SBF, I've always enjoyed your thoughts, I hope whatever decision you make that it remains on YOUR terms.
I'm actually going through a similar situation myself, returning and all. My wife's mother is old in age and our exit could possibly devastate her if we continue -- we do not want it to negativity affect her health. A good number of jws have continued reaching out to us and have remained in our lives throughout this process which has made it even more difficult. We know their friendship is conditional, we know the Watchtower is fraud, but longtime childhood friends are post-poning our exit. So, we have decided to go only on Sunday's and that's it. As an agnostic atheist I would not be able to bare anything more than that. It's remains on our terms and we will not sacrifice anything other than 1.5hr on Sunday mornings.