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  Pass the red wine for me

  by wasasister in

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  2. friends

  tonight, i would have attended the memorial, if my witness daughter had asked me to go.

  during the two previous yearly occasions, i was inactive, but i went with her because it seemed to mean a great deal to her.

  she has either given up on me, or the event does not mean what it once did to her.. i was thinking about another memorial, one i would rather celebrate.

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  rollercoaster

  Dear Wasa
  Your mom did a wonderful job in raising you. You are a very kind and loving person. I am so fortunate to know you. I wish I could have met her. Her kindness and thoughtfulness live on in you.

  RC.
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  Pedophiles and Child Molesters

  by Seven in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  the following is an excerpt from a book written by a new rochelle, ny.

  police detective, mark gado.

  pedophiles and child molesters: the slaughter of innocenece.

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  rollercoaster

  Seven,
  I am a third generation survivor of physical and sexual abuse. My brother and step-father being a few of the abusers. I ignored a lot of my feelings and made it into the adult world, and when I was 32 adopted my beautiful daughter DC. My brother had the nerve to say she wasn't really family. So, I disowned him. I didn't look back. My mom gave DC my brothers address. Without my knowing it, she wrote to him. He called me today. I don't think DC knows how much she did with that one letter. I am still working through a lot of the emotion on my own since I have no other family to just sit with and say everything I need to say. I guess bottom line, the org., helped me to suppress so much emotion. It's what Jehovah wants us to do. Forgive and move on. Now I still don't feel anything about the apology and I should. Maybe I'll feel it tomorrow.
  I am so thankful for all of you that care and respond to my posts.
  I look forward to the future, getting married and getting away from the org. Having a life.
  so, that's the beginning of my story.....

  RC
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  Pedophiles and Child Molesters

  by Seven in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  the following is an excerpt from a book written by a new rochelle, ny.

  police detective, mark gado.

  pedophiles and child molesters: the slaughter of innocenece.

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  rollercoaster

  Excuse me, but I must tell you another side to the subject....
  Today my brother called me and apologized for molesting me 30 years ago. He was crying. He sounded very sincere, but then he said he didn't want his wife to know. It would ruin his marriage. Then I began to wonder, what kind of effect does he think it had on my life for a long time? Now I question his sincerity. I want to beleive him. We haven't talked for 13 years. So why did he call.....
  Confused......
  RC
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  I need Help.............

  by rollercoaster in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  okay hi.

  i'm new here and i kinda like it but i do have some question have any of you grown up in the truth and then some were along the line stop going to meeting well i did i found out about some stuff the organization was doing and it really disapointed me and also the congregations i have been in haven't been very confornting so if any of you have some you want to talk about or you have been through the same i would really like to hear from you .

  discombobulatedgirl

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  rollercoaster

  Hey Jez,
  Be assured that Discombobulatedgirl is going to have every opportunity to find good friends. She will only be asked and directed to find young people which influence her in a positive way. I have been encouraging her to find activities in which she will at least with a good group of Non-JWs.
  Thanks for your help. I enjoy reading the posts.

  RC
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  Birthday parties- A good idea or not????

  by nogs in

  1. social
  2. family

  i've just recently (today) booked my little girls first birthday party at mcdonalds, she went to a pals birthday party a week ago.

  well since i was brought without having any, and started bringing my daughter up that way, is it ok to do do them now we have left, i suppose now we have left it doesn't matter what we do now is it,are any other parents doing the same, i wonder?????.

  naomi.

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  rollercoaster

  I never had a party for Discombobulatedgirl, and now she's 13. I wish I could go back and celebrate each one. I will make up for it for the rest of my life. I love her so much.
  In the mean time, we are celebrating Easter. We are coloring eggs tomorrow. Starting this year, we will celebrate every day except Halloween. Just to experience all of them.
  My parents were so pleased to hear that they could send gift. My grandma cried because all she ever wanted to do was send cards to her great-granddaughter. Now my grandma is dieing of cancer with only a few months left. I kept her from ever celebrating my daughters birthday. So when do I get past the guilt?
  Anyway, HAPPY BIRTHDAY EVERYBODY!!!!!!

