Posts by joyfulfader

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How does one go about dating after leaving the WT?

by Left in the Cold in

joyfulfader

I have not gone to a KH in a year now. I have begun celebrating bdays and being a regular "worldly" person. I don't claim any religion. I just started the online dating thing. POF (plenty of fish) is mainly guys looking to hook up. It was more of a meat market scene. I was receiving innumerable messages every day and was completely overwhelmed. I went on 3 dates. Went out with one person for about 8 weeks. No chemistry. And I found out he was less than honest about several things. I have been on eharmony for about 3 weeks. The men seem to be better quality but I am still not finding anything yet. Dating in general has it's perils but the key is being happy with yourself first. Be confident and strong. The right guy is not afraid of a strong, attractive, intelligent woman. And women love a responsible, confident, attractive man. Your chances of meeting the right person have exponentially grown now that you r not confined to the small pool of potentials in the org. Just make sure you r emotionally healthy before adding another person. Just my take :)

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Update on Candace Conti's Case

by mind blown in

just ran upon this info:.

candace conti beats the watchtower society!submitted by teeny on august 27, 2012 - 9:22 pm .

http://www.jehovahswitnessblog.com/jw-lawsuits/candace-conti-beats-the-watchtower-society/?fb_action_ids=348543075229733&fb_action_types=og.likes&fb_source=aggregation&fb_aggregation_id=246965925417366.

joyfulfader

I truly hope this gives others the strength to take on the society. It will take more than one to topple the evil giant. I am so glad Candace won (at least at this moment). It makes me ill to think of how vehemently the lawyers for the WTS are fighting for the rights of a child molester to cover their tracks and mistakes. The God I want to worship would have nothing to do with such a vile, hypocritical organization...I mean, cult.

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Cats and Dogs should not be spayed or neutered!

by IMHO in

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a controversial subject that hasn't been talked about here for 10 years (or so it seems on my quick search).. .

i think it's wrong to spay or neuter.

i bet most of you will disagree.. my vet just called me an irresponsible owner for refusing to have my cat spayed..

joyfulfader

I am not sure what talk 22 says but I am most definitely using this as an example ONLY for animals. It's ok guys...u can keep ur guy parts lol. I have never heard of this kind of thing in humans and I think castration would not be considered an option even if it was. though perhaps there are a few people out there who should not procreate...

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Fear of discussing doubts

by KingAgag in

when i was having doubts about being a jehovah's witness, i was terrified to talk about them to anyone.

i knew that having a different opinion than the watchtower was 'wrong'.. i wrote about my experience here - http://www.jehovahswitnessblog.com/real-life-experiences/fear-discussing-doubts/.

please share your experiences too!.

joyfulfader

I have one friend to talk to without fear of repercussions but that friend is in a very different place in life. Leaving for my friend is more of a rebellion and it has become a time to do all the things we were never allowed to do. We r on entirely different life paths but I can speak freely about all my doubts. I have no one else except my therapist who is WONDERFUL. It is a very isolating feeling to have so much to say and no one who can listen without tattling. I so want my parents to understand but they can't. My new friends can't understand the dynamics of the JW family and the conditional love. I can say things but they don't understand the fear associated with having an opinion. The fear of shunning is a concept that others cannot understand especially when it involves parents and children. They don't think it actually happens and try to downplay the possibility that one can lose their family forever over having differing religious perspectives.

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Cats and Dogs should not be spayed or neutered!

by IMHO in

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friends

a controversial subject that hasn't been talked about here for 10 years (or so it seems on my quick search).. .

i think it's wrong to spay or neuter.

i bet most of you will disagree.. my vet just called me an irresponsible owner for refusing to have my cat spayed..

joyfulfader

I think all pets should be spayed/neutered. There are so many people that don't do this and end up with a litter or 2 or 3 of unwanted babies that end up in shelters only to be put to sleep or sent to abusive homes. The first dog I ever had was the only pet that wasn't neutered right away. He was an indoor dog and wasn't very sociable so he was never around other dogs. When he was about 13 he developed ulcerations on his testicles and the vet told us that it was because of the years of unused built up testosterone. He recommended having him neutered at 13 to remedy the problem. It worked and he lived ulcer free for 3 more years. So I whole heartedly agree that it is imperative to spay and neuter.

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Those Wonderful Kingdom Songs

by Quendi in

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joyfulfader

A Victory Song. Was a very intense song that we rarely sang. The new songbook ruined it

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Any born-ins have this attitude about converts?

by Nambo in

so there was this great gang of us, from south london, manchester and wolverhampton, went to socialise with a group in fishguard in wales.. amongst the conversations one of the single sisters stated, "i could never marry anybody who used to be in the world".. i guess a lifetime of knocking on doors had given her the impression there couldnt possibly be a convert in her midst, never mind later alone with her in her mgb.. so whats with this, did you think we had rat scabies or were possesed by demons or something?.

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joyfulfader

I remember my first bf was 24 and I was 18. He was my "unofficial" bf because we started liking each other while he was studying so as the PO's daughter, I was supposed to wait a year after his baptism to make sure he was doing it for the right reasons and not for me. We didn't wait the year to date but I have to say I was kind of thrilled that he had experience in the event we did get married. We didn't get married...I ended up with another born-in but I personally thought it would have been a great wedding night instead of the 3 days I waited to actually lose my virginity as a married woman 3 yrs later.

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Suicide - How many do you know within the JWs

by Lady Lee in

thw wts likes to play games with their statistics.

one interesting but truly tragic is the number of jwhovah's witnesses who commit suicie.. now i suspect that if a person commits suicide shortly before or after they are disfellowshipped then the elders would say that person wasn't a witness or that they had done something so terrible that they were too guilty to admit it and by their action of committing suicide they pretty much declared they were no longer a jw.. yup fancy talk to make sure any crap didn't fall on them.. so my question.. do you know of cases like this?

if so then can you answer a few more questions.. had this person been dfed or in real danger of being dfed or whatever the equivalent is if they were never baptized?.

joyfulfader

I can think of 5 off the top of my head 2- MS's with severe depression. One hanged himself because he couldn't find a wife. The other hanged himself in the barn where his son found him. 1- active witness with bi-polar disorder 1- just d'fed for spousal abuse and jumped off a bridge 1- young sister OD'd (don't know why) she was in my pioneer class Then there were 2 young brothers, one of which I was extremely close to who died over the blood issue

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American Bible Challenge?

by TTWSYF in

i watched jeff foxworthy's new game show last week.

it was entertaining and informative.

anyone else check it out?

joyfulfader

My favorite question is who was Abraham's wife after Sarah died?

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American Bible Challenge?

by TTWSYF in

i watched jeff foxworthy's new game show last week.

it was entertaining and informative.

anyone else check it out?

joyfulfader

Anna was NT...