apologies if this has been discussed before, or is in the wrong forum, but i could really do with some advice.
two years ago i met the love of my life; someone i regard as my soulmate.
he is an active jw and i am a practising church of england person.
I am supposed to get a reply this evening to my original email. I received a quick note last night from his iPad saying that he had been too busy to reply so far, but he would be able to respond better.
I shall keep you updated... But I fear I may just be fobbed off as james_woods says above - that he might not be willing or able to tell me. I wonder if he has delayed telling me his reply because he is seeking advice from his KH... Sorry, getting cynical now!
apologies if this has been discussed before, or is in the wrong forum, but i could really do with some advice.
two years ago i met the love of my life; someone i regard as my soulmate.
he is an active jw and i am a practising church of england person.
MMXIV - thank you so much for this insight. My job is immensely important to me and I have worked very hard for ten years to get where I am today. You have answered a number of questions I had about this. I am currently touring a play with one (male) actor, about the contentious issue of assisted suicide, with swearing... And we stay in hotels three nights a week, obviously in separate rooms. I have never been unfaithful to a partner ever whilst away, but with everything you have described, I may end up heading down that route. My boss is a young gay man too...
And what you say about some JW being really nice - I truly believe this. I find it hard to believe that they are bad people, just misguided in many ways and sucked into this cult.
What other practical questions could I ask my chap, before I get stuck into the spiritual stuff? I'm really interested in getting all the information about what my life would be like on a daily basis, and have found this a truly enlightening experience.
And yes, if he really loved me as much as he said he did, he would be willing to compromise and listen to my point of view. I have always held true to people's opinions being valid, even if I disagree with them. I really want to be able to have an open and honest dialogue with him and lay everything on the table for him, with hard facts behind me...
apologies if this has been discussed before, or is in the wrong forum, but i could really do with some advice.
two years ago i met the love of my life; someone i regard as my soulmate.
he is an active jw and i am a practising church of england person.
Hi all - back again! Again, many thanks for the fascinating replies...
Can't find the exact post, but I just wanted to clarify that I am completely genuine in my question here. I know it may seem odd that I describe this man as my soulmate, and that I love him so much, after such a short time together. I am a sane, rational human being that never would believe in love at first sight, but that is what happened. I knew within five minutes of meeting that I needed this guy in my life, somehow... I hope that helps to allay any fears that I'm not being real about this. It's hard to explain, but we never really left each other, despite the no contact. And for those three weeks, I had an amazing non JW time with him.
So, to update, I have sent him an email with my more practical questions, about my job and how he sees our life together being practically... I'm going to build up to the more spiritual ones once I get his first replies....
I've got 9 more posts today, and I am amazingly appreciative of all the advice and help so far - I am amazed that so many people have read this topic and been willing to share their stories.
Regards
apologies if this has been discussed before, or is in the wrong forum, but i could really do with some advice.
two years ago i met the love of my life; someone i regard as my soulmate.
he is an active jw and i am a practising church of england person.
This is the last post that I am allowed to make for 17 hours due to the restrictions of being a new member. I will be still be reading and following all your advice and responses, so please bear with me!
It really has been great hearing from everyone so far
xx
apologies if this has been discussed before, or is in the wrong forum, but i could really do with some advice.
two years ago i met the love of my life; someone i regard as my soulmate.
he is an active jw and i am a practising church of england person.
Sorry New Chapter, just spotted your post... I am not sure he would come here, and would probably feel uncomfortable that I had even been discussing him (which is why I hopefully haven't given away any clues where he is from).... I wish he could, as just something makes me think he has certain doubts, or he wouldn't be contacting me again at all after such a long time....
apologies if this has been discussed before, or is in the wrong forum, but i could really do with some advice.
two years ago i met the love of my life; someone i regard as my soulmate.
he is an active jw and i am a practising church of england person.
What is the easiest way to persuade him to read Crisis of Conscience without him being immediately suspicious and think I am trying to attack/undermine his beliefs?
I don't want to go down the line of "If you loved me, you would read it, as I have been reading your material"
apologies if this has been discussed before, or is in the wrong forum, but i could really do with some advice.
two years ago i met the love of my life; someone i regard as my soulmate.
he is an active jw and i am a practising church of england person.
I'm running out of messages that I am allowed to post as a new user, but everything everyone is saying makes a lot of sense, and it is good to get confirmation about what I was feeling.
I do love my JW man, and I think the way forward is to ask him if he will consider looking at it from my view point. What Magwitch says above is so true - and that applies for anyone, notwithstanding their religion. I would never dream of telling him to leave JW outright, but if I can sow the seed to get him to take the blinkers off at least, for his own benefit, to start asking questions of his beliefs, then it is the least I can do about someone I deeply care about
apologies if this has been discussed before, or is in the wrong forum, but i could really do with some advice.
two years ago i met the love of my life; someone i regard as my soulmate.
he is an active jw and i am a practising church of england person.
That's a very interesting angle james_woods - thank you for that viewpoint.... never thought of it like that before
This is so helpful to me! Thank you everyone again
apologies if this has been discussed before, or is in the wrong forum, but i could really do with some advice.
two years ago i met the love of my life; someone i regard as my soulmate.
he is an active jw and i am a practising church of england person.
In so many ways, the beliefs of JW are not so far removed from the Church of England. But where they differ, they really differ!!!
I should also clarify that I am not currently dating this guy. We were together for three weeks, two years ago, before KH intervened and stopped him seeing or contacting me. In the last six months he has started texting me and even made plans to come and see me where I now live in London, which I thought was strange at the time as it would be very much breaking the rules for him. I took this as a sign that he was moving away from being JW, as surely even texting me is breaking the rules?
At the time when we were together, I knew he was someone special, not even considering his religion. I think he is confused and would love to ultimately get him away from JW, but I know as he has grown up this way, it would be hugely hard for him... And then there is the danger he would go back again
apologies if this has been discussed before, or is in the wrong forum, but i could really do with some advice.
two years ago i met the love of my life; someone i regard as my soulmate.
he is an active jw and i am a practising church of england person.
I also should say that I work in technical theatre - I am a touring stage manager for a production company, and spend a lot of time away from home. I fear that I would be required to give up the job that I love for something more locally based to my KH (if I chose that route in life)?
