This is your business. jgnat's advice is perfect not only for your niece, but for your colleague as well. A good business owner knows that their employees are a key component for their success. There should be no family mess if your niece, as an employee, cannot follow through with your reasonable expectation that she be there on time, stay for the time period she is scheduled for, and perform her duties well. You have not created a family mess because of her causing you unnecessary problems and perhaps hurting your business reputation, have you? Fair is fair. My husband has his own very successful business, and just had to let his brother go because he did not want to perform some of the duties required of his job. He was given a chance, and made his choice. The same for your colleague. She may have brought you some clients, but is she going to cost you clients and harm your reputation in the long run because she chooses to keep her plate too full to fulfill her commitment to you? You are also doing your clients a grave disservice by allowing this type of behavior. I know this may sound harsh, but if you want to run your own business, and be successful, you have to care about the business first. You are the one with something at stake here. Has an employer ever let you get away with this type of behavior? You are being taken advantage of. Put a stop to it now! I wish you all the best. rudered
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Business...........
by Dudu inas some of you know i started a business this past school year, what i do basically is to help kids with the homework in the afternoon.
i had 2 people helping me out , both quiet uneffective, here is my dilema:.
1) the first one is my niece.
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JW family indoctrination is harming my daughter
by uk_ex_jw ini will cut to the chase quite quickly.. i was a jw up until 2007 when i officially cut my ties, although i was a regular visitor to this site for 3-4 years beforehand.. i married a jw in 2004, had a child, and in 2007 we separated and divorced.
my daughter went to live with her mother.. my ex-wife also left the jw's in 2007 following the breakdown of our marriage.. my daughter is six now and i speak to her every week on the phone - she lives 100+ miles away from me with her mother, her step-father and two younger siblings.. i live with my partner and my two-year-old son.. during school holidays, my daughter comes to stay with me for sometimes a week or on occasions longer.. her maternal, great-grandmother and great auntie are staunch/strict jw's and i know they have been trying to fill my daughters head with watchtower teachings for the past couple of years.. i have contacted her mother and made it clear that i am not happy with this approach.
my daughter celebrates christmas/birthdays etc and any jw teaching is going to be contradictory to this.
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uk_ex_jw, you are in a tough spot! I'm sure you already know the advice to remain respectful and calm in speaking about/to the jw family members is excellent. You daughter will see the hypocrisy of their words if they try to berate you. But it sounds like your poor child is in danger of being sucked in. I hope you can get to the bottom of just how people who live over 100 miles away are able to have such an influence on her. May I suggest that you, your ex wife and your partners sit down and discuss exactly what is going on after you have been able to have a long conversation with your little girl alone? Would it be possible for her to spend the better part of Summer with you so you can at least temporarily stop the jw influence? If you go to church, can you take her to your pastor for some help? Please arm yourself with information that is at her level to combat what she is being told. I feel so badly for you, as you must feel a little helpless right now. Wishing you all the best.
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My son was murdered today
by truman ini have been on this site daily, almost from its beginning, since i left the jws in 2001, but i have been more of a reader than a poster, as you can see from my post count.
i know few here know me, although i know many of you through reading your posts.
maybe it is not right to ask for support, when i generally stay quietly in the background of this forum, but i want only to speak a human misery of the deepest kind.
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I am so sorry. No one should have to bury their child. I am sure every parent ( and those who are not as well) on here weeps for you tonight.
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A JWN Member just lost her Husband and She could use some encouragement.
by ohiocowboy inon 4/6, the poster orphan annie posted about her experiences with jw's and her ill husband.
unfortunately, her husband died monday, and she is feeling very sad.
i just wanted to make others aware of it, so that we can encourage her and give her some much needed support during this rough time.. her original thread is here.
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OrphanAnnie, I am so sorry for your loss. Your heart must be broken. Sending hugs & wishing you strength at this difficult time. You will be in my prayers.
