My husband and I have sat down many times and asked them to just put it all out there. We have given each girl a chance to voice their feelings and thoughts and how they feel about the new family. The problem is is that when they dont hear us agree with every single thing that they have to say, they start to shut down. Now I personally have told them that their feelings are important and that they way that they express themselves is important but to be accusatory and demeaning to the other one is not going to be permitted in the house. I love my new daughter as if she were my own flesh and blood. My husband loves my daughter the same way. We dont take anyone's side in any arguement. We listen to them both and ask them how they think everything should be resolved. The biggest problem is that the oldes one feels that since she is the oldest, we should automatically side with her on each issue. When we dont, she gets all theatrical and storms around the house saying that no one understands her and I dont love her. It is so hard.
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New family consisting of feuding Step-sisters
by puptch injuly 31, 2011 was the happiest day of my life.
i married the most wonderful man that has ever entered into my life.
the problem is, is that now i have 2 fighting teen step children who cant find anything nice to say about the other.
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New family consisting of feuding Step-sisters
by puptch injuly 31, 2011 was the happiest day of my life.
i married the most wonderful man that has ever entered into my life.
the problem is, is that now i have 2 fighting teen step children who cant find anything nice to say about the other.
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July 31, 2011 was the happiest day of my life. I married the most wonderful man that has ever entered into my life. The problem is, is that now I have 2 fighting teen step children who cant find anything nice to say about the other. We have tried talking to them one on one, as a family, with outside mentors, but nothing seems to work. One of them just basically will shut down and doesnt seem to care if they talk with the step sister ever again while the other one deserves an emmy for the theatrics she does whenever someone doesnt side with her and her feelings about everything in her "world". We have been witnesses for just about 8 years and I am at a loss at what to do to get everyone to sit down and calmly talk about what bothers each of them. All my husband and I get is .... "I'M DONE! I DON'T CARE ANY MORE WHAT SHE SAYS OR THINKS!" Please help me .....Any ideas or thoughts would be greatly welcomed