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  finally got the nerve

  by livingagain in

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  i have been reading posts here for several months, which has helped me to keep from going insane.

  my doubts came when i finally got the nerve to leave a bad marriage, why did i stay so long.

  because i was ashamed and really scared of what "jehovah" would think of me.

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  Prisila

  Livingagain-

  Joy2bfree is an amazing friend, she helped me a lot. Personally I can tell you that most of us here are going through much of the same. There are many stages that follow the exodus from this organization. Listen to your intuition. Listen to your inner voice, trust yourself. I was where you are now a few months ago. Personally I did a fast fade (against Joy's advice) but you have to do what s best for you. Every person's experience is unique but is worthy. Learn the lessons you must learn so you don't get the lesson again.

  You will experience pain, anguish, depression but happiness will follow. Take one step at a time. Don't allow anyone to push you forward or backward. YOU are in control of your destiny. YOU call the shots. Empower yourself . . . go to school, make new friends, take a new hobby. Love yourself, and indulge. Don't feel guilty!!!! Don't give your power to those people . . . YOUDONT OWE THEM A THING!!!

  The most horrible pain I felt came from the fact that I DID NOT HAVE THE TRUTH!!! I was not part of God's chosen Organization. THAT HURT!!! Be strong, I am your friend and am willing to help you. I live in Los Angeles, CA. Email me, look at my profile.

  Hang in there,

  PV
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  Why are sisters not allowed to wear trousers???

  by Tish in

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  after posting a reply to another thread i wondered if anyone can answer these questions??.

  1. why are sisters not allowed to wear trousers?.

  2. when sisters where a skirt why have they got to be below the knee?.

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  Prisila

  Has anyone here been to a Spanish Convention in Los Angeles, CA? Oh my GOD!!!! Almost like Sunset Blvd. Hollywood, CA. Hoochi galore!!!! Tight . . .short . . .revealing . . .very provocative!!
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  ANYONE TRY HYPNOSIS?

  by Mary in

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  i'm considering trying hypnosis to help me win my everlasting battle with weight, but naturally i have feelings of guilt because we were told as jws that we cannot use hypnosis....... .

  anyway, has anyone here ever tried hypnosis?

  i would be interested in hearing if it helped you at all.

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  Prisila

  I just had my first session 3 weeks ago and it's amazing!!! If you're in the Los Angeles Area email me I can give you the name of some amazing certified Hypnotherapists.
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  What do you suggest?

  by Ardilla in

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  there's almost one year that i left the org, but i didn't know why i still have thouse guilty feelings.

  i'm not doing nothing what in the bible is forbidden and i read the crisis book form r. franz.

  when i read it, i felt that it wasn't bad that i had doubts of the org, because the goverment had it too!

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  Prisila

  What do we recommend about being guilty? Is that the question? If it is, DON'T. They do not feel guilty each time they look at you as the scum of the earth. THey don't feel guilty when you have 105 fever and expect you to go to the meeting. They don't feel guilty when one of their members dies because of "persecution" or because they refused to accept a blood transfusion. They don't feel guilty when children are being molested. THEY NEVER feel guilty when they do anything WRONG!!!

  Guilt is horrible, and you MUST give yourself time to let it go. It takes time. But DON'T feed into it. Don't feel guilty for turning your back on lies, deception and hate. Love yourself and enjoy life. Have fun!

  If the question is should you let your friend know about JW's? THE ANSWER IS YEEEEEEEEESSSS!!!! The more you get in the harder it is to get out. If you love her you will warn her subtly. Because if she perceives it as "persecution" you just threw her into their clutches even more. Be subtle, but firm and please don't allow her to be sucked in by such an unloving, tirant, hateful, and vindictive organization. I talk from experience . . .25 years in the org. indoctrinated since age 5 I'm 29 now and it's hard evry step of the way. BE PATIENT!!! It hurts horribly. I had 400 JW guests at my wedding (even though this went against Org. "advice") and NOT ONE, NOT MY MOTHER, NOT MY INLAWs, NOT MY CLOSEST DEAREST FRIENDS, LIFELONG FRIENDS will ever talk to me, EVER AGAIN. I cry every day.

  Please don't feel guilty. Be thankful for what you have and live life to the fullest!!!

  Love,Pris (email me if you need to)

  ?Hablas espa~ol ardilla? Do you speak spanish?
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  Masturbation the hidden epedemic

  by felix a in

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  masturbation the hidden epidemic an article that you don't want to miss.. .

  felix a

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  Prisila

  ok maybe I'm a little gulable. This can't possibly be real, right?
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  Site on Spanish anti JW info

  by Cappuccino OC in

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  http://www.infoworld.org/watchtower/index-comp-wt.html

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  Prisila

  Thank you for this!
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  ARE YOU UPSET THAT YOU DIDN"T GO TO COLLEGE?

  by minimus in

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  i have read of some people's bitterness because they were denied the opportunity to go to college.

  during the 60's and 70's the society really discouraged any education other than what was necessary.

  since the end was so near, especially around 1975, anybody that decided to go to "higher education" was considered very weak and unbalanced.

