So .. someone has elderly parents.. still in... a spouse.. still in... grown up children.. still in... grandchildren being brought up in.... lifelong friends all in...
and few friends on the outside.....
What happens when you suddenly leave? Maybe send in a DA letter? You break your elderly parent's hearts (they believe you will die at Armageddon)... your spouse decides to leave you... your children shun you... you never see your grandchildren grow up... your lifelong friends also shun you... What a price to pay!! Many have paid that price and suffer for it but it doesn't mean that all of us want the same thing. Some can't stomach staying and I totally understand that... some, like me, can't bear the thought of losing their loved ones and so stay, they suffer too in a different way.
What's that about wasting time with someone you love? If those of us that are trapped have so much to lose why even suggest it? I wouldn't even know where or how to begin again. After decades of marriage would I even want to or be able to? All I can see ahead of me is very lonely life. Maybe for me being trapped in this religion is the price to pay.
Does that mean I can't even come here and let off some steam once a while (I don't do it often)... it helps me keep my sanity. If it upsets others to read it then why bother reading it? I thought this was a place where anyone can come whatever stage they're at in their exit strategy. Many of us have only left mentally and emotionally but are still there physically going through the motions. Sure it's tough, and I want to scream sometimes but thankfully there are many on this board who have left completely that are there to give support and without judging. Everybody's story is a different one and we all react differently. I'm just glad that not everyone here thinks like that because otherwise we really would be trapped and with nowhere to go.