Thanks everyone for your responses! They really meant a great deal to me.
My mother called me today and asked why I wasn't at the meeting last night (the elders wanted to confront me with my disobedience of not heeding their counsel). I told her I was taking a vacation from meetings, etc. because it was too stressful (read: controling and manipulative) and I would let her, and any one else, know when I was ready to attend again.
I pioneered my last year in high school and the following year. Then I decided to work full time so I could have my own apartment which I really enjoy. Now, I hope they will just leave me alone.
Polly