It is a true kindness to help those who hate you. Much like the Good Samaritan in Jesus teachings. This is true Christianity in action.
The villain is not our parents that have written us off as bird food. The true villain is the watchtower that CONvinced our folks they would never grow old thus never need to plan for old age, and shun their adult children who they would need later in life.
An older couple in our congregation who all of their children were disfellowshipped had no place to go. The congregation bought them a one way ticket to her worldly sister out west to take care of them. Sad.