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She's trying to make her a publisher...
by MsGrowingGirl20 insoooo, i've been sudying the bible with a 10 year old girl for two years now...her mother recently got baptised.
since i've been having doubts about the org i've centered our discussions on god and the bible and less on pleasing the org...i was doing fine.... until i invited an older pioneer sister to accompany me on the study....heeeeeeesh...she changed the topic from having manners to becoming an unbaptised publisher....she went onnnnn and onnnnn about "don't you want to please jehovah and jesus, wouldn't you like to put in a form every month and you do love jehovah and want to tell others about him,right?
" i was so upset.. i treat and love this girl as if she was my little sister and i do not want her to nose dive into this religion...she's a child for god's sake!.
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MsGrowingGirl20, I think you are correct in believing that if you stop the study, they will just find someone more indoctrinated to study with this child. Probably the pioneer sister you took with you, as she could probably use the study to get in time. If you continue , you can keep her from being pressured. Remind her that Jesus was an adult when he was baptised, so she does not have to hurry. If her Mom is new, she is probably quite zealous right now, I assume? You may be the one to save this child from this org. as you do more of your own research in regards to your doubts. How can anyone object to your discussions centering on God & the Bible? They can't (well, they will if you do not have WT literature out, cause you are not smart enough to read the Bible & understand it on your own!) Just have the book you are studying from out & open, so it all looks kosher. I know the pressure congragations can place on young people. They did it to my son. Thankfully, he is out now as well. Hope it goes well for you. Rudered
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Memorial is more important than dying relative!
by Orphan Annie inmy husband is gravely ill sedated and on a ventilator.
he most likely isn't going to survive.
we are not disfellowshipped.
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I am so sorry for your pain, Annie. What they did was selfish and a bit heartless, imho. But I am sure they are feeling good about themselves right now. It's the WT mindset.Quite warped. They certainly could have gone to a Memorial by you. I can only give you a cyber hug(((Annie))), hope it is some comfort. I hope you can find strength during this very difficult time. I will keep you & your husband in my prayers.
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Anyone in the Detroit area wanna go to the Memorial with me?
by serenitynow! ini will be partaking and placing some "literature.
" i was going to go in ohio, but my partner in crime can't make it.
i also plan to strike up a conversation about the epic fail of a memorial invite that a local congregation put in my door.
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I got excited when I saw Detroit area. But, unfortunately, it is a big area, and Oak Park is about an hour from me. I think I might have gone to support you , but I live in Macomb County. Hope you find someone to go with you.
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No, it will be the second year I have not gone. Not allowing all to partake is unscriptural. How was I blind for so long?
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I've not seen them for four years - elder puts Memorial invite on my door
by truthseeker ini just came back from shopping, was about to pull up in the driveway and noticed an elder from my old hall and his young child working the territory.. i waited till they left and parked.
i noticed i was the only one who got a memorial invite, none of my neighbors got one.
so they weren't working the territory but stopped by to give me an invite.
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Hi, Truthseeker, I ahven't been on this forum very long, so I don't know much about you. Is there any way you could request that they not contact you for any reason? I wrote a letter last month to DA myself. I asked them not to contact me for any reason. Not sure why, but I have gotten 2 Memorial invites in the last 3 weeks. I am assuming the letter was not read yet. Hope the rest of your weekend is fun!
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Did You See A Lot Of Drinking Among JW's???
by minimus ini did!
most jws that i know of love to drink.. interestingly, i noticed the heaviest drinkers were bethelites..
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Funny av8 mentions drinking at Bethel. About 15 years ago, my oldest son was removed from a jw's wedding party since he had mentioned that it sounded like fun to be in a fraternity (he was in college) The bride & groom were proud to have a young man in their wedding party that had just returned from a 2 yr. stint at Bethel. He walked around drinking from a flask of alcohol at the reception! I think they were serving alcohol, but that was kind of telling. Drink much?