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  I need some advice folks!

  by DonutZ! in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  a few months back my then-gf (now wife) cheated on me with a coworker.

  ever since then i have hated going to work because i have to see his damn face all the time.

  i try to ignore him and not let the thought of "him and my wife together" get in my head.

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  Madge- Got it! Talesin- But how is it all about her?
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  I need some advice folks!

  by DonutZ! in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  a few months back my then-gf (now wife) cheated on me with a coworker.

  ever since then i have hated going to work because i have to see his damn face all the time.

  i try to ignore him and not let the thought of "him and my wife together" get in my head.

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  OTWO- I'll try to save some money or look for free counseling somewhere. Do you just sit and talk with a counselor together? Madge- To be honest I don't know if she has a low self esteem. Would that have something to do with her past? She told me she was a victim of sexual abuse by her stepfather and cousin when she was only 5. She said to me that ever since she was abused its been harder for her to say no and that she's weaker emotionally. Could this be true? Also I love what you say here "Being in a relationship is literally caring about the other persons feelings more then your own, but remember this goes both ways." Very nice words!!! DOC- You're right, this is a bad start. And yes I am more worried about the emotions and actual feelings she had during this affair but she always denies any and tells me it was just physical. Counseling is definitely on my to do list now though!
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  I need some advice folks!

  by DonutZ! in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  a few months back my then-gf (now wife) cheated on me with a coworker.

  ever since then i have hated going to work because i have to see his damn face all the time.

  i try to ignore him and not let the thought of "him and my wife together" get in my head.

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  BP-I admit what you say is true, she has asked for forgiveness many times and she clearly shows it. But idk its tough to answer that question. JWFACTS-I do enjoy being with her and the thought of not being with her kinda scares me. It is true that I went from one problem to another. I feel that we are compatible. OTWO-I could try counseling but is it costly? I barely can pay bills! Lol. And yes I get angry whenever I see him but I have self-control. She told me (or confessed I guess?) because she said it was bothering her a lot, her conscience and what not.
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  I need some advice folks!

  by DonutZ! in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  a few months back my then-gf (now wife) cheated on me with a coworker.

  ever since then i have hated going to work because i have to see his damn face all the time.

  i try to ignore him and not let the thought of "him and my wife together" get in my head.

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  BP- A little harsh there my friend or am I just dumb for staying with her? I just don't know who to blame here.
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  I need some advice folks!

  by DonutZ! in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  a few months back my then-gf (now wife) cheated on me with a coworker.

  ever since then i have hated going to work because i have to see his damn face all the time.

  i try to ignore him and not let the thought of "him and my wife together" get in my head.

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  Cedars-Hey man I have bills to pay too! Lol, I will try though to look for a job elsewhere. Vanderhoven7-Yes I was faithful during our relationship. But she kinda wasn't. I caught her multiple times still talking with her ex. And when this coworker got involved, I caught her and him sending very lomg and romantic texts and email messages. Note: She cheated on me a week before we got married and didn't tell me till a month into our marriage.
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  I need some advice folks!

  by DonutZ! in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  a few months back my then-gf (now wife) cheated on me with a coworker.

  ever since then i have hated going to work because i have to see his damn face all the time.

  i try to ignore him and not let the thought of "him and my wife together" get in my head.

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  DonutZ!

  A few months back my then-gf (now wife) cheated on me with a coworker. Ever since then I have hated going to work because I have to see his damn face all the time. I try to ignore him and not let the thought of "him and my wife together" get in my head. As hard as I try it gets to me somehow and I end up depressed and thinking of ways to get back at him. It sucks that I can't talk to my mom or older sisters about this (I'm DA'd). Any advice is welcome.
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  ya do know what THE most popular reason we leave WT is doncha?

  by oompa in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  not sure about it specifically....but i see three catagories...and what do you think is the specific one is????

  i fit in the first one...and you guys know what the deal breaker was for me.... (changing the bible to make it say what they wanted it to in the nwt...especially adding the name jehovah 237 times in the nt...or cgs....when there is zero ancient manuscript for doing so...even though rev says to not add nor delete nuttin...they added the name jehovah twelve time in rev alone....even though not a single one is a quote from the ot or hebrew scriptures!!

  and that is not right either....how did we not notice that we have the only bible around with the name jehovah in the new testament.....sooo deceitful about that) (and that is the longest parentheses of my life)...lol.

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  " holy fluck...i cant believe they just treated me like that and i aint never goin back" this one describes me!
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  Do you know of judicial committee cases about a bro/sis who denies to have sex with the confessing one?

  by testando in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  hi people, this is my first post here.

  nite for everybody.

  i wanna know if you ever heard of judicial committee where an accused bro/sis denies to have sex with a confessing bro/sis.

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  DonutZ!

  I think he should deny it, maybe he'll be marked in the local needs talk or something, I doubt the elders will let him walk free
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  Do you know of judicial committee cases about a bro/sis who denies to have sex with the confessing one?

  by testando in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  hi people, this is my first post here.

  nite for everybody.

  i wanna know if you ever heard of judicial committee where an accused bro/sis denies to have sex with a confessing bro/sis.

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  DonutZ!

  Uhhhh I don't understand what you're sayin?
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  Do you know of judicial committee cases about a bro/sis who denies to have sex with the confessing one?

  by testando in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  hi people, this is my first post here.

  nite for everybody.

  i wanna know if you ever heard of judicial committee where an accused bro/sis denies to have sex with a confessing bro/sis.

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  DonutZ!

  I gave them a disassociaton letter, one of the elders hacked her facebook (made me realize this isn't the "truth" anyways I digress) but come to think of it I shouldve stayed lol