I remember when I was dating in my early 20s getting a talking to by an elder because I went to my girlfriends congregation to "celebrate" the memorial there. Like it mattered what building you were in. I'm literally getting dressed up to pass crackers and wine to somebody.
I always found the term "celebrate" the memorial as a contradiction in terms. This didn't feel like a celebration. There was no joy. All very serious.
A complete waste of time.
Remember in 2001 when the memorial was at their homes (on account of the pandemic) and elders letter said if there's no anointed people present you dont even need the actual emblems?
I mean, why bother even having it?!!