I agree Giordano, and I told him that as well because that is exactly what he was doing - starting debates with her and that’s a bad idea. So he backed off of that and is just keeping it to himself for now.
Kathy1978
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My brother-in-law is mentally out!
by Kathy1978 inso....i’m going to rewind for a second.
one of my brother-in-laws came over one evening late in 2016, november i think, just to hang out.
we hadn’t seen him in a while and this is before we told anyone in his family we were out.
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My brother-in-law is mentally out!
by Kathy1978 inso....i’m going to rewind for a second.
one of my brother-in-laws came over one evening late in 2016, november i think, just to hang out.
we hadn’t seen him in a while and this is before we told anyone in his family we were out.
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Kathy1978
Thanks ToesUp! I think the main reason he came around to figuring things out for himself is we didn’t push anything on him, we just explained why we didn’t believe it anymore. We are not trying to wake people up, the information is out there if you are brave enough to look. That’s also why we have a relationship with his still in family as well. We just don’t talk about it. If they still believe and it works for them, so be it. But we couldn’t do it anymore.
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My brother-in-law is mentally out!
by Kathy1978 inso....i’m going to rewind for a second.
one of my brother-in-laws came over one evening late in 2016, november i think, just to hang out.
we hadn’t seen him in a while and this is before we told anyone in his family we were out.
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So....I’m going to rewind for a second. One of my brother-in-laws came over one evening late in 2016, November I think, just to hang out. We hadn’t seen him in a while and this is before we told anyone in his family we were out. But my husband was rocking a beard at the time and he kept giving him funny looks.
Anyway, he finally asked him about what the brothers were saying about it and after a moment or two, my hubby and I looked at each other and he told him we don’t go anymore. My hubby went on to tell him all we had uncovered about “the truth”. He was shocked and said “my brother is an apostate!” Lol But he was cool, just shocked that he didn’t believe it anymore.
Fast forward to a few months ago and my hubby tells me that his brother doesn’t believe it anymore. He said that night at our place, when we told him everything he started to pay more attention to what was being said at the hall and started to research and he finally decided none of it is true! But his wife is a super JW, so he’s trying to figure out his full exit strategy. I’m so happy for him. He’s almost 50, so he wants to exit soon, start living his life. 👏🏿👏🏿
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Holiday Plans
by Kathy1978 inanyone doing anything interesting/fun for the holidays this year?
we got some presents for our kids and a tree.
other than that, just chillin.
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Kathy1978
All great holiday plans! Love it. And yes, I do remember having to go out in service Christmas mornings. And if was freezing or snowing out we still had to go. My dad would make us do a few doors, then get in the car to warm up for a few minutes then repeat until the territory was complete. So glad my kids won’t have to live that life....what a drag that was!
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Holiday Plans
by Kathy1978 inanyone doing anything interesting/fun for the holidays this year?
we got some presents for our kids and a tree.
other than that, just chillin.
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Kathy1978
Anyone doing anything interesting/fun for the holidays this year? We are not doing much. We got some presents for our kids and a tree. Other than that, just chillin.
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Do Jehovah’s Witnesses Bother You At All?
by minimus ini faded from the religion and simply didn’t go back.
once people understood that my family and i left, people in the congregation didn’t know what to do.
should they call me, visit me, leave me alone?
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Kathy1978
Nope! At first, if I saw a witness, whether I knew them or not, I would go the other way, still a bit fearful. But now?? Shiiii...lol, I walk right past their carts and say good morning if they speak, or if a witness tries to give me a magazine while I’m in the parking lot I just say no thank you and keep it movin. It feels good.
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Hello...
by Incognigo Montoya inwell, i've been lurking for a bit.
first out of cautious curiosity, then, though feeling a bit more comfortable to post, got caught in the confirmation email anomaly, and left unable to post or participate.
so i remained lurking, reading and researching.
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Kathy1978
Hello, I too am new here. So far so good! Congrats to you.
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My Story
by Kathy1978 ini was a 3rd generation jw on my mom’s side and both of my parents were jws when i was born.
me and my 3 siblings were raised a bit on the strict side.
no sports, outside association, college, mandatory meeting attendance & service routine, etc.
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Kathy1978
I agree with so many of the comments. Yes, if you are not constantly busy with JW life, you naturally unplug it seems. And I’m also very thankful that my family is out with me and my kids will never have to experience growing up as one.
@WingComander - Yes, born in 1978!
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My Story
by Kathy1978 ini was a 3rd generation jw on my mom’s side and both of my parents were jws when i was born.
me and my 3 siblings were raised a bit on the strict side.
no sports, outside association, college, mandatory meeting attendance & service routine, etc.
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Kathy1978
So here it is. I was a 3rd generation JW on my mom’s side and both of my parents were JWs when I was born. Me and my 3 siblings were raised a bit on the strict side. No sports, outside association, college, mandatory meeting attendance & service routine, etc. I got baptized when I was 11. I did pioneer for a short while around 2003 with my mom, dad & grandmother. So JWs by the book pretty much. I started having doubts around 16, but like a good JW was taught, left it in Jehovah’s hands and continued on.
I married my husband, who is also a born-in, in 2005 and we re-located to his parents state. We were in a great congregation when I had our first child, fun people to be around, laid back, not too nosey, so it was easier to shut down the increasing doubts I had over the years. It wasn’t until 2014 that I seriously started to question things on a deeper level. It was 3 weeks after having our second child that we relocated to a different city to be closer to my husband’s work. We hadn’t been to the new congregation yet and didn’t know anyone. I was home alone a lot with my then toddler and new born. My family lives in another state and we moved away from the city my husband’s family lived in, which is about an hour away. My “friends” that I did have didn’t visit much.
Anyway, with all the free mental time I had since going to the meetings was challenging and I didn’t listen in due to being exhausted from adjusting to 2 children and my husband’s work schedule, the doubts could not be ignored anymore. I can’t pinpoint an exact thing that made me research the org., but my gut told me I had make sure if I’m going to raise my children like I was, it had to be true. Because that’s a lot to deal with growing up like that. So I opened my tablet with shaky hands lol...and just typed in Jehovah’s Witnesses, see what popped up. First site I clicked on was jwfacts.com and I started reading. was pretty shocked to learn of all the lies I had been told and was living. This was in March of 2015.
By June I had told my husband, who admitted he’d been having his own doubts over the years of it being true so we agreed to fade until he was ready to tell his family. After a couple of meetings, we realized we couldn’t do it. We didn’t want our children to be exposed to it anymore. So we each told our closest friends we didn’t believe anymore who, predictably, immediately shunned us. After that we just walked away. No disassociation letters, we just stopped going. The Elders tried to contact my husband to talk to us a few times. Each time he told them we didn’t need them to come see us and if we did, he would let them know. They pretty much left us alone after that.
We finally told his family early 2016. Initially his parents shunned us but not his siblings. One of his older siblings convinced his parents to talk to us, reminding them that we weren’t disfellowshipped or disassociated. Eventually they came around and we just don’t talk about the religion and everything else is cool.
As for my family, I only have 1 sibling still in and he shuns all of us. Life has been up and down since leaving. But we always say to each other our worst day out is 100 times better than our best day in the cult.
So that’s the gist of my story. Sorry so long lol!
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Hello!
by Kathy1978 ini just wanted to give a brief intro.
i was born into jw world and left it in 2015 along with my husband and 2 little children.
looking forward to reading the posts and interaction with you.
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Kathy1978
@ James Jack I will make another post about my story soon!