Posts by Heartsafire

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If a person is transgender and gets saved what will they go to heaven as?

by Nikorasu95 in

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i know this is a stupid question because the answer is obvious, but if a person was born a male and gets transgender surgery to turn into female will that person go to heaven as a male or female if they died saved?

i think they will go to heaven with the gender they were born with.

Heartsafire

As a unicorn of course.

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Bored Teenagers?

by compound complex in

we loved connie when we were kids, back in the '50s.

still do, for that matter!.

watch the kids in the audience.

Heartsafire

That was a real treat to see and hear. I've never heard of her before seeing this, but this was before my time. I love the expressions of the kids in the audience, and I so love the styles and hair from the 50's and early 60's. Things seemed so much simpler and fun.

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What Kind Of Psychological Conseling Do You Think Jehovah's Witnesses Need When They Find Out It's Not The Truth?

by Brokeback Watchtower in

i personally would like to see they get the very best but haven't a clue how to do it what are your benevolent words of wisdom, should a person do a deep research on his own a kind of self medication or should they brush up on some psychology,, who should they trust because after you leave you got big trust issues.. i don't know about you but to me it was a real shocker, i was totally into getting their worthless bull shit out of my head.

i choose the self medicate path and did as must research as time would allow,, science was a biggie for me, it was enjoyable learning to get so much bull shit out of my head..

Heartsafire

For a time I saw a therapist who had worked with victims of domestic abuse and also people of mob/gang families. I was told my case most closely resembled one in dealing with a mob family. Good therapists are out there, and sometimes it just helps to be heard by a professional.

Although, nothing beats a good vent here on the forum where almost everyone knows exactly what you're dealing with. I don't even have to explain the cult-speak, and it's a helluva lot cheaper!

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JW Grandparent Drama

by What Now? in

my mom and sisters have not had any contact with my family for the past year and a half.. we even recently announced a new pregnancy and none of them acknowledged it or called to say congratulations or anything.. this past week my non-witness grandfather passed away and i had thought that for the sake of his death and funeral, it being "necessary family business" that they would at least be civil in front of our other family.

all of them still ignored me, my sisters didn't even speak to my children at all - to be honest i don't think my kids even knew who they were.

for the sake of my grandmother i made a small attempt at the end of the day to say goodbye to my mother and she kind of just brushed past me and said goodbye without really looking at me.. anyways my grandmother told me later that my mom spoke to her and said "i love my daughter and i love my grandchildren and i'm so upset that she won't allow me to see them".

Heartsafire

On writing your mother a letter: I think that it would be a good idea to let her know very clearly in writing that you respect her and want her to be part of your children's lives, but she must reciprocate that respect. This is a civil, reasonable, and fair expectation of anyone.

Perhaps she does not have to agree with your decision to leave the JWs, but if she wants to be in your children's lives she must not "shun" you particularly in front of your own children due to her disagreement. Rather, she needs to contribute to the welfare of your children and unity of your family by respecting you as their parent and mother.

I know you aren't particularly concerned about her teaching the children JW things when they are with her, and maybe this is because you are willing to overlook more than you normally would for the sake of their relationship. But, at some point your children will be old enough to understand JW teachings such as birthdays are evil and Armageddon, etc. These teachings could affect your children. I don't know about you, but I certainly wouldn't want to impose that propaganda on anyone much less young, impressionable minds. It may be worth asking your mother to bond with your children in ways other than religious--or at least refrain from certain teachings that you believe could be damaging.

Hopefully she would read a letter if you wrote one, but I wouldnt rely on her doing so. She may read it and refuse to comply. In this case, hope for the best, but prepare for the worst. Do all in your power to surround your children with good people who share your values and respect you. In my case, I joined a local church group for a time and made a lot of friends. I don't attend the church, and most of them don't either, but at least I have a great support group! Much better than anything I had at the KH.

You and your children deserve much better than what your family has shown.

I apologize this is such a long post.

Edit: as for a biblical appeal, I would not divulge any scriptural basis on your demand for respect. First of all, no one needs a scripture to agree that shunning a parent in their children's presence is disrespectful. To ask someone to treat you humanely is not an unreasonable request and does not require scriptural backing. Secondly, JWs are conditioned to only look to the FDS for interpretation of scripture so anyone-particularly a DF'd person-who quotes the Bible will be seen as misinterpreting scripture. I could go on, but I'm stopping here.

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Visiting Japan and saw one of those Carts. What is the purpose of those book carts for the borg?

by adjusted knowledge in

i'm in japan for three weeks visiting my sister-in-law and brother.

the people are so polite and i came across two female jw using the cart.

it is the same experience i noticed back in the states.

Heartsafire

Those carts are so awkward and silly! I'm sure they're just as an easy way to get "time" as no real interaction or Bible knowledge is required--just babysit the cart and direct any questions to the website.

Embarrassing these people think they're Christian or even doing anything remotely close to a community service!

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So much time wasted!

by StephaneLaliberte in

since i have left almost 4 years ago.

i have become a green belt in karate classes.

have got permits to own guns and go hunting.

Heartsafire

Good for you! And for your wife too! I wish my husband would totally get out with me. Life could be so lovely, and it still is, so long as we're not plagued by any of the hang ups at the KH.

So...you have a boat? Sounds like a lot of fun! Nothing better than a day on the water.

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Today's W.T on GB not being inspired is having ZERO impact on most J.W's

by Isambard Crater in

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the congregation i attend had it's watchtower study on thursday night because of l.d.c work this week-end, and another congregation i have some not very spiritual friends in had their watchtower study on wednesday.

from what i have delicately prised out of people, the congregations loved the watchtower study this week, saying it was so encouraging and all the usual stuff, with no-one seeming to realise the g.b.

said they're not inspired, so the spirit int he past has moved them to teach wrong things, and all the other ideas excellently summed up on reddit.. today's watchtower will wash over the heads of most j.w's like it never even happened, the all remaining as loyal as ever, and it makes me so, so sad..

Heartsafire

Joy of joys. I can't wait to sit through another mind-numbing brain-wash session full of double meanings and CYA tactics from the self-righteous seven. At least stifling my gag reflexes will keep me somewhat busy. :-P

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