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  Blown away-- where to go from here

  by All for show in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i stumbled upon this website a few weeks ago due to the jw.org ridiculousness, since then i haven't been able to pull myself away.

  the thoughts, feelings, and concerns i have had the past few years aren't just mine.

  it's global.

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  ruderedhead

  Welcome, All for Show!

  I think your term "halfer" is excellent! Wonderful that you have thinking parents and a thinking husband.

  Continue your research, SLOWLY feed the information to your husband, be ready to back up what you are telling him with more than one source. You should soon be able to show him where the jw's have cherry picked scriptures and twisted them to suit their doctrine, and be able to show him what those really mean.

  He is a wise man, not caring what anyone thinks. I agree with him that you are answerable to God, not to some judgemental men. Not being a witness does not mean you have to give up your faith in God and His Son. In time, you may decide to take a look at other churches, including non-denominational. Who knows, perhaps in a few years, some of your other thinking family members may ask you questions and follow you out.

  Your children's friends parents can become your friends over time. Anything you decide to join in the form of clubs, orgs., etc., will have people to socialize with. Do you know many of your neighbors? Do you socialize with them? Co- workers? Tthere are many social outlets if you're willing to put yourself out there.

  All the best to you on this journey.
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  The irony of it all. JW ask me to come by and visit him in a convalescent home.

  by jam in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  we were neighbors for 8-10 years.

  a little background, my.

  and finally here in calif. the first day i met bill (not his name) he.

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  ruderedhead

  You're a good man, jam!
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  More WTS cash-grabbing: "Funds on Deposit" program for Circuits

  by sir82 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  at a recent circuit assembly "business meeting" for elders, a new program was announced: "funds on deposit".. here's how it works:.

  each circuit determines a "floor" and a "ceiling" for an amount to hold in their circuit checking account.

  when the "ceiling" amount is exceeded, the amount above the threshold is wired to the wts and held by them.. if the circuit checking account drops below the "floor" amount, the circuit can send a request to the wts to request that some of their "funds on deposit" be returned to them so that their checking account resumes a "safe" level.. as explained by the elder explaining the program,, "in other words, the branch is acting exactly like a bank - the circuit will make deposits and withdrawals as needed.

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  ruderedhead

  Will they charge interest if the funds fall below the "safe level", and the congregation needs the money back?

  That seems like a reasonable question someone might want to ask.
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  What happy, wonderful thing happened to you since you left the "truth"?

  by Jeannette in

  1. social
  2. physical

  more than one thing for me, but i have learned to enjoy festivals, and just enjoying free time.

  it's not that the org wouldn't allow it, i just felt i shouldn't.

  there are others, of course, and i really have been happier and good things have come my way since i left.

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  LIFE! It's a wonderful life, even if it's not always easy.

  Love NVR2L8'S PHRASE ABOUT "Remove the wt glasses and see with my own eyes"! Perfect!
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  Reverse Shunning

  by exwhyzee in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  someting happened yesterday that i thought might be noteworty enough to relate to you here.. mrs. eyz and i were invited to my new boss's home for his annual end of summer party.

  it's a pretty big deal....his is a name known locally (i'll call him j.r.) a really nice interesting guy who's held a number of high level and politically connected jobs.

  there was to be music, dancing, wine and reprotedly lots of well dressed, well educated, well to do and influential people (oh yes...and us) in attendance.. anyway we thought we'd make an occasion out of it and got ourselves spiffed up which involved new outfits and extra mirror time before we left home.

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  ruderedhead

  I love the way you handled the situation! Great job!

  (Although I still don't get why they shun the way they do, they have twisted scripture to fit their ideas)

  Hope your son is doing well!
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  Muslim loses contract because of his religion

  by usualusername in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  today i interviewed an it company to support my business run from home.. .

  the doorbell rings and i ask my girlfriend to answer the door.. .

  i meet a trendy young woman and a hip muslim.

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  ruderedhead

  May I ask if you told them the reason they were not awarded the contract, usual? I mean the fact that the young man declined to shake your girlfriends hand? He may want to find a different line of work.

  I must say, the vicousness of the bigotry on here is a little frightening! Yes, there are the extremist muslims who must be stopped, and frankly, the fact that they are probably already in this country scares the hell out of me. They are pure evil!

  But to categorize every muslim in the same way is unfair. Are all Catholics pedophiles? Of course not!
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  It's my birthday today

  by Bruja-del-Sol in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  ... but most of my new (post jw) friends either don't know my birth date (if people don't specifically ask i won't tell them), or they are 2500 kilometers away in the netherlands... so all that's left to celebrate with me are my hubby, the two doggies, cat and my two rabbits... mixed feelings, i miss my friends and family around and haven't found friends in spain yet.

  luckily our daughter will visit us the end of the month... and yesterday we've found a new rental house and we're moving into it next month already!

  i'm thrilled and really looking forward to it, then we will finally be able to let all the rest of our belongings come to spain (2/3 of our stuff is stored in the netherlands).. so with this in mind, i'll just say 'happy birthday to me' and will enjoy my third birthday in espana .

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  ruderedhead

  Happy belated Birthday! Hope it was a blast!
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  Most of my extended family have no idea my wife is a jw.

  by marriedtoajw in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  you non-jws who have jw mates or anyone interested in responding.

  do you or would you tell extended family that your spouse is a jw.

  i ask because i have a couple of other relatives who are jws who pulled away from the family the years ago that caused some hurt to family that use to be close to them.

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  Why don't you ask your wife if she wants them to be told, or if she sees no reason to? Perhaps she doesn't take the few disparging comments they have made about jw's personally, and doesn't see it as a big deal if they know or not.

  Hers is the opinion that matters.
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  My neighbor is a return visit. Should I say something?

  by Zoos in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i stayed home sick from work the other day and noticed a car group pull up to my neighbor's house.

  she's a stay-at-home mom.

  i decided it was time to retrieve something from my truck to see if i could recognize the visiting sisters.

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  ruderedhead

  I don't see any harm in letting the neighbor know in a non-judgemental way that you were once a jw, and suggesting the jwfacts website to her. If she asks questions, could you answer them in a matter of fact tone, w/o malice or anger? Do you have access to a tract that refutes any jw teachings? She has children, do it for them. You could then go on to small talk about something else. The ball would then be in her court.
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  My DF'd father going in for cancer surgery

  by PaintedToeNail in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  in january or february of this year, my father was df'd for viewing pornography.

  he was diagnosed with a rare-ish lung cancer in august, it doesn't have good recovery odds.

  he had been struggling with a porn problem for awhile, asking the 'brothers' for help.

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  I'm so sorry to hear about your father, Painted.

  Will your Mother give him the cards if they are sent? I hope you and your siblings are able to speak with him on the phone frequently, even if the conversations are brief. Will it be long before he can sit at the computer?

  I will say a prayer for him, and I hope your Mom is not being a mean as you suspect to him. If she is, perhaps you could point out examples of Jesus being kind in the Bible?

  Will be pm'ing you.