FayeDunaway

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  Happy Independence Day!!

  by Gayle in

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  "freedom is a grand thing to celebrate!

  " we came from a culture that we couldn't be 'independent.

  ' but we made it!

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  FayeDunaway

  Gayle, it's true, tho growing up in a 'free country' we weren't free!

  Freedom feels fantastic now!!

  I bought a 'Live Free' T-shirt a couple years ago. This year I got a patriotic/silly Darth Vader/Uncle Sam shirt that says 'I want YOU (to come to the dark side.' Which for an ex witness had two significant allusions..:).

  Every election day I wear my 'Let your voice be heard.' T shirt.

  These things mean a lot to me.

  Happy INDEPENDENCE DAY, everyone!! And if you aren't free now, hopefully you are working towards it in your own way!
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  Musicians Who Died in the Last Year - or Through the Years- Who Do you Miss Most ?

  by flipper in

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  i think for me in the last year the death of david bowie got to me the most.

  not only in the way he handled his demise so classy by even making a song about it and a you tube about dying and sharing it with fans, but just his whole persona i always thought was pretty cool.

  plus i enjoyed a good many of his songs.

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  FayeDunaway

  Bowie. I agree with you flipper. I've always been a big fan and it hurts that he's gone.
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  How do you deal with depression?

  by BlackWolf in

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  i'm currently going through a bout of depression and my eating disorder has gotten worse.

  ever since my parents actually told me that they are going to kick me out when i turn 18 i've felt kind of hopeless about my life.

  my parents won't take me to the doctor because the psychiatrists won't have my "best interests" aka jw crap in mind, because really that's the root of all my problems.. i'm wondering if any of you guys have any advice with dealing with depression?

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  FayeDunaway

  Your parents are trying to manipulate you into obedience. Like that's going to somehow put loyalty to the religion in your heart. In their weird world they believe that's going to work. But come your 18th birthday (which, being witnesses, they won't even acknowledge), I am pretty sure they won't say anything right away. You will probably have more time than that. But be prepared if the worst happens. I know you re going to finish high school early, so get a job and save your money like mad. Work on that relationship with your aunt via Facebook. Try to think positively about your situation. You have freedom in front of you, and believe me, it's going to feel miraculous. Don't get involved in drinking and drugs or falling for the wrong kinds of partners, it would be easy to go that route. Concentrate on things you love, like Art and develop your curiosity about everything you could learn about. Enjoy your freedom fully in good ways, like getting involved in environmental activism, politics, or just celebrating holidays or going out dancing. I'm excited for you. You will have times of missing your parents in your life, but because you were never baptized, maybe they won't be out of your life. They are going to miss you too, and might find ways to make it work.
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  Cult memories extinguish good memories

  by rebel8 in

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  i have this thing.

  i don't know why it is or how to stop it.

  every time i happen to daydream about something positive from my childhood, some related cult aspect comes to mind and extinguishes it like a candle is being blown out.. for a while, i thought this was anger and resentment causing me to want to find an excuse to be angry (not that i need one).

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  I think that's a pretty normal mind process, rebel8. Past memories usually bring us to more recent memories. I can't think of my favorite teddy bear and how I used to cuddle with it without remembering that it's now missing an eye and up on the shelf.

  Some of us who have bad memories that outnumber the good ones work hard at making new memories that are good ones. Especially if we have kids, cuz we want to give them different lives than we had.
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  Being a Socially Inept ex-JW

  by LaurenM in

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  so i'm absolutely clueless concerning relationships.

  i had barely any friends at all growing up a jw kid & absolutely no interaction with "worldly" people or any guys whatsoever.

  i have had a relationship of sorts with a guy for 4.5 months now, but i'm so clueless!

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  Lauren I'm glad you're ok! You went through a very bad time there and I'm glad you seem better and are trying to figure out how to improve your life.

  I'm with rebel8. Talk openly with this boyfriend of 4.5 months, let him know you don't want to crowd him but also not be too distant, and because of your background and inexperience, you might need some clues as to how much is just right. But how much YOU want is also important too, don't feel like you're a slave to whatever this guy wants. Relationships are all about balancing needs and compromising.
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  I've been found out!

  by pale.emperor in

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  well, thats it folks.. my identity on here has been rumbled and reported to the elders.

  someone, somehow, has figured out that im a member of this site and - rather than speak to me - has promptly reported me to the elders.

  i just feel sad for my daughter.

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  FayeDunaway

  Hey lurking elder spies!! It's actually a lot happier out here. Don't be afraid.
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  My wife blew my mind, Seth Andrews, and more....

  by pronomono in

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  so i recently had the opportunity to hear seth andrews speak in person at a local unitarian universalist church.

  for those of you who know my past, i've had a bit of a difficult time dealing with the emotional aspects of a fade with a wife that says she believes but doesn't put forth the works that demonstrate that faith.

  we've kind of been in a rocky point in our relationship because we've both been afraid to test the waters on where each of us stand.

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  I get goosebumps every time I read on here that someone is having success getting through to their spouse or child. "Bring it."?? I love her!!
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  I've been found out!

  by pale.emperor in

  1. jw
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  well, thats it folks.. my identity on here has been rumbled and reported to the elders.

  someone, somehow, has figured out that im a member of this site and - rather than speak to me - has promptly reported me to the elders.

  i just feel sad for my daughter.

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  It sounds like it might be too late, like you have already admitted it was you. Do you know how they found out? That's kind of creepy.

  Sometimes ripping off the bandaid makes the pain shorter than tearing it off slowly. I wish you luck, PE. (And you haven't been disgusting!!)
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  My life has ended (be careful what you wish for part 2)

  by nevaagain in

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  noone and nothing can really prepare you for the burning pain you feel when your spouse leaves you after 8 years of marriage.

  from one day to another, all your dreams, hopes and plans are shattered.. i still have so many questions which will remain unanswered in eternity.. the thread i made a few weeks ago, is part of this story.

  after learning about ttatt my plans involved to wake up my wife as well and exit the truth.

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  FayeDunaway

  Do you know how many women are longing for a loyal honest and sweet man like you? Dude. You do have to let yourself time to mourn this but you have the wonderful opportunity to start over! This time not with a witness.
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  Should I just tell my parents

  by BlackWolf in

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  lately i've been feeling just so fed up with this stupid religion i really can't take it anymore!

  i'm starting to think that maybe i should just tell my parents how i really feel.

  if they treat me too badly or kick me out i could probably stay with my non jw aunt.. ive just reached my breaking point, i don't really care what people think of me anymore.

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  FayeDunaway

  Call your aunt now and tell her what is going on. Keep her in the loop with everything that happens in your life. See if she is ready to take you in. Have you gotten a part time job yet? Are you driving? And yes get in a real highschool!! Are you allowed to make this decision on your own? If you live at your aunt's, you could join drama, clubs, go to prom. But you also lose your parents. Makes me so angry and sad.

  It's always Satan Satan Satan! It can't be that they're in a freaking cult, can it?