apologies if this has been discussed before, or is in the wrong forum, but i could really do with some advice.
two years ago i met the love of my life; someone i regard as my soulmate.
he is an active jw and i am a practising church of england person.
I hope I will do jgnat! I'm spending a week or so working in Vancouver and seeing family, before my boss is paying for me to cross The Rockies by train to Toronto...
I'm hoping the time apart will really sort things out once and for all. I really hope we can come to a compromise somehow, and live in love and toleration, but for me, that decision has to be entirely his... My cards are on the table now, so we'll see
Thanks again everyone so far xx
apologies if this has been discussed before, or is in the wrong forum, but i could really do with some advice.
two years ago i met the love of my life; someone i regard as my soulmate.
he is an active jw and i am a practising church of england person.
Exactly my thinking NewChapter....
We've been apart for so long now, but the recent dates have really brought everything to the surface again. Even to the point where he is getting jealous of me spending time with a mutual male friend. I really hope the time apart, and especially the distance, brings out the real and gorgeous man behind the JW man...
Saying a lot of Church of England prayers :)
apologies if this has been discussed before, or is in the wrong forum, but i could really do with some advice.
two years ago i met the love of my life; someone i regard as my soulmate.
he is an active jw and i am a practising church of england person.
A small (but big) update....
I have just been offered my dream job... Touring a theatre show from June (when my current show ends) until December, working with a Hollywood actress on her one woman tour. We are touring the UK, then for the first time ever, I will be touring the US and Canada... Absolutely out of this world amazing, but will take me away from my JW for the best part of six months...
He wants to come with me........... I don't believe he will for one moment, but it was a lovely glimpse of the real man again, which touched my heart... And maybe me being on another continent will give him time to think and reflect, and make decisions for himself....
apologies if this has been discussed before, or is in the wrong forum, but i could really do with some advice.
two years ago i met the love of my life; someone i regard as my soulmate.
he is an active jw and i am a practising church of england person.
Many thanks for replying jgnat... It is so interesting to hear about it from your point of view, and I will certainly check out that link you provided...
And thank you ilikecheese - I might well drop you a PM :)
apologies if this has been discussed before, but i am really very interested in finding out why members here left their congregations for lives away from jw?.
was there a "lightbulb" moment where you just woke up one day and realised that you had been brainwashed?
or a slow realisation over time?
I can't actually say what kind of person my JW is.... I know he is intelligent, kind, loving, funny as a man away from the JWs. He lives with his JW grandparents and has a "worldly" career with British Gas. He was Church of England and then was converted (not sure how old). His parents are no longer JW, and neither is his sister, who is married with children. He has a lot waiting for him on the outside...
He nearly left when we first met; something he explained as a weakness due to something that happened, which he has never explained to me. All I know is when he confessed his relationship with me and he was nearly disfellowshipped, they did an amazing job on him, but he still came to see me in private to explain the situation and we held each other and cried together...
i was not home at all last week.
only my husband was here.
when we finally met up together this weekend, i turned on a burner on the stove.
I wish I could "like" your post Lore.... What was the first best bit of marriage advice you were given?
apologies if this has been discussed before, but i am really very interested in finding out why members here left their congregations for lives away from jw?.
was there a "lightbulb" moment where you just woke up one day and realised that you had been brainwashed?
or a slow realisation over time?
I'm finding this fascinating - thank you to all who have replied so far. It gives me hope that my JW will hopefully begin to see the light at some point (he's an intelligent man, working as a plumber and an electrician, so he should be!)
I have really appreciated the insights, thank you x
born into jw family.
5 years old - you are told celebrations and gifts on those days are from satan.
therefore, in school, your an weird outcast.
apologies if this has been discussed before, but i am really very interested in finding out why members here left their congregations for lives away from jw?.
was there a "lightbulb" moment where you just woke up one day and realised that you had been brainwashed?
or a slow realisation over time?
Thanks for that bigmac... I might be calling on your valuable experiences to help my friend :)
i was not home at all last week.
only my husband was here.
when we finally met up together this weekend, i turned on a burner on the stove.
I used to live with someone who could only be described as a 35 year old child... I would clean and tidy every day, make the bed, put everything right... and then go to work... I would come home to find the place in an absolute state all over again. I wouldn't describe myself as a clean freak, but it was exhausting to have to come home to that every day...
When I was away from home for longer periods, it was even worse. When I lived alone and knew that I was going away for a number of days, I would change the bed linen, clean and tidy everything - so that when I came home I could just fall into bed and not worry about dirty dishes or washing clothes. With him, it was like a toddler had been on a rampage... I would find sweet wrappers shoved down the side of the cushions of the sofa, a mountain of dirty dishes...
He was university educated, but had moved straight back into his parents hotel after finishing, and as a result, his mother waited on him hand and foot for ten years... He just simply didn't have a clue how to do the simplest of household tasks...
It seemed like a bit of a joke at first, but it was emotionally wearing and I really grew to resent him, as it felt like he didn't care about me or my feelings... but I actually think it was his mothers fault for babying him...
