My nephew was disfellowshiped more than 10 years ago for something he never did , the police looked into the allegation against him , their was no case against him (only found this out a few months ago)
My sister was diagnosed with secondary cancer just over two years ago and we managed to contact him to let him know (necessary family business) and he called and spoke to his father and he said that he was disfellowshiped and they can't speak to him until he returns to Jehovah.
Before she lost her fight against the cancer ,she made it aware to our mother that she wanted to know how he was doing and if she was a granny , so I called him but because of that phone call with his father he wanted nothing to do with them and wouldn't even use the word mother called her by her name.
While she was in the hospice hours before she passed her husband tried to find there only child on Facebook , but didn't even recognize him when looked up his name and was told by another family member that was him .
But it was too late at that time .
Is it really BAD absolutely.