i had previously posted here, got some great advice, now i need more.
my first post is at :.
http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/forum/thread.asp?id=27194&site=3&page=1.
Hi! I had previously posted here, got some great advice, now I need more. My first post is at :
http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/forum/thread.asp?id=27194&site=3&page=1
It's actually page 2 on this board under the title, "Why can't I date him"
Any input would be great!
i have recently met a wonderful man.
he is a jw, and has been all 25 years of his life.
i am not, and have not even known any all of my life.
OK....a little update for you. My heart is in the process of being broken. :-( Why oh why do we think with our hearts and not our minds? I KNEW that I should have stopped before it even started, but of course, I didn't. I tried to listen to everyones advice to run and run fast. But I didn't. Now, I'm afraid that he has gotten deep under my skin and into my heart, and it looks as if I am losing him, even as my friend. You see, we saw each other again recently, had a great time, nothing physical happened, said goodnight and went on our ways. Later that night, we had a pretty hot and heavy "fun" phone conversation. (I'll let you use your own imaginations) All was well when we hung up the phone, so I thought. That was 5 days ago. Now I am getting the royal shaft from him!! Hasn't called me or returned any of my phone calls. In the past when he has gotten spooked by his feelings for me, he has at least let me know that he can't see me or talk to me for awhile. This time it looks like he is taking the cowards way out. Just a good old fashioned blow off!! I thought JW's were supposed to be such "nice" people. HA-HA!! Just like a typical male, sorry guys. :-) Any ideas how I can get him out o my system??? Well just thought I'd let you know what's been going on. Anybody know where I can buy a muzzle for my heart? I need to learn to shut it up!! :-)
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i have recently met a wonderful man.
he is a jw, and has been all 25 years of his life.
i am not, and have not even known any all of my life.
WOW!!! I now have no choice but to run and to run FAST!!! All along he has been telling me that he just wants to be my friend, but at the same time also tellng me that he is getting extremely attached to me. SO we agreed to just speak on the phone and not see each other as often as we would like to. Well, that lasted for about a day. :-) But now he once again has told me that we need to keep our relationship on a friendship level, so he can't talk to me very much anymore either. YUCK!!! I thought regular guys were hard enough to handle....Now I've got one that has gotten under my skin and deep into my heart and there is absolutely nothing I can do about it!
i have recently met a wonderful man.
he is a jw, and has been all 25 years of his life.
i am not, and have not even known any all of my life.
Wow! Thanks for all of the responses! It sounds like I should run and fast!! Problem is, I'm getting a little hooked on him. Why is it that the best things in life are usually the things we cannot have? I believe I have, or should I say "we" have, the forbidden fruit syndrome? :-)
Next question, we have fooled around a little, nothing too serious, but he is telling me that what we did was wrong and that it is weighing quite heavily on his conscious. He has told me that he will have to "confess" to his elders to make things right. In my beliefs, if I have done something that I consider to be against my morals, I pray to God for forgiveness, try not to beat myself up to much, because we are all human, and we do make mistakes, and then I try to learn from my wrong doing and go on with my life. What exactly is the purpose of going to your elders and then before a jury of them? Will he be punished? And how many people in his life will he have to tell about what we did? Will I be viewed as a bad person? Or should I say an even worse person? :-) Doesn't God's forgiveness come from him and not some elders? I am confused!
I apologize if I have offended anyone, but being a non-JW, I guess I just don't get it. I believe that if you are sincere in asking for forgiveness, God will forgive you. But I guess I might just be plain crazy!! :-)
One more thing? In some of your replies, you have used the word "dub", what exactly is that?
the more i read some of the threads in this topic, the more i am becoming convinced that oral sex is viewed alomst worse than premarital sex.
is this true?
what is so horrible about it?
The more I read some of the threads in this topic, the more I am becoming convinced that oral sex is viewed alomst worse than premarital sex. Is this true? Why? What is so horrible about it? (NOTHING!! LOL) I am not a JW, currently interested in one though, and I am curious.....what is allowed?? Anything???
i have recently met a wonderful man.
he is a jw, and has been all 25 years of his life.
i am not, and have not even known any all of my life.
Here's another question...If he does choose me, why would he be dis-owned by his family and friends? Shouldn't they want happiness for him?
i have recently met a wonderful man.
he is a jw, and has been all 25 years of his life.
i am not, and have not even known any all of my life.
quote:
"As every one knows, there are mistakes in the Bible" - The Watchtower, April 15, 1928, p. 126
Believe in yourself, not mythology.
What does this mean? Mistakes in his bible or mine?
Elsewhere...are you a JW?
i have recently met a wonderful man.
he is a jw, and has been all 25 years of his life.
i am not, and have not even known any all of my life.
I have recently met a wonderful man. He is a JW, and has been all 25 years of his life. I am not, and have not even known any all of my life. We have been on a few dates, truly enjoy each others company, but he says that he cannot see me romantically. Even though he is falling for me. (same goes for me :-) ) He also says that he would like to be my friend, but technically he shouldn't. Help me understand this. WHY?? I thought we were all created equal in God's eyes. I respect his wishes for abstaining from premarital sex, and although I do not understand most of his beliefs, I respect them and would not try to change them. So if 2 people meet, hit it off wonderfully, have a great possibility of a wonderful future together, why is it to be denied? A little help please.
