Our attorney tells us we should just hand it over.
That is because s/he realizes that your husband's ex was requesting all of that information in order to file the FASFA (Federal Application for Student Financial Aid). A FAFSA must be filed with the federal government in order for any college student to be considered for financial aid of ANY sort, including grants, loans and scholarships, from the college of his/her choice. The income of both parents is considered.
I am recently divorced and this is the first year I had to file the form as a divorcee. Basically, I had to prepare my ex's income tax for him, in order to be able to complete the FAFSA for the two children who are still his dependents according to our divorce decree and federal tax law.
Of course, I had prepared the FAFSAs for the family for the past three years and also was the one who paid the bills the past 25 years. So he was okay with it because 1/ he hates paperwork and 2/ he knew I'd keep the personal information from the kids. He's of the mind that he has to provide for them, but they don't need to know the details of his financial picture. That's okay by me...
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