  RC
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  Mother-In-Law 2

  by silentlambs in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  well here it is folks the response to my wife's letter.

  i guess i have become more evil between letters.

  once again any ideas as to how to answer this type of logic?

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  rollercoaster

  My response:
  Mom,
  When you see a man molesting a child, just walk by reassuring yourself that Jehovah will punish him and console the child in the new system. Don't worry. Don't tell, and Don't look.

  Wasa, I admire your ability to think clearly when it comes to this kind of subject. I want to become my own vigilante and then I think tha kids should own guns. Not adults. That's my warped thinking!!!!
  If adults won't protect the babies, who will?
  RC
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  HELLO? HELLO? "ALL" SIGN IN???????

  by waiting in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  simon did away with the sex forum - so i must take the tradional route and post under "make new friends.

  " how mundane!.

  fyi ---- for all of us, please take the time to write a sentence or two about yourselves, and encourage new ones to do the same.

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  rollercoaster

  Hi
  O.K., here's some of my profile, I am 45, live in the NW of USA. I am inactive, and really don't want to be active ever again. Was baptized 18 years ago, df'd once, divorced and now a single parent. Found out a lot of things about the org., that I don't approve of. Discombobulatedgirl is my daughter. She's a wonderful person. (of course she should check her spelling):). I have to make new friends since I no longer talk to the JWs. (wonder why)

  Glad to meet everybody and look forward to a long friendship.

  RC
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  Let it RAINN

  by Seven in

  1. watchtower
  2. medical

  rape, abuse, & incest national network .

  1-800-hope rainnoperates the nation's only toll-free hotline for survivors of sexual assault.

  the hotline is operated 24 hours a day, and routes each call instantaneously to the rape crisis center nearest the caller by reading the area code and prefix of the caller's telephone number.

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  rollercoaster

  I know I don't want to be a JW anymore. I have been reading all the information about the child molesting and how the society ignores it's severity.
  I became a JW because I felt it would be a "safe" place. Where the people were honest,kind,and loving. I grew up being molested and abused. My step dad was supposed to be a minister. I couldn't tell.
  I thought the org., was different. Like someone would beat up and throw out a person that hurt children. I guess all of the children in the org., are at a higher risk of abuse because the org., will protect the perpetrator and just "pray" for them.
  This is all very depressing!!!!

  RC
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  Just looking for answers.

  by Texasbred in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  unfortunately, i'm not quite sure what my questions are.

  my first post was in the "dating..." forum, if anyone's interested.. the biggest problem i have is my complete ignorance concerning jw's and their beliefs/ practices.

  the research i've done has provided only polar opposite views, either jw is the way or it's a cult and it's wrong.

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  rollercoaster

  Hello Texas,
  Please don't let go of this girl. Be patient. It isn't easy to be a JW and fall in love with someone who isn't. I'm sure she will get tired of the hiding after awhile.
  My most wonderful man has waited for over 3 years for me to come to my senses. He never pressured me, and even tolerated my hiding our relationship.
  Once when I told a "friend" about my feelings for an "unbeleiver", my business dealings were threatened. I would have lost my only source of income. The JWs will do anything to keep you two apart. It is such an emotional rollercoaster. I then realized the friend really isn't a friend. It's a lot of manipulation.
  We are now planning to be married, and I am so very happy. I still am at risk of losing my business, but I'm sure there's life after the JW.
  Sincerly,
  RC
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  Should JW's and Gays Be Allowed To Adopt?

  by Englishman in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  this morning my nearest and dearest were discussing issues relating to adoption.

  a close relative of the family has been turned down as an adoptive parent because he and his wife are too wealthy!.

  the adoption people say that it is important that children have some negative input into their lives, apparently not having money worries can be bad for you.. we carried on talking and her ladyship asked me whether jw`s ever adopted children.

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  rollercoaster

  O.k. everybody, yes, JWs do adopt and sometimes it is a good experience for the child and the adoptive parents. I adopted Discombobulated girl. If you want to know the full story, let me know and I will E-mail you.
  The fact that she has been raised as a JW until now has its draw backs, but at the same time I think children adopted into any religion will someday find the backbone to get out if they don't like it. Yes getting out of a organization such as WTBTS can be a lot more difficult.

  RC