couldn't make a scene so I escorted her to the door, told her it was good to see her and walked her partway to her car.
The next day I started getting e-mails encouraging me to "return to Jehovah" I decided to ask her if anything "unusual" happened between her and *** (my 1st husband). Well, what do you know, the e-mails stopped. She is right where she belongs. Let Watchtower take care of her. LOL!
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How many years did you waste away in the Org?
by Tallon inin my case; 27 years.
7 of which were as a ministerial serpent ... sorry, i mean 'servant' ;).
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3rdgen
Born in to born in's. Was a pub at age 6 baptized at 12 was active until age 55 when I had a nervous breakdown. Learned TTATT at age 60. So I was enslaved for 60 years.
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Do JWs Regard You As An APOSTATE?
by minimus ini doubt people consider me an apostate but you never know.🤓.
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3rdgen
I have no way of knowing since no JW, not even relatives, will speak to me.
Not DFed, not DAed, No negative comments on social media, Simply inactive.
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Some years ago, elder talked bad things about me in field service.....
by Iamallcool ini just thought about my old congregation where an elder met worldly married couple in field service some years ago.
the couple knew me for years but we do not know each other very well and they mentioned my name to him and he started to talk bad things about me!
wtf!
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3rdgen
Like Blondie and so many others, I was gossiped about while I was still active. The gossip was malicious however, I had no idea I was the subject of such hurtful talk until I moved and changed congregations.
Balaamsass was an elder in the new hall and had heard so many stories about me and my ex that he and the CO made a "Shepherding call" on me to find out WTH was going on. I had absolutely NO idea I was "famous". LOL, It was as if I was walking all over town with toilet paper hanging out of my panties blissfully ignorant.
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Assembly Dramas:They were so bad.... but.... you waited for them to break away from the monotony!
by RULES & REGULATIONS in.
you do remember the four day assemblies... sitting outdoors being fried in the sweltering heat,getting heat stroke in the middle of july in an outdoor baseball stadium.sitting outdoors from 9:45 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. was so much fun while you wore a suit,long sleeve shirt and a tie while your brain fried.
mom's who had children to take care of,lug strollers,feed all the kids,take them for bathroom breaks and try to not faint from the heat.. the sound and audio was always breaking and barely audible from the wind,airplanes flying over and (if you attended the cicero,illinois circuit )you would smell horse manure from the horse stables next door.. you know that you are a jehovah's witness.... when the only excitement waiting for the drama... where brothers and sisters dress up in ancient cloths,fake beards,fake rocks and fake soldier uniforms and wave their hands incessantly to pretend that they are acting out a drama.the excitement was unbearable!.
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3rdgen
Dozy, I think we had the same parents!
8 days of blistering heat in the afternoon yet freezing early morn and at night. I was not allowed to sleep either.
I remember the hideous echo in the ball parks. Everyone sitting there nodding but not understanding a word.
Does anyone else remember the HOT pastrami on onion roll sandwiches in the 60's? The ice cream in a cup with wooden spoon? and SNOW CONES? YUMMMM The only things that made the sitting marathon bearable!