There is a wonderful place, a web site where there are ONLY QUOTES from WT literature, no commentary. You can safely direct your brother there. The quotes are designed to highlight the flip-flops in doctrine and policy. Here’s one from the "How to Treat DF/DA" category:
Link to main page:
http://www.quotes.jehovahswitnesses.com
Link to DF/DA category:
http://quotes.jehovahswitnesses.com/DF_DA.htm
After a whole lot of articles showing complete shunning of DF/DA peeps, you come across this shocker:
*** Watchtower 1998 December 1 p.17 Defending Our Faith ***
What About Slanderous Publicity?
15 At times, Jehovah's Witnesses have been the target of distorted information in the media. For example, on August 1, 1997, a Russian newspaper published a slanderous article claiming, among other things, that Witnesses categorically require members to 'reject their wives, husbands, and parents if these do not understand and do not share their faith.' Anyone who is truly acquainted with Jehovah's Witnesses knows that the charge is false. The Bible indicates that Christians are to treat unbelieving family members with love and respect, and Witnesses endeavor to follow that direction. (1 Corinthians 7:12-16; 1 Peter 3:1-4) Even so, the article was printed, and many readers were thus misinformed. How can we defend our faith when we are falsely accused?
Ask your brother to explain that, and ask him the next time policy changes again and "allows" communication, will he apologize for all the lost time??
Also ask him when he’s going to stop being such a wuss and think for himself. JUST KIDDING DON’T SAY THAT LOL
Good luck, let us know what happens.