There is no way on earth my husband would have married me if I wasn't a JW. If we weren't JW's I probably would've married him (the religion thing wasn't a factor for me), but the sad part is that he lied about himself all through our dating. He told me he wanted a family and kids--nope! He said he loves camping and the outdoors--hell no! He claimed he respected women--not a chance! I'm really bitter over my marriage lately. I feel totally duped.
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Would you have married your spouse if you weren't both JWs?
by 3rdgen inok, i've had some wine, but i'm curious.
objectively speaking, but for the religion, did you have enough in common with your spouse to have met and married as non believers?
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TALKING NONSENSE by using words attached to nothing
by Terry inespecially in listening to people who "believe" things (spirituality, faith, etc.
) do i hear words being used which are nonsense.. i'm a person who cherishes words in a weird, almost fetishistic way :)i discovered this quite young.
i was drawn to complicated word patterns and liked to repeat them.
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Terry,
I rather enjoyed this post. I dare say you have the most colorful vocabulary of any poster on this forum. Love the quotes:)
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Only a few days ago I was entirely lost and without hope the rug was pulled out from under me
by elderess inonly a few days ago i was walking around the house in a mindless wander thinking if i needed to seek professional help.
then i got the courage to seek the comfort of complete strangers on the internet and found a world of support here on this website.
thank you simon and whoever else has made this website possible.
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Ok, I found your previous post about what was in that email. The whole Geoffrey Jackson lying to the ARC was a biggie for me too. This religion is such a sick cult. It's good to hear that you and your husband know ttatt and are making plans for your future:-). -
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2016 April 4-25 Answer Sheet!
by Atlantis in2016 april 4-25 answer sheet..http://postimg.org/image/680x1d9ul/..atlantis!
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The "most honest people" on earth....?
by stuckinarut2 inhave we noticed how often the society uses comments like this?.
"jehovah's witnesses are the most honest people...etc".
while it may be true that witnesses as a whole are decent, law abiding people, are they truely "honest" when the very foundation of beliefs are based on mistruths?.
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This is a classic WT lie that further inflates the elitism within the r&f.
Another that drives me bonkers: "JW's are the happiest people on earth," (Riiight...Tell that to the local pharmacist).
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Partaking of emblems
by sloppyjoe2 inthis year will be my first for by going to the memorial.
i will get asked by my parents how i can deny jesus even if i don't believe the end is close.
my thoughts on this are as follows, bear in mind saying it's all make believe is not an option.. i think that jesus intended for everyone to eat the bread and drink the wine.
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I get what you're saying, you don't feel the need to play their game because they aren't really playing by the rules--the real rules--that Christ established regarding the bread and wine.
Do what you think is best, or whatever is most convenient for you. I'm having to go so my husband doesn't divorce me, but I am making it clear way in advance that I think the whole JW ceremony is bogus. I mean, show me in the Bible where Jesus said, "My followers who want to live forever on earth need to reject my blood and flesh that I gave on their behalf. They must stupidly sit, bored and drooling, while the heaven-bound accept the emblems."
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am i overreacting?
by freeandcontent inhi, new here but have been lurking for a while.
some background first, i am from the uk, 3rd gen born in, dad, grandad elders etc.
17 years ago i left, no df or da just left, 18 years old and alone but i did it and have had no regrets.
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Welcome! No, you are not overreacting to those yucky Caleb and Sophia videos! It is complete propaganda, and they teach children "lessons" that make them feel responsible for God's actions. An elder in my hall straight up said he dislikes Caleb and Sophia, so it's not just ex-JWs who feel repulsed by that crap.
If you ever want to be totally freaked out by the propaganda of JW's then I suggest googling "North Korean Propaganda Art" and browsing the images. Tons of those pictures look so similar to the illustrations in the WT books...particularly the multiple fruit pics and children romping happily in fields.
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I dont know how i can leave my family!
by BlackWolf inmy mom and i were talking today about how next summer i will be 18 and she said that just thinking about it might make her cry.
that made me think about how much more it would hurt her if i quit being a jw.
i really do love my parents, i know they are just being cruelly manipulated by a cult and that they really think they are doing what is best for me.
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Black Wolf,
Hiya:-) When I was your age I got a scholarship to a college, and I ended up turning it down cuz of my JW parents. I am 35 now, and I kick myself for not taking the scholarship. Even my parents have a new outlook on college these days and they respected my decision to get a degree later on in life.
The lesson here is to seize the opportunities life hands you when you are young! You may never get those opportunities again! Life is too short to be unhappy, and this religion is changing all the time. Perhaps what your parents may shun you for today will not be a shunning offense tomorrow. So, live your life for you.
You are not responsible for your parents happiness or God's happiness--only your own. Make each day count, and say yes to every opportunity that comes to make your future better.
HAF
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Only a few days ago I was entirely lost and without hope the rug was pulled out from under me
by elderess inonly a few days ago i was walking around the house in a mindless wander thinking if i needed to seek professional help.
then i got the courage to seek the comfort of complete strangers on the internet and found a world of support here on this website.
thank you simon and whoever else has made this website possible.
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Elderess,
Forgive me if it's already been asked and answered, but what info did the email from the sister contain that helped you to wake up? I am trying to help my husband wake up, and maybe the things you saw would help him.
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Only a few days ago I was entirely lost and without hope the rug was pulled out from under me
by elderess inonly a few days ago i was walking around the house in a mindless wander thinking if i needed to seek professional help.
then i got the courage to seek the comfort of complete strangers on the internet and found a world of support here on this website.
thank you simon and whoever else has made this website possible.
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Elderess,
Welcome to the forum! What a moving intro! I am so happy that you have found the real truth and that you and your husband are both together in your journey. My husband did not respond so lovingly to my doubts when I approached him about it. To this day he is hateful and resentful towards me for losing faith in this man made organization (even though I have never officially left, I am merely a fader).
What it comes down to is that those of us who value honesty and truth--real truth--not lies or propaganda--are the ones who are waking up and making our way out. Congratulations again. You are never alone. PM me if you want a friend to talk to at any time.
HAF