Posts by iwantoutnow

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What can a therapist really do?

by Thetruthhurts in

hi all, i've not read the forums for awhile as i've been trying to move on with my life but i'm back and posting for the first time feeling like i cant get a grip.

so i'm wondering for those of you that have seen a therapist and say that it truly helps, what can be accomplished?

i'm just really skeptical, but starting to feel desperate.

iwantoutnow

From my experience, unless you are dealing with PTSD, or Repressed issues, it was just tossing money out the window, and less effective than just talking to a Friend I Could Trust.

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how do you perceive God ?

by stan livedeath in

what i'm trying to do is ask what theists think god is like.. also--why is he invisible.. how big is he ?.

in fact--why is god a he--not a she.

or is he / she hermaphrodite ?.

As a JW Did You Prefer a “Stricter” Congregation or a More Liberal One?

by minimus in

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in my experience, there were three types of witnesses.

some were barely witnesses while others were extremely conservative types who followed the letter of the law.

and then you had those in the middle who just went with the flow.. i knew many witnesses who “felt safe” being in a stricter environment.they were actually proud that they belonged to such and such congregation because it was filled with strict bethelites..

iwantoutnow

More liberal.

Though I knew many total selfreightouse assh#les who wanted rules and punishment for everything.

Of course - they were the BIGGEST hypocrites!

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I finally did it

by paradiseseeker in

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it's done.. during the last month i've been talking with my closest friends about leaving the org and yesterday i finally talked with my parents.. it's been almost 5 months after i said that i would do it, but i think that this extra time has been beneficial.

i've said several times that i would opt for sending a resignation letter, but after talking to my best friends some of them suggested me becoming inactive and blocking my congregation's elders.

i've changed my mind and i will do that because the people that i care the most now know what's going on so they won't be worrying about me not attending the meetings.

iwantoutnow

Good strategy!

Enjoy living your life your way!

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Escaping a Christian Cult Podcast

by iwantoutnow in

hello all.. i implore you to the time out and listen to this podcast where sam harris interviews the granddaughter of the founder of the westboro baptist church, about her experience there and leaving.

megan phelps-roper.. the parallels to the jw world are astounding!.

https://samharris.org/podcasts/171-escaping-christian-cult/.

iwantoutnow

I hope some of you listen it to it.

It is really good and her book seems to be doing well.

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Broadcasting move part 2

by Gorbatchov in

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i think this is not an unimportant observation.. with the move of the broadcasting channel to the library part of jw.org the broadcasting are away from the general public.

so the obscure gb video's about strange mathers are not out to the open anymore with a simple click to tv.jw.org.

only the rank and file will find them easily.. i think this was the objective of the change.. g..

iwantoutnow

I don't think the GB or the Helpers think there is anything odd or to be hidden in the Videos.

I think they are proud of them, so I dont think it was about hiding them to the public.

Ironically - they should since they all scream CULT!!

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Escaping a Christian Cult Podcast

by iwantoutnow in

hello all.. i implore you to the time out and listen to this podcast where sam harris interviews the granddaughter of the founder of the westboro baptist church, about her experience there and leaving.

megan phelps-roper.. the parallels to the jw world are astounding!.

https://samharris.org/podcasts/171-escaping-christian-cult/.

iwantoutnow

Hello all.

I implore you to the time out and listen to this podcast where Sam Harris interviews the granddaughter of the Founder of the Westboro Baptist Church, about her experience there and LEAVING. Megan Phelps-Roper.

The Parallels to the JW world are astounding!

https://samharris.org/podcasts/171-escaping-christian-cult/

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Take a Moment and Think About How Awesome You Are

by Simon in

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it's easy to get bogged down with life and think you're not getting ahead or progressing.

but regardless of where we think things may be going, pretty much everyone who's come through this site is an achiever who's done an amazing thing in one way or another even if they may not think about it.. so think about it!.

you got past and over your programming and indoctrination.

iwantoutnow

Simon - you know I needed to hear that.

I still cant get over the 5 decades of lost life.

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Confession Time - Music You're Embarrassed to Admit Listening To

by Simon in

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admit it, we all have things that we reel off when people ask what our favourite music is, just the same as if people ask what our favourite movies are.

we're meant to say "citizen kane" and "casablanca" and not "battleship" or "pacific rim" but we know what we're going to watch if they are ever on tv at the same time (and which ones we've never actually seen).. so how about some confession time?

what do you listen to when no one else is in the house?.

iwantoutnow

None. Music is entertainment.
Its like saying (to me) what wine are you ashamed to drink.

The best wine is the wine you like to drink.

The best music, is the music that you like to listen to.
No stigma should be attached at all!

(fyi - Wham - sometimes I just have to Jitterbug) :)

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JW.Org data

by snare&racket in

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to think they have hung the blue and white sign on every building they own in the world and that this was a publicity campaign with the presumed backing of the god of the universe....... it's not going well.. despite the 8.5 million followers, who through design have to visit the site......it isn't even in the top ten..... top fifty..... top one hundred ......top two hundred visited sites globally.. users on average click through 7 pages per visit and don't stay long, averaging about a minute a page.. as for the data on its search over time 'jw.org' is now googled globally at a rate less than 25% of its peak and is usually associated for a search for the daily text.. .

between this and the carts, the only message getting through to real people is 'child abuse' and that woman from king of queens taking an interest!.

i sincerely think we are seeing evidence of what has been anecdotal decline...... waited long enough for it!.

iwantoutnow

Its a JW delusion like so many others.

I had a JW friend who is 1/2 in 1/2 out and still will talk to me tell me once "that JW.org is the envy of the world" (fyi he is a programmer and should know better), I had to take him to task on it and ask him what evidence does he have to say that, and what about the site is any better than a nice blog.

Of course there was none and he recanted.

slimboyfat - what it does say - is that NEW people are not continuing to go to the site, or that spike would continue. It shows that most of the users are long term uses (JWs) and there is not a steady influx of new people on the site.