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  Prisila

  VERY UPSET AND CHEATED! I had a double whammy though . . . being a JW and Hispanic. I threw away my youth pioneering. Was never encouraged to higher education. My husband and I were told being a teller or receptionist was an excellent job. I always wanted to be a lawyer. NOW, at age 29 I find myself struggling through school for my BA to get into Law School. If I am lucky I'll be done when I'm 40. I had envisioned age 34. But it's unlikely. Working f/t and having 2 kids. It's too hard.

  I was in honors classes with scholarships. I could have been done by age 25. It's soooooooo depressing. I try not to focus on coulda's or shoulda's.
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  Ever lie on your service reports?

  by The_Bad_Seed in

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  *laughing just thinking about it*.

  did anybody out there lie on their service reports that they maintained the 'national average' when in reality you got .005 hours of service in any given month?

  i magically always used to always get "10" hours out in service, while nobody ever saw me at the groups, no one ever caught on, or seemed not to -- maybe they just didn't give a shit.. i always lied so i could keep my microphone 'privelidges' -- that being, the privelidge to walk around at the back of the hall giving my deflated ass a break from those awful chairs they had.

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  Prisila

  In 92' I was being harrased by elders on how behind I was in my pioneer hours. Week after week I was harrassed. I got severly sick that year and they wouldn't understand. So I lied the last month . . . August and put 120 hrs. No one questioned me. Actual hrs = 1. I even got a part in the C. convention. I felt like God would strike me down while I was interviewed. A few years later a Watchtower came out about hiding sins. I confessed and was removed as a pioneer. Not made pubic seeing as how I had a pristeen record.

  They asked me why I did it. I should have said becuase you pressured me. But I put all the blame on myself. What a dope!
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  HELP!!!! I NEED FEEDBACK PLEASE!!!!

  by Prisila in

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  i really need your feedback .

  i am really down on the dumps regarding being shunned and torn apart about da (i haven't yet).

  a week ago i wrote to dr. phil on oprah and wrote briefly about jw practices on shunning.

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  Prisila

  Joy- thank you for responding I was hoping to hear from you.

  Sunshine- The shunning doesn't terrify me it HURTS LIKE HELL!! I do have family, but they are all Pentecostal Born Again Christians. YES, they'd be happy if I left. But then they'd try to convert me. Heck NO!! I have had enough religion to last me a lifetime or two. I don't want to put myself in that position.

  Howecer, I did "come out" to my grandmother (she is a pastor? pastress?, and missionary whatever) and when I broke down crying. You know what she did? She smiled. My mom converted her daughter, my aunt, my mom's sister in law and my granny figures she evened the score. She got one on her side. It's kind of like my mom and grandmother are playing the "who can convert more" game. They have severed the family in half and I don't really want to go there. Anyway, my Pentecostal family is more nuts than my JW family.

  The only person that i can kind of confide in is my Dad. He's worldly. He kind of HATES being thrown in the middle (me and my Mom). But he'll get used to it. He's just used to us (me and mom being on same side). He doesn't understand my NEED to DA. He has asked me to stay still for a while and I have. But I need to move on.

  In regards to firends, I have you guys and that's about it. No "worldly" friends, no JW friends anymore. I have a co-worker we work closely together and he's great he kindof understands. He's gay so he understands the shunning and "coming out."
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  HELP!!!! I NEED FEEDBACK PLEASE!!!!

  by Prisila in

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  i really need your feedback .

  i am really down on the dumps regarding being shunned and torn apart about da (i haven't yet).

  a week ago i wrote to dr. phil on oprah and wrote briefly about jw practices on shunning.

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  Prisila

  Well, thank you SloBoy-

  I appreciate your honesty. And I appreciate everyone's comments, opinions, and suggestions; I will take them to heart.

  I have AGREED to go on. I'd like to give a run-down of what has happened. I owe you guys and promise to keep you posted as things evolve.

  • I sent a letter to Oprah show
  • They called me this morning saying "Congrats we want you on the show" and left phone # on VM
  • I posted here
  • I read many messages posted here, thank you
  • I called the producer and she said that she initially was calling me for a show on "How to confront tragedy." I had emailed them regarding my family shunning me and life-long friends shunning me. I mentioned JW policy on shunning and DA. I said that I was very hurt and in pain that this horrible pain is holding me back. That I didn't have a sense of "normalcy" because I had wasted my life inside the org. Where do I go on? etc.
  • They said that my topic did not fit their theme for a show, "How to Confront Tragedy." But, they were calling me to see if I was interested in appearing in a show for "How to Live beyond a High control religion and or Cult."
  • I agreed to be on the show and I was informed it was not the Oprah Show but rather a new show called the Dr. Phil Show.
  • I was told they would start preparing for it and that it would air in a few months.
  • I directed her to this website.
  • They said they would contact me in the near future.

  I promise to keep you guys posted. Thanks again for your advice.